(Closed) How offended should I/we be?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I honestly don’t think being offended will gain you anything. And your Dad may actually benefit from you taking it in stride, since you being upset will amplify how upset he already is. 

Clearly what they’ve done is a jerky, disrespectful thing to do to family – not only planning the trip for during your wedding, but then announcing it your shower 🙁  I’d let it go, though. 

However – I’d say you’re all TOTALLY off the hook for any further wedding business from their family, should his daughter ever get married again!!

Post # 4
Member
2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I dunno, I mean you said yourself you aren’t that close to them…..I don’t necessarily think the shower was the best time, but the flip side is that maybe they wanted to tell you in person?

Plus, they might have chosen this time for a specific reason…maybe they could only get vacation time at certain times, or the dates are meaningful to them….who knows.

I wouldn;t be too offended-like you said, it just leaves more room for your friends 🙂

Post # 5
Member
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ohhhh here we are! Same boat. My entire family, one by one…slowly..has decided NOT to attend our wedding. Uncle and aunt “We are also off that week and want to work on the house” Cousin- My boyfriend’s family invited me to a different beach the week before your wedding, (this was just last week!!!) grandparents-we were thinking about going to Hawaii…(last week changed to Myrtle Beach)…this is ridiculous?!!? Why did I even send Save-The-Date Cards out?!?! And now it’s time to send our invites and should I even bother? I know having a destination wedding can cause a hinderance to others, but these were all the same people who thought it was a great idea until the stds went out!! And hello, it is at the beach! The place everyone wants to go?!?

Just go about your business. I can say that, but in reality I am doing exactly what your dad says. I’m done with these people. I go to their functions, listen to their grief when I moved away, STILL make the 7 hour trip to go to their functions, it isn’t enough, it never has been, so I’m out! Make your decision one you can live with and good luck!

 

Also, congrats on getting a shower! No one in my family stepped up so my STEP sister (she is older and we didn’t grow up together) finally did…no one else has bothered to help her.

Bitter, maybe.

Post # 7
Member
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

While I was reading it I was preparing for it to be a joke….crappy timing..they could have called.

 

Post # 9
Member
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think its weird that he felt the need to tell you at your shower, but I would probably shrug it off.

Post # 13
Member
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

So, while I think your dad has a right to be angry (it is after all his brother who is ditching out) and he picked some pretty crappy timing to announce it (he could have called rather than making it this big production at your shower), I don’t think that you really can be all that offended. I mean, people can’t plan their lives around your wedding. It just doesn’t work that way. It seems like you’re totally fine with it, and I totally get why your dad is angry. I’d be pretty angry if I were him too…but that’s for the two of them to work out between them. I’d stay out of it!!

Post # 14
Member
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsDrRose612:  Its weird….you mentioned that you are not especially close to this side of the family, but is your dad close to his brother? If so, I would suspect his wife. Sucks for your dad, but he will probably lose steam over it if he sees that you are taking it in stride.

The topic ‘How offended should I/we be?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors