(Closed) How much would your SO have to earn for you to be a SAHM?

posted 9 years ago in TTC
Post # 4
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Sadly, probably in the area of $150K a year. 

Post # 3
6980 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

About $6,500 after taxes, minimum. (although even at that point I’d probably feel badly that I wasn’t working because if I was able to work then we could put a lot more money into savings for our future and our kids’ future… so I guess the 6500 would be to maintain our current lifestyle. For me to ACTUALLY fee comfortable not working at all? He would have to be making an incredible amount of money. Like $15k/mo after taxes).

Post # 5
1534 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

post tax? probably an additional 30-35 grand. which would equal out to be probably about $100-$110 pre tax total (essential our combined income). It’ll probably never happen, but i’m ok with that.


ETA: oh…that was annual. Monthly, an additional $3000, so…close to $8000 total on a monthly basis post tax

Post # 6
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

To live our current life at the moment, and pay for a child’s expenses?  About $200-250K/year.

Post # 7
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is very dependant on where you live so I’m sure you’ll see varied amounts.

Once we have a baby I will be a SAMH. My DH makes about $100k (after taxes) a year so about $8,300 montlhy and we will be able to maintain our current lifestyle comfortably on that amount.

Post # 8
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

$150K plus a year. We also live in an expensive city. We certianly don’t live extravagantly, but we want some nice things and to live somewhere nice and to not have to worry about money on every purchase.

Post # 9
1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Most people around here make around 20,000 if they have one person staying home. It’s very cheap here (Oregon) compared to a big city though. You can rent a 2-3 bedroom house for like 650.00 so It’s doable.

Edit: I meant 20,000 a year lol not a month. It’d have to be like 2,000 a month for me to do it I suppose. Have to pay rent, bills,food, diapers, go out, etc.

Post # 10
1297 posts
Bumble bee

I would say about $7500-8000 a month after taxes, which I’m guessing would be about $150k a year.

Post # 11
8247 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We want DH to be making alone what we both make combined now for me to be comfortable being a Stay-At-Home Mom.

So that would be a take-home income of a little over $6000 a month.

Post # 12
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

at least $250k+

Post # 13
2223 posts
Buzzing bee

He’d have to bring home 6,500 a month AFTER taxes. At the moment I make double what he does and he doesn’t make make anything near that and I have greater potential to make significantly more in the next year so there is a great chance that he may become a Stay-At-Home Dad. 

Post # 14
5879 posts
Bee Keeper

A minimum of $100K+ (and a good chunk saved in the bank). thats not to say we couldn’t make it work on less, because plenty of families do it all the time. But I don’t want to have to struggle and here in NY its hard to be comfortable on less. Frankly we are currently pretty much under that figure but once kids are in the mix, I would want (vs need) to be above that.

Post # 15
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t want to change my standard of living, so probably our combined incomes now, so maybe $150,000 a year?  It’s only that high because I wouldn’t want to let our standard of living slip.  In our area of the country, we could get away with $30,000, but we’d be renting, not traveling, living on Goodwill clothes, etc.  

But in reality, I am not planning on quitting my job, no matter how much he makes.

Post # 16
1082 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

About 100,000 pre-taxes — but only if it was for a year or two.  Otherwise we’ll need to make more so we can save enough for retirement.

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