Post # 1
My fiance just got a raise and a bonus at work and we started talking about what salary would be comfortable where I could quit my job and we could start having kids.
What would your SO’s salary have to be for you to consider being a stay-at-home mom/wife or for you to do something you love regardless of the pay?
EDIT: This is not a commentary on whether you would stay-at-home or not. Everyone has different circumstances and choices. To each their own. I’m just asking what single income is comfortable. Thanks everyone 🙂
Post # 3
@MrsR2014: You need an additional poll option of “there is no amount that would make me want to be a stay at home wife” Cause that’s what I’d pick. 🙂 A stay at home mom is an entirely different can of worms, because there’s actually a reason to stay at home with kids. Staying at home as a wife? That’s just lazy (unless there are some extenuating circumstances such as health reasons)
Post # 4
I am off of work this week and Darling Husband is working. I am going out of my mind bored. I agree with @Asia:. If we had kids, I would consider being a Stay-At-Home Mom. Without kids, no way.
Post # 5
@MrsR2014: None. We don’t plan on having children and I’d be bored out of my mind. I’d also feel guilty for not contributing.
Post # 6
At least $150k. But I’d be more comfortable around $200k.
And that would be after we had kids/got pregnant.
Post # 7
Do you mean to stay at home once the baby is born? Or stay at home while TTC?
Post # 8
I would never be a stay at home wife.
In order to be a stay at home mom, I’d need him to make… probably the 80-100k range. I haven’t really given it much thought. We’re not going to be TTC anytime soon, so I haven’t looked up how much money we’ll need to comfortably raise children.
Post # 10
@MrsR2014: No salary could make me stay home. I love my career and worked hard to get here, I don’t plan on giving it up. I would be open to working part-time while baby is young, so in order to do that, Darling Husband would have to make the difference of my salary cut on top of his, which would be around $150-200k Probably not going to happen in the next 7 months, though.
Post # 11
70-90k +.. Combined we make ~75k.. But it would take more than that to be comfortable with me not working
ETA: As a Stay-At-Home Mom.. No Kids = I WILL work…
ETA (again): Even if I was a Stay-At-Home Mom, I would probably start up a home business (Miche Bags, avon..something…)
Post # 12
Over $200k. We currently make $180k combined, and honestly i’d want him to make more than that to compensate for the earning growth potential I still have in my career. We live in the bay area, and on our current salaries, we cannot afford to have 2 kids in daycare simultaneously – it’s that expensive here.
I wouldn’t stay home, though – i’d start a photography business and possibly volunteer with a dog rescue group.
Post # 13
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@MrsR2014: He would need to make $100K+ for us to have the conversation. However, I have absolutely no desire to be a Stay-At-Home Mom because I would go crazy. I already tried being a part time Stay-At-Home Mom with my stepdaughter and I was bored to death plus I didn’t get along with the other SAHMs so I was very lonely not having any social interaction other than my husband and stepdaughter. I was a very unhappy housewife.
Post # 14
@MrsR2014: I would never stay at home. I just like working and taking care of myself, or having the ability to do so is probably a more accurate statement.
But my mother never worked, she was home with us all the time. I am very grateful to have that with my mother. But for me nah…..I like working, and being away from home.
But I would never fault another for wanting to be be at home with her kids, and family.
Post # 15
it depends, I’m not yet entirely sure what the lifestyle we want will cost. However, we’d love to have one of us at home with younger children
Post # 16
I remember there was a similar topic like this that I think got closed because there were a lot of negative comments about stay-at-home moms and housewives. Just a heads up. I don’t agree with the comments above though.
I think whatever is right for your family unit or household is entirely your own business.
My mom was a stay-at-home mom and we loved it growing up. She was always up in the morning making breakfast before school, walked us to school, was there when we got home. I loved that feeling knowing my mom was always there for us. It was a great comfort. She went back to work when we starting getting older, but I think there’s nothing wrong with staying at home to raise your kids.