(Closed) How not to cry..

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Try to think of something that has no emotional trigger like pine trees, bubble gum, or socks. Or try to just breathe and smile and focus on your fiance instead of listening to the words!?! Yikes I dont know! I have been crying just watching Say Yes to the Dress and my Fair wedding recently!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It seems like if you normally cry at weddings the only way you are going to keep from crying is by divorcing yourself from your emotions and what is happening which I don’t think is a good option.  It seems like it would be better to be fully present and engaged in your day, use waterproof makeup and accept that you are going to cry.  I am totally going to cry during the vows and I am okay with that.  I think most brides cry at some point on their wedding day.  Its an overwhelming, emotional important day.  There’s no shame in it.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Xanax. I am seriously thinking about taking something on my wedding day so I can enjoy the ceremony without being a disaster.

One suggestion I hear a lot that I think is a bad idea is repeating something under your breath (I vaguely remember this happening on an ep of Four Weddings) the bride just ends up looking silly.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

One of the best things you can do is actually to swallow, I’ve heard. I don’t think you should remove yourself from your emotions (that’s the whole reason behind this day!), but supposedly swallowing your saliva helps your body not cry. Worth a try!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Breathe in, breathe out and just remember to enjoy it!  I’ve always been a crier as well (any wedding shows, movies…even when my Fiance and I talk about the wedding ceremony I get choked up).  I’ve thought alot about this for myself, too, and I think in the long run you’ll regret trying to seperate your emotions or holding them back.  Take it all in…this only happens once!  If that makes you cry, then so be it!  It’s a beautiful, emotional day and I’m sure you won’t be the only one crying!! =D

Post # 8
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m fine just so I don’t see my parents crying. I will try not to look at them during the ceremony.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’ve just made peace with the fact that I’m going to cry. A lot. I cry during ASPCA commercials, I cry almost all the way through Extreme Makeover: Home Edition, I always cry at the end of Whose Wedding Is It Anyway? There is no way I’ll make it through my own wedding… someone I actually know and happen to like! I’m toast.

Oh and LGenz, I saw that episode of 4 weddings and it did look silly. I can’t remember what she was whispering, but it just looked like she was a bit cuckoo-bananas.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Everyone cried like babies at my wedding–me, my husband, my parents, our entire wedding party, most of the people in the crowd.  It was ridiculous.  We embraced it and just let those emotions flow over us.  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m with @mrsmdphd – just go with it.  We all cried and cried.  It was actually sweet and touching that so many people were moved with the emotions of the day.  Just embrace it.  As my Maid/Matron of Honor would say – love it, hug it, and move on.  LOL

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Clear your throat when it feels like you are on the verge of crying – seriously, it works, I learned the technique from another NICU nurse I work with (because we see a lot of sad stuff, and a crying nurse doesn’t help anyone). I used the technique at my wedding, and the only time it failed me was when I was saying my vows and got caught on the last line!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

I just want to point out to you, that you may not cry like you expect to.  I am a HUGE wedding crier… I’m sobbing as soon as the bride and her dad walk out.  Do it every time.  I cry about everything, kodak commercials, cute puppies, you name it.  At my wedding… I was never close to tears.  I was just so HAPPY.. I couldn’t stop smiling.  And the same exact thing happened to my girlfriend who got married last weekend.  She swore to me she would be sobbing but she never did.  Just something to think about.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

I was crying until I started to laugh, and then I was fine throughout the whole thing.  I don’t understand the not wanting to cry at your wedding- those are the sweetest pictures, even those brides who have an “ugly cry” face. 

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