(Closed) How much would SO have to make for you to consider staying at home?

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: How much would your SO have to make for you to stay-st-home?
    50k-70k : (62 votes)
    12 %
    70k-90k : (75 votes)
    15 %
    90k-100k : (68 votes)
    13 %
    100k-120k : (87 votes)
    17 %
    120k-150k : (66 votes)
    13 %
    150k plus : (155 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @MrsR2014:  You need an additional poll option of “there is no amount that would make me want to be a stay at home wife” Cause that’s what I’d pick. 🙂 A stay at home mom is an entirely different can of worms, because there’s actually a reason to stay at home with kids. Staying at home as a wife? That’s just lazy (unless there are some extenuating circumstances such as health reasons)


    Post # 4
    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I am off of work this week and Darling Husband is working. I am going out of my mind bored. I agree with @Asia:. If we had kids, I would consider being a Stay-At-Home Mom. Without kids, no way.

    Post # 5
    5188 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @MrsR2014:  None. We don’t plan on having children and I’d be bored out of my mind. I’d also feel guilty for not contributing. 

    Post # 6
    9811 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    At least $150k.  But I’d be more comfortable around $200k.

    And that would be after we had kids/got pregnant.

    Post # 7
    3941 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Do you mean to stay at home once the baby is born?  Or stay at home while TTC?

    Post # 8
    5003 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I would never be a stay at home wife. 

    In order to be a stay at home mom, I’d need him to make… probably the 80-100k range. I haven’t really given it much thought. We’re not going to be TTC anytime soon, so I haven’t looked up how much money we’ll need to comfortably raise children. 

    Post # 9
    11232 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013


    Post # 10
    11746 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MrsR2014:  No salary could make me stay home. I love my career and worked hard to get here, I don’t plan on giving it up. I would be open to working part-time while baby is young, so in order to do that, Darling Husband would have to make the difference of my salary cut on top of his, which would be around $150-200k Probably not going to happen in the next 7 months, though. 


    Post # 11
    1566 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    70-90k +.. Combined we make ~75k.. But it would take more than that to be comfortable with me not working

    ETA: As a Stay-At-Home Mom.. No Kids = I WILL work…

    ETA (again): Even if I was a Stay-At-Home Mom, I would probably start up a home business (Miche Bags, avon..something…)

    Post # 12
    10363 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Over $200k. We currently make $180k combined, and honestly i’d want him to make more than that to compensate for the earning growth potential I still have in my career. We live in the bay area, and on our current salaries, we cannot afford to have 2 kids in daycare simultaneously – it’s that expensive here.

    I wouldn’t stay home, though – i’d start a photography business and possibly volunteer with a dog rescue group.


    Post # 13
    9135 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @MrsR2014:  He would need to make $100K+ for us to have the conversation.  However, I have absolutely no desire to be a Stay-At-Home Mom because I would go crazy.  I already tried being a part time Stay-At-Home Mom with my stepdaughter and I was bored to death plus I didn’t get along with the other SAHMs so I was very lonely not having any social interaction other than my husband and stepdaughter.  I was a very unhappy housewife.

    Post # 14
    1157 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsR2014:  I would never stay at home.  I just like working and taking care of myself, or having the ability to do so is probably a more accurate statement.

    But my mother never worked, she was home with us all the time.  I am very grateful to have that with my mother.  But for me nah…..I like working, and being away from home.

    But I would never fault another for wanting to be be at home with her kids, and family. 

    Post # 15
    4524 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    it depends, I’m not yet entirely sure what the lifestyle we want will cost. However, we’d love to have one of us at home with younger children

    Post # 16
    472 posts
    Helper bee

    I remember there was a similar topic like this that I think got closed because there were a lot of negative comments about stay-at-home moms and housewives. Just a heads up. I don’t agree with the comments above though. 

    I think whatever is right for your family unit or household is entirely your own business. 

    My mom was a stay-at-home mom and we loved it growing up. She was always up in the morning making breakfast before school, walked us to school, was there when we got home. I loved that feeling knowing my mom was always there for us. It was a great comfort. She went back to work when we starting getting older, but I think there’s nothing wrong with staying at home to raise your kids. 


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