(Closed) How much would you give?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Holy crap!!!! $500???? Would you all like to come to MY wedding?? LOL!! That would be unheard of where I come from so clearly there’s a regional or some other factor at play. $50-$100 would be the norm here… 

Post # 17
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We give in the $300 range if one of us is in the bridal party. Doesn’t matter if there’s travel involved. Otherwise, usually around $200. I’ve never given less than $150 at a wedding. 

Post # 18
670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think 200-250, probably 250 since they are close friends.

Post # 19
1262 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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MissPoutine:  honestly whatever you are comfortable with. I give 150, 200 if we are sure close. If it’s just a coworker or whatever, i pick a couple things from their registry.

Post # 20
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would give $200

Post # 21
2909 posts
Sugar bee

I think $200 is very generous and appropriate for close friends or family.

Post # 22
804 posts
Busy bee

The last wedding I was in, I gave the equivalent of ~$416 as part of a couple…makes me a bit sick to think of it but they gave us accom for the night of, so I figured that was part of it.

Post # 23
8469 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Is he nuts?!

Take $500, deduct what it’s costing you to get there, & give around that. 

Don’t go a dime over $200!

Post # 24
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

If they are best friends then you should be giving more than $200. I gifted my best friend her limo rental for 5 hours plus $200 in a card. We always give $200 as a gift for a wedding no matter who is paying for it.  Try to cover your meal and beverages at least

Post # 25
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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MissPoutine:  In my area its normal to spend $50-100 as well for a wedding gift if giving cash. $500 is more along the lines of family/parents. My fiance gave a $200 gift to one of his good friends that he stood in their wedding that cost around $1000 which was before the gift (his friend lives 2 hours away so that includes transportation, tux rental, bachelor party, rehersal dinner etc). Around here most people just follow the cover your plate cost as a gift guide. I would say give within your means. 

Post # 26
7514 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you should gift whatever you are comfortable with and your budget allows. Maybe buy something off the registry if you feel unsure about how much to gift in cash.

I think so many different factors come into play. We normally gift around $200 for weddings. However, we’ve certainly gifted more for closer friends. This past summer we gifted $500 to another couple we are very close with. They’re much younger than us, and like our “littler brother & sister couple”..lol. We gifted our very best friends with an excursion on their honeymoon that was valued around $1500. Those are extream cases.

However, we had several gifts over $200 at our own wedding. At least 3 people (family friends) gifted us $1,000, a few more in the $2-500 range, and then the rest a little smaller.

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