(Closed) How much would you spend on a BM dress?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I think it’s in poor taste to just tell your bridesmaid, hey you have to spend 150 on this dress. My friend did that with me for her $180 dress she has us all in. We all obliged, but I just think it’s rude and inconsiderate. (I’d just had an unexpected surgery and my medical bills were really high)

Not everyone is in the same financial situation, and we all have responsibilities of our own. She never even sent us a text message asking “is $180 something you all can afford?”

Brides tend to think its their day and they can do what they want, but in reality you asked them to be your bridesmaid, and I think you have a responsibility to pick something affordable or pay for it for them. Raise your voice and just express your concern that it may be a little too much for you right now.

Post # 17
2453 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I would spend $150.  I would possibly bump it up to $200 for a dress I love.

Just talk to your sister and be honest that you were caught unawares.  (This assumes yyou did not know she was getting married so soon.)

Post # 18
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yikes, that’s definitely not a great situation for you, OP! Would your parents help you out and/or loan you the money? My sister/MOH is still in college so my parents are helping her out quite a bit…not sure of your family dynamics, but it might be worth a shot!

To answer your question, I would spend $250-$300 but I definitely can understand how that would be more challenging with such short notice!

Post # 19
580 posts
Busy bee

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Less than 200 (preferably after taxes). Ideally less than that, but I’d be willing to pay up to $200.

Post # 20
5866 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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amelliafay: For me, for the dress only:

At <$100 – I would consider myself lukcy.

At <$200 – I would think this is normal.

At <$300 – Your pushing it, but I would grin and bear it.

at >$300 – I would put my foot down and say no way.

I’m not tight on cash, so my numbers are just based on what I think is reasonable (read: very subjective).  I am one of those ladies who hates the whole idea of bridesmaid dresses to begin with so the whole thing kind of burns my biscuits.  


Post # 21
59 posts
Worker bee

My girls are paying $240 for theirs, and no one needed alterations except 1. I knew it was on the pricier side, but I didn’t think it was awful? I would spend that for my friends weddings. I think over $300 is steep

Post # 22
4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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amelliafay:  Money is completely relative. $150 is not the same to everyone. The bottom line is, you can only afford what you can afford. Search the web for similar and cost efficient styles or ask her if you can select a different dress. Be honest about your concern over the price. 

For me, $150 before alterations seems pretty standard. I have spent as much as $275 on a dress, however, and I wasn’t all too happy. I just purchased a dress for $99 from David’s Bridal, but it needs a total overhaul of alterations, meaning I will probably spend another $100 before all is said and done. 

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