Post # 47
Eh. He paid for the ring but I put much more towards the wedding. My contribution to the wedding is still greater than his plus the ring. (Just us, no help from ‘rents). I mean I don’t think any man should buy a ring they can’t afford but I do think it’s more important than like an X-box. (To some, not all).
Post # 48
Maybe around 500 when I was still a waiting bee?? I know i am getting him custom cufflinks that will cost a decent amount. Hmm…not sure, it would just depend on what he wanted and my resources.
Post # 49
Its definetly a sign of pride for the man, its a reflexion on him as well, when people look at that ring, they will think, wow Bob did a great job with that ring! or if bob makes X amount of money, they can say “wow Bob is a cheapsake”. So its not just a gift. It reflex the couple.
Post # 50
This is just wrong on so many levels. First, this is all about what other people (outsiders) think.
Post # 51
@Aquaria: I think when the waiting bees complain that he has spent money on other things when he is supposed to be saving for a ring is simply because actions speak louder than words. If you are waiting for the sole reason that he has not saved up money for a ring and then he goes and spends large sums of money frivolously it makes you wonder if he was just telling you what you wanted to hear to keep you around.
Oh, and I absolutely would spend the same amount of money on my Fiance once we are married. I would probably even do it now but besides the wedding we are really wanting for anything between now and May.
Post # 52
iv been (secretly) saving for a wedding present for my Fiance, which is a particular watch that he has admired for years, running at around £5000. Since our finances are also merged, iv been taking on overtime at work n find one or two shifts a month will cover it. It makes me proud to do this for him, and I know he will appreciate it all the more knowing I worked hard to save, just as he did for my ring 🙂 (he had worked overtime and saved with his mother for two years lol). Plus its getting engraved with the date so no excuse of forgetting 😉
Post # 53
OP took those posts out of context. I’ve seen ring regret posts that have included wishes for a bigger diamond, but I haven’t seen a waiting bee upset that they didn’t get a $10k ring. Most waiting bees would be okay with a Cracker Jack ring!
Post # 54
Just before we got engaged, I spent about $1,200 on the parts FH wanted to build his own computer. My engagement ring was less than that.
Post # 55
I agree with PP and think an engagement ring is a big status symbol. I actually had a family ring I gave to my Fiance (0.75 carat emerald cut), but he chose to buy me a brand new, much bigger ring. I have no clue of the carat or the price on the new diamond – he wanted to show me the GIA cert and I said no. I’m beyond thrilled to wear it, its a beautiful ring, and the sentiment behind him picking out something brand new himself is what adds true value to the ring in my eyes 🙂
I would spend anything within my means to buy my Fiance a gift – at this point, it would be around 5k. Although we are combining finances after the wedding, so it doesn’t really matter anymore.
And regarding diamonds being investments – they are not. The only true investment diamonds are the ones that are very unique and special. Even Kim Kardashian’s diamond took a huge hit at auction and only sold for like 50% of what they paid for it.
Post # 56
@Aquaria: I love your post. Fiance and I paid for my ring together, and honestly, he has never considered my ring as being a “point of pride” for him. It’s a pretty trinket, and it’s a traditional symbol. It’s a RING, not a child.
I am one of those bees that spent a tiiiiny smidge into the 5 figure category, but I would have never expected anyone to make this purchase for me. If my Fiance asked me for a $10,000 watch as consideration for us to join in marriage, I would look at him blankly. I never looked to him to buy a ring for me, and I also never expected him to sacrifice vacations, life experiences, or fun material things for himself just to save for my ring.
If he had a personal savings account for my ring and took money out to buy an Xbox, I wouldn’t be offended. I wanted a certain style of ring, and I contributed to making that a reality. If anything, I’m grateful to my Fiance for going along with my vision and not pointing out that objectively, diamond engagement rings are a very bad expenditure.
Post # 57
@Aquaria: I’d definitely spend several thousand on something my SO would use for his hobbies if I could afford it. I’m not stingy with my money, and I dfinitely give him gifts that cost me a nice chunk of change based on what I make (which is not very much lol) just because I love him and want him to have nice things.
Post # 58
I really didn’t expect my now husband to spend over $5K on my engagement ring but he decided to spend way more. I would have no problem treating him to a vacation for $5K. If we hit a milestone, like a 20th anniversary or his 50th birthday, I could see myself spurging and getting him a Rolex. He is a great partner and I love spoiling him.
Post # 59
I bought him an iPad, that’s about as high as I go, lol. But he spent more than I would have liked on the ring. I love it, I mean pink puffy heart adore it, but while I don’t know the exact price, I do feel a bit guilty
ETA: I’m a student and work only part time. I’m as generous as my budget allows.
Post # 60
Yes they are, my mom just traded hers in for more than she paid for it. I think you are unclear what an investment is. They appreciate, not depreciate.
Post # 61
I’m willing to spend as much as I could. I have spent over $1,000 many times for gifts especially because he likes gadgets.