- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Like 35k. We’ve lived off much less.
Like 35k. We’ve lived off much less.
@MrsR2014: My SO already makes about $100,000 and we could manage now if I wanted to stay at home. I work basically for my own spending money and to buy the groceries, etc, and because what the heck else would I do all day long otherwise? We don’t have kids yet but if and when we do I’m sure I will be staying home for a couple of years.
This is not a commentary on not wanting to stay at home. I personally wouldn’t want to just stay at home. Right now, both of us bring in about 150k a year and we are both just starting out. But I have a couple coworkers/friends whose wives already stay at home/ are unable to find employment. I think I would always have to work doing something as well, but I am just wondering what salary would be “enough” to live on.
We each make 50% of our combined salary so he’d have to get pretty much a 100% raise to make it feasible lol
There is no amount that he could make that I would stay at home. I have been off work for 6 weeks waiting on licensing issues and I am going insane. I have no intention of staying home with kids either after maternity leave.
But, let’s say we are living a different life and I do not have the student loan debt I have (because really, who gets $200k of student debt to not work in the end). He would have to make enough to cover my lost income, so probably $150k+
He could make a million dollars and I still wouldn’t say home.
I have no issues with SAHMs/SAHWs but it is absolutely not for me. I would get bored and depressed very quickly. Plus, I’ve been busting my ass to get my career and I’m not giving it up.
I told him that he can stay home if he wants. (: He has considered it if/when we decide to have a kid.
But in either case, I think one of us would have to be clearing 80K and up to live comfortably. However, where we live the cost of living is low, so it could be higher in other places.
200K+. That would be about equal to our combined salaries now. But honestly (unless we had kids) I would feel too guilty to do that, knowing that my salary on TOP of 200K would allow us to save a ton, buy a bigger place, save more for retirement, help my nieces with college, take kick-ass vacations, donate more to causes we support, etc. SAHM? Sure. SAHW? I’m all for people who do it – it doesn’t affect my life, but I would feel too guilty.
No matter what, I’m going to stay home until my kids are at least in kindergarten. I work in nonprofits, so the amount that child care would cost would be equal to or larger than my salary, plus I want to be the one to take care of and raise my children. If you’re talking about not working without children being a factor, I picked 100k or over. I could see myself being very involved in charity work as an alternative to having a job, or selling vegan baked goods on Etsy.
When it got to the point Darling Husband makes in a week or two what I make in a year, I decided the stress wasn’t worth it. I work from home casually now and as much as I thought I’d never be “that girl” that is a Stay-At-Home Wife, it’s awesome. I love working at my inlaw’s farm, making all our meals from scratch, studying languages, reading for pleasure, visiting my grandpa, having a clean and organized house, volunteering, spending daytime outside (we have long winters so sunlight is a big deal)… I think its sad how judgemental people are of SAHWs and SAHMs…
I found working just gave me a whole lot less time and a whole lot more work/stress in both the house and in the office.
I’ve been a stay at home wife for about 6 months now (my choice, for unusual extenuating circumstances and we are able to justify it financially) and I have to say I really do enjoy it. I’m able to focus on our dog and our new house, decorating, organizing, taking care of all of the chores, and managing the household accounts and budgeting. Now when he gets home, there is no laundry/dishes/cleaning/grocery shopping that he has to bother with. He can just veg out in front of the XBox. It’s working for us, but I don’t plan to keep this up long term. I hope to go back to work in the next month or two.
I voted 100k+ to feel comfortable doing it for more than a few years, but as-is I don’t think I’d mind being a stay at home mom for the first couple years of having kid(s) at least.
He would need to make over $100k for me to be able to fill comfortable to stay home once we had children. I would never be able to stay at home just as a wife because I would feel guilty about not contributing and I would be bored out of my mind.
I’m a “stay at home” and it has absolutely NOTHING to do laziness. I find such a statement to be completely ignorant and blanketed. I am up every day by 6am and I manage to keep a FULL day of duties or activities. My SO has a very stressful and high demand career and asked me to be a “stay at home” to support him and anything he may need. He makes very good money and my salary (or lack there of) would not affect our quality of life. I consider myself very lucky.
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