(Closed) How much would SO have to make for you to consider staying at home?

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: How much would your SO have to make for you to stay-st-home?
    50k-70k : (62 votes)
    12 %
    70k-90k : (75 votes)
    15 %
    90k-100k : (68 votes)
    13 %
    100k-120k : (87 votes)
    17 %
    120k-150k : (66 votes)
    13 %
    150k plus : (155 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 197
    1218 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @MrsR2014:  None of the above, because personally, I would not stay at home even if Darling Husband earned $1 million+ per year. I love working, and while I definitely think that stay-at-home mums work their arses off, I think i would need to have a job outside of the home just to stay mentally healthy.

    Honestly, Stay-At-Home Mom would be too difficult of a job for me! I have mega respect for the women who can do it.

    Post # 198
    273 posts
    Helper bee

    I would vote for “no amount of money on earth”. I don’t plan on having kids, so there’s no reasonable reason for me to give up work just because my partner earns a lot. Unless you’re heavily into charity work or you have very young children, I think being a housewife is beyond lazy and just asking for problems in the future.

    Assuming your husband had a normal job, being a housewife would be absolutely boring anyway if you were childfree and didn’t do charity work. I couldn’t be one of those bimbos who spends all day shopping with her friends. I’d want to spend the money it on travelling and going on vacation, and you just can’t do that if your partner is working a 9-5.


    I guess the only exception is if my husband earned a HUGE amount (we’re talking hundreds of thousands) for doing very little. Then we could both spend it on travelling and holidays. That would be tempting, but even then I’d insist on working some just because financial independence is the single most important thing a woman can have.


    Post # 199
    4655 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Laughing at people who want to show off how diligent and hardworking they are saying that they MUST be productive at all times, could NEVER stay home and watch TV… I find it hard to believe that if someone said that you could quit your job, live in comfort, and do as you please, you wouldn’t take it? Am I really the only person who likes to relax at home and could do it 24/7 without complaint? Is this a character flaw I should be worried about?

    If Darling Husband wanted to support me at any income level and he was confident he could, I’d jump at it. (50-60k is about what would be necessary for that, afaik.) Working’s a pain, if I were bored and missed it so much, I’d just do volunteer/charity work. But likely I’d be quite happy to stay home and relax with quiet hobbies (reading, writing, TV) in between housework and errands and such.

    I also wonder where everyone lives that they need THAT much as a couple… 150k? 200k? Is that even within the realm of something you can imagine? I’m a little jealous of the lifestyle people must have to even dream of making and spending that much… I can’t imagine what one spends the money on. (Even when we were in NYC we calculated we could get by without stress on 65k and live comfortably and travel at around 75k… and that’s inflated due to student loan repayments!)

    I dream of being a housewife… but I don’t think it’ll ever happen for us.

    Post # 200
    10650 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Bebealways:  It’s not that we NEED that much as a couple.  We’ve lived on much less than we are currently when we were both in school, and now we’re living on just DH’s salary which isn’t that high.

    Darling Husband would just have to earn that much for me to not work as a choice.  We want to pay off our mortgage quickly, save up, do things that cost money, etc. So unless Darling Husband starts making 200k+ I would like to be bringing in money too.

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