How much would you gift your sibling who is getting married for the 2nd time?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll:
    $100-200 : (27 votes)
    57 %
    $200-300 : (5 votes)
    11 %
    >$300 : (15 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 16
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    134 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Don’t think about the part that it is his second marriage. Just give what you can afford.

    Post # 17
    Member
    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Thunderstorm :  your comparison with a baby shower is just incorrect. the gifts at a baby shower are not gifts “for the child” – the gifts are for the parents, to help prepare them for having a child (since they presumably don’t have a lot of this stuff already). the reason why a baby shower for a second child is frowned upon is because, presumable, since the parents have already had one child they should already have most of the items necessary to care for the new baby.

    a gift for a wedding, on the other hand, is more similar to a birthday or graduation gift. it’s a gift given as a celebration/congratulations on a life milestone.

    Post # 18
    Member
    119 posts
    Blushing bee

    catskillbride :  A lot of people’s wedding gifts are to “prepare” for married life. People get toasters, bed sheets, dishes, party platters, vacuums etc. 

    Post # 19
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    2005 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Thunderstorm :  Regardless, I think it’s presumptuous to assume that Person X got Y and Z as previous wedding gifts and therefore shouldn’e be celebrated. You don’t know what the situation was. Maybe their first marriage they had no showers, or received no gifts, or maybe in the divorce the ex took 95% of the things. Who knows, who cares? Doesn’t matter. I think you (general you) should gift what you’re comfortable with and nothing more, creating an inventory of what they *might* have received in marriage #1 is not your place.

     

    Post # 20
    Member
    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Thunderstorm :  are we still stuck in 1950? certainly, that was the case at one point (when couples didn’t live together before marriage), but times have changed. people get couples all sorts of gifts these days – from cash, to spa services, to wine subscriptions, to camping equipment. yes, household wares are still part of the equation…mainly because couples register for them, and so guests assume that the couple wants it. but you’ll notice that there is a move away from housewares as the sole wedding-appropriate gifts to just about anything under the sun, as wedding gifts have shifted from “preparing a couple for married life” to celebrating their life milestone.

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