(Closed) How much would SO have to make for you to consider staying at home?

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: How much would your SO have to make for you to stay-st-home?
    50k-70k : (62 votes)
    12 %
    70k-90k : (75 votes)
    15 %
    90k-100k : (68 votes)
    13 %
    100k-120k : (87 votes)
    17 %
    120k-150k : (66 votes)
    13 %
    150k plus : (155 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 32
    6117 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If he made 50% more than we’d be at the combo salary we’re at now.


    But I feel like both of us need to work now, so we can save up and enjoy an early retirement.  If I quit working, then that would only delay retirement.

    Post # 33
    657 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    He would have to make 170k. 

    Post # 34
    10452 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Right now we make almost the same amount, over 100k each. So he’d have to be pulling in almost 250k for me to stay home and not lose our current lifestyle. We don’t want kids though so honestly it will probably never happen that I stay at home. There’s not really a reason for it, although I’d totally love to!

    Post # 36
    8440 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m a “stay at home” and it has absolutely NOTHING to do laziness.  I find such a statement to be completely ignorant and blanketed.

    @GG_Vega:  +1, I find it incredibly interesting that the judgement is very one sided when it comes to this topic.

    Post # 37
    11520 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsR2014:  for us it would depend on our living expenses.  Right now, I just got a raise and we’re comfortable, once our debt is paid off (FH has BIG student loan payments) we’ll be laughing.  For me to be comfortable staying home, the way things are right now he’d have to make at least $75,000, without the debts, $60,000.  If we had a house, we’d be around $80-90,000 before I’d be comfortable.  I’m a planner and a budgeter, I’d have to look at the numbers really carefully before I decided to leave my job and have a single income family.

    Post # 38
    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @bella128:  Ugh, that is my DREAM. Unfortunately with our student loans and my FI’s earning potential (well, lack of it…MFA in Fine Arts, ugh) its never going to be an option. I am going to live vicariously through you!

    Post # 39
    1063 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    For ME, I’d say probably $150k-$200k at minimum (we’re planning on having 3 kids, saving to send them to college, living in a major metro area, etc), but for HIM, I think it would probably closer to $300k+, since he wants to be able to do all of my things plus go on vacation, be able to buy nice cars, go out to eat, etc.

    Post # 41
    1143 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Considering we live just fine off of 30K combined a year (we both work in the food service industry, so gotta factor tips in there as well), we might have to cut out a few things, but I think we’d be fine. However, I don’t think I’d want to be a stay-at-home mom, necessarily. Even though there’d obviously be a baby to take care of, I get super bored sitting at home on my days off. There is only so many times I can vacuum or do the dishes and whatnot. The same would go for being a stay-at-home wife – I would get too bored!

    Of course, when/if we have kids, my attitude might change, and I might want to stay home with them all the time. It’s hard to say for definite right now!

    Post # 42
    317 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    I  would never stay at home but if he made $60-$70,000 I would  work a job I like. I  would work with animals all day!

    Post # 43
    892 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I hope that once we decide to have kids SO will be making enough for me to be able to stay at home with them, at least for a year. Where we live right now, 75k would be enough to do that. But we do NOT want to have kids where we live right now, so I can’t truthfully answer that because I don’t know the cost of living where we will eventually wind up. I’m going to say 125K and be optimistic though haha. 🙂

    Post # 44
    10650 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Right now, we live off of DH’s salary, but I don’t just stay at home, I’m in school.  We’re doing ok on his salary alone, even though right now I feel a little poor (from buying a house), but we are still living comfortably and have savings.

    Eventually, I do want to earn money.  I think if Darling Husband was making 200k that would be enough for me to maybe look into other things not making money.

    Post # 45
    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I voted 70-90k.  I’d be more comfortable if it were more like 100-150k, but we could be fine with 70-90 (and, in all honesty, I’m sure we could make it work for less).  I’m very thankful that Darling Husband works in a fairly high-paying field (engineering) where this will actually be a possibility.  I likely will want to go back to work some day, but I want to be a Stay-At-Home Mom while our kids are little (at least until they go to school).

    Post # 46
    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Honestly, a lot more than is on your poll.   Probably more like $250K before I would think about it.

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