(Closed) How often are first babies overdue?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsBeck:  I would not count on her being there. She will have just given birth, and it would be extremely unlikely that she could drive three hours with a newborn, let alone be able to be an active part of your wedding.

At this point, I’d plan to send her flowers next week. 🙂

Post # 4
2227 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

It definitely sounds like her baby is coming long before your wedding!! I wouldn’t get my hopes up on her making it if I were you.

Post # 5
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Lost of babes are born in the two week period after their due date. Think you’re out of luck with regards to having here there!


Personally, I definetly wouldn’t drive three hours if I was 40+weeks pregnant or with a very young babe. Methinks!


Post # 6
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i think driving 3 hours just after having a baby is quite a lot. also often people dont want to expose newborns to germs at an event. ultimately i think itll depend hwo she feels – tiredness, tearing during birth etc. i wouldnt count on her making it

Post # 8
9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lol, Babies have a MIND of their own, literally… and come when THEY DECIDE

Very few Babies come when they are actually “due”

As determined by the Medical field (where Due = Due Date)

Altho many a Dr will tell you that this is because the truth about determing a babies “age invitro” is more guesstimate than full-on science

So miscalculations are common

Here tho a link that tells you what statistics show in regards to a Baby’s Arrival / Birth vs what was the medically projected Due Date

It shows that most babies are actually born EARLY than late.


Hope this helps,

PS… I was a very young and active Mom… and IF I was in the situation you’ve described (so close to the due date) and having such signs as having lost “the plug”/ dialated … I can tell you I would not have run the risk of driving 3 Hours from my home area & hospital.  AND if the baby was to arrive even in the next few days… I would not see myself (due to comfort) or the baby (due to exposure to too many others germs) attending either.

Sorry… I don’t have any better news.

Agree with another Bee, think you should take the high road here, and be prepared to send her some Flowers & Best Wishes (and no hard feelings) when she finally tells you either she’s not coming or the baby has arrived… thereby giving her a gracious way out IF she needs it.


Post # 9
4355 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sad to say, she probably isn’t coming. I’m surprised she hasn’t told you this yet. Even if her baby hasn’t arrived by then, she’s going to travel the 3 hours to the wedding dilated to 3.5cm (if not more by then)? I’d be surprised if any doctor would agree to that anyway. And if she does have her baby it will only be a few days old, which means she’s out at that point too.

Statistically speaking, many many first babies are overdue but the mother is extremely uncomfortable by that point which makes me doubt that she is planning on coming.

Maybe she just doesn’t know how to tell you? 

Post # 11
4355 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsBeck:  You’ll still have a great wedding 🙂 I have no doubts about that. It can be hard, because everyone is on their own path but you’ll enjoy yourself with your other BMs and guests. Try not to let it get you down, I’m sure she feels really guilty and is unsure how to deal with it.

Post # 12
4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would consider attending a wedding a few weeks after giving birth. The first couple of weeks are rough. 

As far as the dilation, I was 3 cm at a doctor’s appointment on Monday and I went into labor the following Sunday.

Post # 13
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am due on Saturday, and there’s a wedding in town on June 22nd that I don’t plan on attending. Way too soon with a newborn, much less a newborn plus a 3 hour long drive. As far as her coming if she’s overdue, my OB doesn’t want me traveling more than an hour away from home until baby comes and started that rule at 36 weeks. I’d say with almost certainty she’s not coming and just doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.

Post # 14
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I posted this thread awhile ago, re: how early or late people had their first babies:

When (in relation to due date) was your first baby born?

… though I agree with PPs; I can’t see any possible way she’ll be able to attend and she should really be telling you this herself, now, rather than waiting until the last minute or putting you in the awkward position of having to ask.

If she has the baby before your wedding the baby will only be a few days old and she’ll still be recovering from childbirth.  Even if she physically felt up to traveling, I can’t imagine her being comfortable taking a brand new baby out so early.

If she’s still pregnant, she’s going to be so miserably uncomfortable and there’s no way her doctor would want her traveling 3 hours away while almost week overdue anyway.

Sorry.  🙁


Post # 15
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsBeck:  She might be in denial. There’s an event that I’d really like to go to at the end of my third trimester, and am currently telling myself its possible even though it might not be. It’s hard to accept limitations on what you can/can’t do. Although it’s too bad she didn’t tell you earlier.

Hope the wedding goes great!

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