- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
First off let me start by saying that I LOVE kids and I can’t wait to start trying for a baby myself. I even work with children. I spend all of my working days around children of all ages. I’m not an ogre, really!
..But I don’t want babies at my wedding. There are lots of reasons, but the main one is that I’ve been to SO MANY weddings where there have been children under 1 who have cried through the entire ceremony and it makes me Cringe with a capital C. Our wedding is in an absolutely enormous church where even a pin drop echoes loudly, so I can’t imagine having a child (or more than one!!) crying in there. I’m worried I won’t be able to hear myself speak my vows, or hear Mr Rose’s vows when he’s speaking to me. It’s a formal ceremony, and we’ve paid a lot of money for photography/videography. I know the photos won’t be affected at all, but we’re having two cameramen to film the wedding from different shots and hopefully capture every little bit of the wedding so I won’t forget a thing. And I hate, hate, hate the thought of having a baby crying/screaming on there. There’s no way they can edit it out, and I can’t rely on my guests to take out their children should they start making a lot of noise. Last of all, I just don’t want babies/children running around. IDK why, maybe it’s because I spend so much time chasing kids around at work, but I just want the whole thing to feel civilized, formal, classy..and I don’t envision children being part of this part of the wedding.
So Mr Rose informed my Future Mother-In-Law of the plans of having limited numbers of kids at the wedding and she kicked off big time. We need to invite kids, or their parents, AND my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law won’t be attending the wedding. We need to have a serious think, we need to call the venue and make sure they put out high chairs for the babies.
WHAT?! I’ve spent so, so much time working my ASS off to pay for the wedding and get it exactly the way Mr Rose and I want it. We’ve spent a huge chunk of the budget paying for venue decor so that hopefully, the wedding breakfast room, looks absolutely breathtaking as people walk in. She said we’re going to offend people, and we are point blank wrong, and that children make a wedding.
I really don’t mind if people want to bring their babies/children after the speeches are over. I don’t mind having kids there during the band playing, or people dancing, or whatever. I just want the ceremony, and the wedding breakfast, to be calm, civilized, formal. I’m not saying that weddings can’t be any of those things with children present, but I just don’t envision having kids there. I’m not a bad person, I swear. Mr Rose’s best man has a 3 year old, but I can count on her mother not to let her misbehave or make a lot of noise. One of my BMs has a daughter, but she’s 8 and really well behaved and grown up. And a close relative will have a 2 year old, but she’s already offered not to bring her, since SHE herself had a no-kids wedding too a few years ago.
As it stands there will be a relative with a 5 month old baby there, and one of the ushers will have a 9 month old. I know this probably seems like a tiny, tiny little thing to so many of you..and I know babies are babies and they act a certain way and it’s not being ‘naughty’ or whatever, so please don’t think badly of me for wanting a kids free wedding. I just don’t know where to go from here. I don’t want to offend anyone, but we’re paying for the wedding entirely by ourselves, and at the same time, I feel like, why shouldn’t we have what we want? I’m not a parent yet, but I can’t imagine wanting to bring a 5 month old to a wedding in the future..
OK bees, help?