Post # 1
I am currently 24 weeks along with my first, and really haven’t been letting myself stress over the future too much. Just planning and researching and praying for a smooth delivery and healthy baby.
On New Years Eve, though, we had friends lose their 3 month old baby overnight to SIDS. It was their 3rd child, he was completely healthy, but just did not wake up. His funeral is tomorrow and they are, understandably, devestated.
I’ve always heard about SIDS, have skimmed over the chapters in my baby books, but because I have never known anyone who has lost a child to it, I just didn’t think about it too much. Now I cannot stop thinking about it. I am so heartbroken for them and have cried multiple times this week just thinking about how quickly he was gone. It has spurred this new fear in me and I cannot stop researching breathing monitors and crib mattresses and pretty much anything that might attribute to keeping my baby alive. I’m trying not to dwell on it, but it’s pretty difficult.
So, is anyone else super worried about SIDS? Hopefully this fear will subside a little before our baby makes his appearance.
Post # 3
I worry about everything so when I hear something like this it def scares me. Just try and think of all the healthy babies you know and the odds are in your favor. “More than 99% of children born alive will not die from SIDS.” http://www.sidsfamilies.com/index.php?sec=sidsinfo
I am so sorry about your friends. That is truly heartbreaking!
Post # 4
Not that it makes you feel any better because it’s a horrible thing, but approximately 3,000 babies die a year from SIDS. When you consider the amount of babies born each year, it’s not that many. Granted, one is too many.
You can get an AngelCare monitor. I don’t have one, we can’t afford it, but I know several people have talked about having one.
Just to shed some light on something most people don’t realize, 12 times more babies are stillborn than die from SIDS, yet there is more research about SIDS than stillbirth.
Post # 5
PM me if you want to talk about it and preventative measures, I have some experience in this unfortunately but I don’t talk about it on the boards.
Post # 6
Although maybe it will change when I’m pregnant or have an infant, SIDS isn’t something I would worry a ton about. Yes – it is completely devasting when it happens but the chances of it affecting you and your child are so small in the grand scheme of everything that it isn’t something that I would spend my energy stressing over.
I’m so sorry that it has hit close to home though and I definitely feel for your friends.
Post # 7
OP, you can PM if you want to talk, but yes, I worry about it a lot.
Post # 8
Not having been affected by it, or know anyone personally who has, it’s on my radar but not a huge point of worry for me right now (20 weeks). I’m planning to follow the main recommendations for preventing SIDS (the right sheets, no crib bumpers, etc.) but hope to not stress too much about it. And I’m also pretty wary of the various monitors out there. Some of the new video monitors pose even more of a risk if they have cords because the baby can reach up, get tangled and suffocate. So I guess I’m more of a “remove what might cause SIDS/strangulation” than a “find out what I can add to the nursery to prevent SIDS” kind of mom right now.
Post # 9
@Goldilocks1107: That’s why I liked the Angel Care monitor. It’s a censor pad that goes under the crib mattress to monitor breathing, movement and temperature. It isn’t near or touching the baby.
Post # 10
I have never been overly worried about it. I have taken the precautions (back to sleep, no crib bumper, no blankets or pillow in the crib), but I haven’t done anything serious. I know it is a terribly scary thing and devastating to the families. But in all honesty, I think I worry about having a major car accident with a fatality more than SIDS, and I still drive of course.
Post # 11
Thanks for talking with me, ladies. I am feeling a bit better about it, and just arming myself with lots of info. Hopefully the funeral won’t absolutely terrify me.
I know it’s rare and my chances are good that things will be fine, but I still think knowledge is a powerful thing and it’s better to be prepared than to pretend it can’t happen.
Post # 12
A baby dying of actual SIDS is very very rare. A lot of times it is suffication, and it is just lumped in with SIDS. They are two different things. For SIDS-SUDDEN infant death syndrom-there is no reason. Babies getting stuck against bumpers, or something like that is suffication.
Post # 13
I know how rare it is and I am still TERRIFIED. Liv is 5.5 months old and she JUST started sleeping on her belly, which Im only allowing because we have the AngelCare Monitor. That thing is seriously the only reason I sleep easy at night.
Post # 14
I am so sorry for your friends lose, SIDS terrifies me. I have a 3 week old and have become so anxious over SIDS. When I was preggo I didn’t think about it or dwell on it at all. But a week after DS was born I started to really focus an freak about it. I am doing everything that it says but I am still a wreck over it and I make myself sick worryng about it.
Now my DS refuses to sleep on his back so it’s making me even more of a wreck, I have had tons of sleepness nights holding him.
I do realize that it’s rare but I feel like I ALWAYS see and hear stories of babies dying from SIDS. I got the Angel Care but haven’t used it yet since DS won’t sleep in his bassinet.
Post # 15
My dad’s first baby passed from SIDS. He had my sister and I on a heart monitor when we were babies.
Post # 16
I think that once you come home with a new born its normal to worry about it. I try to just be positive and pray for the best, not much else I can do really.