- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I’ve noticed a cycle of behaviour that my husband and I go through, and I’m wondering if others experience this too, or if maybe we are in trouble. Looking for some outside perpective…
My husband and I will have an argument – based on my need for more childcare help with our son. I work full time and do 90% of the childcare at home to our busy toddler unless for some reason I’m not home and then my husband takes care of him with no problem
I should say that my husband also works full time very long hours, does his fair share of house maintenance, manages our finances, and cleans up around the house very often.
But when my husband and I are home together, he defaults to me for childcare and will often not intiate. He’s busy with ‘other’ things that he thinks need to get done. It starts to build up which I can find very draining and eventually I reach my burn out point.
We will argue, then talk it out, and then make a plan for specific ways my husband can offer help that would make a real difference to me and lighten my load and stress levels…
First : My husband does these things without asking for a while (could be weeks/months…) = happy wife, happy home
Then : At some point though, he stops doing these things, and I have to start asking him to do them = frustrated wife
Next : Get sick of having to ask him to do those things and wonders why he is verbally prompt dependent = stressed overworked wife
Last : I lose all my patience, feel completely drained, blow up at him = burned out wife, tense unhappy home
And then we have that argument, then talk it out and once again the same cycle starts over again.
Does this sound like normal parenting and marriage stuff or are we really in trouble here?
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