(Closed) How much would SO have to make for you to consider staying at home?

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: How much would your SO have to make for you to stay-st-home?
    50k-70k : (62 votes)
    12 %
    70k-90k : (75 votes)
    15 %
    90k-100k : (68 votes)
    13 %
    100k-120k : (87 votes)
    17 %
    120k-150k : (66 votes)
    13 %
    150k plus : (155 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Like 35k. We’ve lived off much less.

    Post # 18
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    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsR2014:  My SO already makes about $100,000 and we could manage now if I wanted to stay at home. I work basically for my own spending money and to buy the groceries, etc, and because what the heck else would I do all day long otherwise? We don’t have kids yet but if and when we do I’m sure I will be staying home for a couple of years.

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @Asia:  you might get flagged for your lazy comment

    Post # 21
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    5659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We each make 50% of our combined salary so he’d have to get pretty much a 100% raise to make it feasible lol

    Post # 22
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    5659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @skippydarling:  Agreed

    Let’s not call people lazy who don’t do the same things we do. Just because someone chooses to be a house wife instead of work a paying job doesn’t mean they are lazy by any means.

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    There is no amount that he could make that I would stay at home.  I have been off work for 6 weeks waiting on licensing issues and I am going insane.  I have no intention of staying home with kids either after maternity leave.

    But, let’s say we are living a different life and I do not have the student loan debt I have (because really, who gets $200k of student debt to not work in the end).  He would have to make enough to cover my lost income, so probably $150k+

    Post # 24
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    1341 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2019

    He could make a million dollars and I still wouldn’t say home.

    I have no issues with SAHMs/SAHWs but it is absolutely not for me. I would get bored and depressed very quickly. Plus, I’ve been busting my ass to get my career and I’m not giving it up.

    I told him that he can stay home if he wants. (: He has considered it if/when we decide to have a kid.

    But in either case, I think one of us would have to be clearing 80K and up to live comfortably. However, where we live the cost of living is low, so it could be higher in other places.

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    200K+.  That would be about equal to our combined salaries now.  But honestly (unless we had kids) I would feel too guilty to do that, knowing that my salary on TOP of 200K would allow us to save a ton, buy a bigger place, save more for retirement, help my nieces with college, take kick-ass vacations, donate more to causes we support, etc.  SAHM?  Sure.  SAHW?  I’m all for people who do it – it doesn’t affect my life, but I would feel too guilty.

    Post # 26
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    1299 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    No matter what, I’m going to stay home until my kids are at least in kindergarten.  I work in nonprofits, so the amount that child care would cost would be equal to or larger than my salary, plus I want to be the one to take care of and raise my children.  If you’re talking about not working without children being a factor, I picked 100k or over.  I could see myself being very involved in charity work as an alternative to having a job, or selling vegan baked goods on Etsy.

    Post # 27
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    993 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    When it got to the point Darling Husband makes in a week or two what I make in a year, I decided the stress wasn’t worth it.  I work from home casually now and as much as I thought I’d never be “that girl” that is a Stay-At-Home Wife, it’s awesome. I love working at my inlaw’s farm, making all our meals from scratch, studying languages, reading for pleasure, visiting my grandpa, having a clean and organized house, volunteering, spending daytime outside (we have long winters so sunlight is a big deal)… I think its sad how judgemental people are of SAHWs and SAHMs…  

    I found working just gave me a whole lot less time and a whole lot more work/stress in both the house and in the office.  

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    I’ve been a stay at home wife for about 6 months now (my choice, for unusual extenuating circumstances and we are able to justify it financially) and I have to say I really do enjoy it. I’m able to focus on our dog and our new house, decorating, organizing, taking care of all of the chores, and managing the household accounts and budgeting. Now when he gets home, there is no laundry/dishes/cleaning/grocery shopping that he has to bother with. He can just veg out in front of the XBox. It’s working for us, but I don’t plan to keep this up long term. I hope to go back to work in the next month or two.

    I voted 100k+ to feel comfortable doing it for more than a few years, but as-is I don’t think I’d mind being a stay at home mom for the first couple years of having kid(s) at least.

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    He would need to make over $100k for me to be able to fill comfortable to stay home once we had children. I would never be able to stay at home just as a wife because I would feel guilty about not contributing and I would be bored out of my mind.

    Post # 30
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    358 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m a “stay at home” and it has absolutely NOTHING to do laziness.  I find such a statement to be completely ignorant and blanketed.  I am up every day by 6am and I manage to keep a FULL day of duties or activities.  My SO has a very stressful and high demand career and asked me to be a  “stay at home”  to support him and anything he may need.  He makes very good money and my salary (or lack there of) would not affect our quality of life. I consider myself very lucky.

     

    Post # 31
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    1157 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsR2014:  Oh I am sorry….I misunderstood.  We would have to have an income equivalent to what we have now.  So 125k or more.

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