(Closed) How not to be a starter wife…. Article

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Great article!  It’s so true that we live in a throw away society and so many people expect things to be completley perfect and will leave if it isn’t.  Marriage takes work and will never be 100% perfect.  But it’s worth the work!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

great article! Thank you for sharing it! I do think it is important to remember that a marriage isnt going to be perfect, but its about working together through the difficult times that makes it all worth it.

Post # 5
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283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That was a good article.  Thanks for sharing.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Really interesting!! The part I found most interesting was the reason they say that couples who live together before marriage are more likely to divorce (because once you live together you have more to lose by breaking up and you’re more likely to get married even if it is wrong than if you were just dating). I have always heard the statistic that couples that live together first are more likely to get divorced and I couldn’t think of any possible explanation for that. Its nice to finally have some kind of cause/effect to tie to the statistic. 

 

I also like how realistic it is, because that is exactly how I view marriage. It isn’t all sunshine and puppies, its work. I don’t believe in soulmates and I don’t believe that if it isn’t easy it isn’t worth it. So far I’m very blessed that my relationship with Fiance has been pretty easy… but I don’t expect us not to have bumps in the road. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I like that obviously we know we all have the same complications in our lives adn in our marriages sometimes. Lets face it, there isn’t a single couple out there that doesn’t fight, and if there is, they dont fight because they don’t talk- no one agrees on everything.

3M- I like the comment you made in your post “marriage isnt all rainbows and butterflies”..

it reminded immediately of one of my favorite verses from a Maroon5 song – “it’s not always rainbows and butterflies, it’s compromise that moves us along”

and it’s soo true! in order to make our marriages work and to appreciate eachother to the fullest we have to make compromises sometimes, because we can’t always win the fight. and marriage is worth working through those arguments adn slightly saddening times to make it stronger. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Good article.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I really liked that article!  I feel like I should email it to all of the married people or almost married that I know, and those that are just in the process of considering marriage. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

@CorgiTales – “It isn’t all sunshine and puppies, its work.”  I TOTALLY don’t mind doing the work, but if my marriage could involve some puppies, I’d be a happy girl.  I love puppies. 

But seriously, folks.  Great article!  I sent it to Fiance, because I think it’s a good conversation starter!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I really liked that article!  I feel like I should email it to all of the married people or almost married that I know, and those that are just in the process of considering marriage. 

Post # 12
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I liked this line:

“Women now place more of a premium on being fulfilled in their marriages—having their dreams for intimacy, for sexual satisfaction, for challenge, all wrapped up into their marriage,” he says. “That’s a hard order to fill, and these people are likely to end up on the rocks because they learn pretty quickly that no one person is capable of delivering all their deepest hopes for meaning and purpose and happiness.”

 

I see this problem in a lot of relationships. Good reminder 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

it’s blocked at my job (“Adult Content” – ?) but i’ll be reading this later!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I love this article. Thanks so much for sharing!

I’m not sure what would make younger couples have a more realistic perspective on marriage, which is sad. One day, I would really like to see dovroce rates decline, and if the cause of most divorces is unrealistic expectations, then that makes me really sad!

Post # 15
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s probably blocked because I’m sure there are sex related articles on Women’s Health.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I read this and will be sharing it with my Fiance later. We could use the reminder that being hit with “a series of unfortunate events” doesn’t mean we don’t have a solid good relationship. It’s easy to slide so deep into “woe is me” and “me me me” that you forget that ALL relationships are a struggle at times…and that’s normal.

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