(Closed) How far would you go to accomodate this photo request?

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 62
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Awesome sounds like it all worked out then :). One thing is you could ask your photographer if they could do a family portrait session *after* your wedding but at your wedding venue & how much would that be? (If you’re okay with that, your contract would have been completed & it wouldn’t be taking away from your wedding). If your uncle is just wanting a portrait just to get a family portrait, than they could just go somewhere locally.

Post # 63
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Busy Beekeeper

wow, my initial reaction would be like “um, no!”  But of course every situation is different. And since you have 2 photogs, i can see it as feasible.  to answer your question in the title, i would not go to any length (short or far) to accomodate this request. I would tell my uncle he could get pics done only if my photog is standing around doing nothing and that probably wouldnt be the case.  However, i only had one photog, i paid more for her than i ever imagined paying someone to take pictures and my contract said she would be there only for 6 – 8 hours and my timeline was tight.  

Post # 64
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Busy Beekeeper

ok, so i just looked back at the other comments. although i did not mention it before, but i also imagined telling my wedding photog about this and how uncomfortable that might be and i imagined a pro would not be ok with it….then i read the pros comments on here and it seems i was not far off in this thinking!   i also saw you have a response planned. i hope your uncle is understanding about it.

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We actually encouraged our siblings and wedding party to get a family portrait done during our family formals session since we knew that there would be extra time and we were paying to have a photographer there anyway. These folks were all there in the area so we did the various combinations of families and then my hubby and I would step out of the picture and the photographers spent a minute or so on each grouping. We’ll probably use some of these shots to frame as gifts, etc. 

But I can definitely see how the request might make you a bit nervous, especially if you don’t have the photographers there for a long time. It sounds like things are going to work out anyhow!

Post # 66
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel like it’s kind of inappropriate for him to ask that of you. The day is about you and your future husband. and I’d tell them with all due respect no.. I mean they can go to walmart and pay less than 10 dollars for a posed family picture.. Or even pay 50 bucks for a family shoot from a portrait photographer..

Post # 67
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Call me a wicked wirch, but this what I would do in your situation. Tell your uncle you will discuss it with your photographer to see if it is a viable option and your photographer said he was too busy taking photos of your wedding… but you don’t ask them. Give a heads up to the photographers! People these days!!!

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

If your uncle wants formal photos of his family, he can hire his own photographer and arrange a time to do it. Your wedding, while convenient for him, is not a convenient time for you and your photographer has a job that day that doesn’t involve taking potraits of your uncle’s family.

Post # 69
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I will agree with others that it’s taking advantage of a perfect situation for him. They’re all dressed up anyways. Really? They will never in the near future put nice clothes on again? What if aunt Sally sees Uncle Fred taking pics with his family and NOW she wants some of her with Uncle Bob and the kids, maybe grand kids too. How can you say no to Aunt Sally? Oh and by the way, since theres going to be food served I’m sure the caterer wouldn’t mind making up a “take out” plate for Granny who was to sick to come.

Yes, I’m being sarcastic and I’m sure if you don’t think there will be an issue with this then maybe it wouldn’t be a problem. When I read the title I was like “Huh?” Who would ask something like that? and honestly I’m the nicest person but I would think if my uncle asked me I would have to say no. I’d ask if my photographer could refer him to someone.

Post # 70
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

As a photographer I wouldn’t agree to this and wouldn’t leave my husband (second shooter) to do it either. I would ask your photog first, not many would. However most would be happy to do a session at a later date!

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We were taking family pictures of each other (each couple and then the entire family) during the sunset when the photographer noticed and came over to take a shot of us.  She even bribed my 6 yo nephew into getting in the picture by letting him take one picture with her big fancy camera.  So it may be the sort of thing that the photographer will want to capture anyways – and it needn’t be done at the formal picture time.

You could also ask your photographer how much $ to come half an hour early.

Post # 72
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s not that big of a deal. My SIL wanted a pic with her in laws and my Brother-In-Law and I didnt mind at all. I think the second shooter can do this at some point when there isn’t a lot going on. It will only take a few minutes and you’ll still have your one photographer in case there are photos to catch.

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MM423: I think you handled that really well. It’s tough to say no, but you held your own without being rude. I resepect that.

Post # 74
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

It would depend on which uncle asked. But I read your post and said ‘awwww’ in my head. So most likely I would say yes.

Post # 75
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Sugar bee

I dont think its that big of a deal. A lot of people rarely get dressed up and I think your uncle saw this as a nice oppurtunity for his family. I like that he added in “I don’t want to take attention away from you” so sweet.

Post # 76
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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