(Closed) How much would you expect to see the bride and groom at a destination wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 17
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@smiles4jo:  It depends on how you word it.

“FI and I will be having brunch at 9am at Paradise Pier, if we see you there, pull up a chair!”

Means if I go, I’m paying for myself.


“FI and I would like to invite you to brunch with us at 9am at Paradise Pier.”

Means, I think it’s hosted.


Or you can always go the route of:

“We’d love to get together for brunch with anyone who is in town. Why don’t we say we’ll meet up at 9am at Paradise Pier, for a non hosted get together?”


Something like that. 🙂

P.S. I’m insanely jealous of your Disney Wedding.

Post # 18
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We just had a Destination Wedding in Mexico and had aboout 20 guests. We did one event that lasted 2 hours 2 nights before the wedding. Other than that, we had dinner with some guests at times, hung out at the beach with some, had drinks with almost all, etc. We gave everyone time and space to do their own thing, but made sure to spend time with them having fun as well. We greeted almost all of them as they arrived at the hotel, etc. They were all using it as a vacation, but they were all there to see us and share in our special day.

That being said, my Destination Wedding was adults only. I am going to take a wild guess and say that yours being at Disney will involve lots of kids. Those families will probably not be too worried about bride and groom most of the time.

I would at least plan and ivite everyone to one event (a welcome party, dinner, rehearsal, or something like that). It is a great way to get everyone together and also a very nice way to sort of say thank you for coming to my wedding.

Post # 19
7111 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

While I think it would be nice I don’t think it’s necessary. I like things that are loose and don’t require people to comit. Like “we’re having drinks at xxx bar Thursday night starting at 9, if anyone would like to join us” or something along those lines.

As an aside – I used to go to a camp where we went to an amusement park every year and we all had to wear the same shirt and whoever wanted to would meet at a certain ride at a certain time and we would have an entire roller coaster filled with camp kids. It made for great pictures. But then I doubt you’ll be making matching wedding T shirts. But it would still make for an awesome picture: You two in the first car and all your guests in the cars behind…..

Post # 20
29 posts
  • Wedding: August 2008

Hi!I had a destination wedding and we planned a few events, that of course were optional. My parents threw a very casual dinner two days before the wedding for those we knew that were in town. The next night, we invited everyone attending the wedding to a rehearsal dinner that my in-laws through. Again, it was casual (at an Irish pub!) but a lot of fun. We had the wedding the following day and then a brunch from 9-12 the day after the wedding – the brunch was like show up if you want and whenever you can sort of thing. 

Here are my thoughts – people can do whatever they wanted during the day (you will be at Disney after all!) and if they want to enjoy your extra events, you have included them and it’s then up to them.

I travelled across the country to a friend’s wedding a couple year’s back and only saw her at the wedding, where everyone was fighting for her attention. The wedding was beautiful and the trip a lot of fun, but it would have been nice to be able to spend some more time with her knowing how far we had come (and these people are spending a lot of money, too, to be there). 

All these events made our wedding so much more special – we were able to spend time with everyone that traveled from all over and it was all people that we LOVE. Our families got to know each other better and it made for the actual wedding, which flys by in a flash, that much more fun and social since so many people knew each other. Also, I knew that if I didn’t chat with someone much at the wedding itself, I had spent some other amount of time with them that weekend. It made it much more than a wedding weekend than just a day and I wouldn’t trade it for the world! 

Hope that helps and best of luck! 

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