(Closed) How offended should I be? MIL rant!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@RVG1010:  No you aren’t overreacting.  Nevermind trying to control your finances, she’s turning it into a racial issue?  Sounds like a whackjob.

At least your husband is on your side…

Post # 4
6215 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I would be ridiculously offended, how dare she say that to you?

Post # 5
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t see what the big deal is, cash or check, as long as she gave you the money and the check didn’t bounce. But the fact that she made it a racial issue is completely NOT ok!!! So no, you’re not overreacting. She took it in a direction that is unacceptable. Sorry she did that!! 🙁

Post # 6
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@RVG1010:  umm… That’s what Mexicans do? I probably would have been like “no bitch. Mexicans slash people’s tires who take their money.”

Post # 7
5221 posts
Bee Keeper

@RVG1010:  How offended should I be?

Well to answer your question, as offended as you want to be I suppose. She handled the situation poorly, your Darling Husband stepped in where appropriate and hopefully will continue to remind her where her place is in your lives/finances.

On the racial note, I would imagine that a frank disussion between you, her and your Darling Husband should happen in order to make sure she understands that no matter her prejudices– she (1) needs to keep them to herself if she wants to keep the family unit in tact (2) understand that financial responsibility isn’t limited to one people group, people are responsible or irresponsible in every race/culture and (3) if she continues on these rants or racially charged ” interventions” on your financial behalf, you and Darling Husband will be forced to re-evaluate how much interaction she has in your day to day lives.

Last- I wouldn’t make a donation in her name for spite… don’t stoop to her level. Take that money ( when you finally get it) and put it towards something you and Darling Husband both want/need.


Post # 8
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow, this is just me but I would have a REALLY hard time keeping my mouth shut. I would so bitch at her!

Post # 9
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow!!! I would have slapped her!!!! I am pissed for you!!

Post # 10
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013


I would have your husband call her and tell her that her racism is totally out of line. WTF.

@Mrs_Amanda:  agree with the discussion, especially over how if she can’t tone it down she’ll be less involved in your lives. And especially in the lives of any future children. You’re a grown woman and understand that racism is wrong, but your children will be half your race, and I would hate to see them facing prejudice from their GRANDMOTHER due to their racial makeup. eugh. racism is gross.

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