(Closed) How much would SO have to make for you to consider staying at home?

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: How much would your SO have to make for you to stay-st-home?
    50k-70k : (62 votes)
    12 %
    70k-90k : (75 votes)
    15 %
    90k-100k : (68 votes)
    13 %
    100k-120k : (87 votes)
    17 %
    120k-150k : (66 votes)
    13 %
    150k plus : (155 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 47
    9681 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @MrsR2014:  He would have to make more than we make jointly now…$400,000 would be my minimum to even consider it. However, even then I’d still want to work to bring it up to over $500,000 😛 I don’t think any amount would make me do it.

    Post # 48
    521 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @oneofthesethings:  That’s how I feel, too — giving up my salary would be giving up a lot of opportunities to save, go on vacations, etc.  Stay-At-Home Mom is a different story, but for me, I wouldn’t be able to justify Stay-At-Home Wife.  I totally get and respect that it’s what works for others, though.

    Post # 49
    2902 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Well over $200k to even consider it

    Post # 50
    3184 posts
    Sugar bee


    I really want to stay home with my kids for the first few years at least. Nothing about being lazy too. I’m currently too lazy to have kids.

    Post # 51
    2389 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @GG_Vega:  I’m curious about you doing this with a boyfriend.  No judgment.  I would just be worried that I’d be left high and dry with no job or means of support since you’re not married.

    Post # 52
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    At least 25% more than what we make combined.

    Post # 53
    7438 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would never be a stay at home wife and I’m not sure if we want kids.

    But hypothetically, if we had kids and I did decide to stay home… He would have to make as much as both of us do right now combined plus some due to expanding our family by two (I would only consider staying home if we had two kids) so I guess I would want him to be making over $150k.

    Post # 54
    2389 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I find it interesting that a few decades ago (or less!) the women being judged would have been the ones who worked outside the home, and now it’s the opposite.

    Post # 55
    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We make about $90k with combined salaries, and we live comfortably and contribute to savings, so if we reached that mark with his salary alone, I would be fine with staying home to take care of kids.

    Post # 56
    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    $100k+ because that is our combined income as of now – gross not net. (I’m fresh out of graduate school and he is 2 years post bachelor’s degree.) Right now it is just the two of us and we are saving for our wedding, so if we were to throw kids into the mix – I would want to have at least $100k.

    Post # 57
    1261 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @Asia:  Whoa whoa whoa, one of my best friends is a stay at home wife, and she is one of the hardest workers I know. She is never not doing something. She keeps their house clean, organizes things, cooks, all the typicals for a stay-at-home – and also does more off-beat things like reupholstering furniture and selling it on Craigslists, dyes and spins wool into yarn (yep, that actually happens – on a spinning wheel), sews, quilts, takes care of their dog, as well as chickens and goats, and in the fall teaches a non-credit art history class a couple days a week.

    Not only is she not lazy, but if she felt like she wasn’t being productive for more than about ten minutes, she would get up and find something useful to do immediately. She loves it. She loves being a stay-at-home wife, and her husband is totally OK with it because she makes such good use of her time. There are a few people on earth for whom it is a perfect fit, and who will not use it to sit on the internet or in front of the TV. 

    Post # 58
    1531 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    He would have to make as much as we make combined now.  I voted $100-$120K – but I should have really voted $130K-$150K. 

    Post # 59
    358 posts
    Helper bee

    @oneofthesethings:  We eventually plan on getting married…right now, we “domestic partners”.  


    I do have a bachelors degree and previous work experience so if anything was to happen, there is no doubt in my mind that I will be able to find a job.  I have savings and a hefty 401K if there ever was an emergency.  I’m also listed as beneficiary on all his policies.  


    We will eventually get around to marriage, but for us its not a huge priority.

    Post # 60
    2610 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I would say over 100K, but I don’t think I would want to stay home long term.

    I also don’t think I would ever want to give up my benefits from work. So maybe even more important than how much he makes would be how good his benefits are going to be, if not so good then we’d need more income to make up for that discrepancy.

    Realistically if we do ever have kids we’ve discussed him being the one to stay at home. Partially because he can work from home and has much more flexibility with his job. I also earn twice as much and have excellent benefits so its very important that I keep my job at this point.

    Post # 61
    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    So… I was going to say Darling Husband makes about 95K with his bonus, and that’s WAY more than we need! But apparently I have really low standards?

    My Mom was SAH, and my Dad is a truck driver that makes 55K a year… And they raised 4 kids on that! And we had basically everything we could ever want– plus 10K to put towards each of out college costs.

    I only made 25k/year (preschool teacher), so losing my income was definitely not a hardship for us.

    But I think we could also live on 50K a year, with me not working, and one or two kids. Even in the Greater Boston Area!

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