(Closed) How often are you accused of being young?

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: How often do people tell you (or hint at) that you are too young to get married?
    Everyday : (5 votes)
    6 %
    A few times a week : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Once a week : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Few times a month : (11 votes)
    14 %
    Once a month : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Every few months : (9 votes)
    11 %
    Rarely : (16 votes)
    20 %
    Once, ever. : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Never : (26 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2465 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i think i heard it once when we were engaged–and it wasn’t even quite that, it was “wow you’re young to have such a nice engagement ring” (which was a bizarre comment anyway since while totally lovely, my e-ring isn’t like, huge or anything flashy). but that was all. maybe because we were in our mid/late 20s (26 and 28 when we got married), and had been together and living together for so long?

    Post # 4
    Member
    1767 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I voted a few times  a month… but it’s always by strangers. Like the Schwann’s man, who is about 70. The peple who know us don’t have anything negative to say, because they’ve seen how our relationship works and they know we handle things a lot more maturely than a lot of older couples we know… *cough,crazy cousins*

    Post # 4
    Member
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I have never heard it from anyone around me, now that I think about it. I am 24 (will be 25 when we get married) and he is 29.

    People who know me always say I have an “old soul” whatever that means lol…maybe thats why they dont say anything

    Post # 5
    Member
    1767 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @HoneyBear: Haha I get called an “old soul” all the time too!

    Post # 6
    Member
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Very , very rarely have I heard I’m too young to be getting married. The fact I’m getting married doesn’t come up in casual conversation all that much unless my mother is hanging around, so the people who already know me are often the ones who find out this tidbit. I’ve been told I look young, but from my behavior they expect me to be a couple years older than I am. Regardless, I am not as bothered by the “young” comments as the third parties that did say that do not have a major impact on my life. The congratulations from employers, professors and friends have much more value to me.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3254 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I am 23 and he is 25. Honestly, we haven’t heard it that much. The people who did tell us that we were too young were people who all got married even younger than us and ended up divorcing. For instance, one of my coworkers got pregnant at 19 and got married and seems to think my getting married at 23 is the same situation… um, not quite!

    Other than that, feedback has been mostly positive. It really surprises me as to how many girls on WB post about negative experiences and nasty comments regarding their age because it’s something I’ve been lucky enough to not have to deal with. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    3977 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Never. Not once. I’m 27 though so who knows. Maybe it’s mainly the 19, 20, 21 year olds that are hearing this.

    Post # 9
    Member
    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    DHs mom was the only one that said it to & about him one time….. But through it all we realized it had WAY more to do with her not liking the engagement than him & his age… Otherwise, nada & everyone we know was very supportive & excited 🙂 Darling Husband is 21 & I’m 26…. Got engaged at 19 & 24 AND I have a kiddo & he still didn’t get any flack from anyone but her.

    Post # 11
    Member
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My FSIL’s Brother-In-Law told me that we were too young to get married before we were even engaged (but had obviously discussed it) and we were 23 at the time. Since getting engaged at 24 and turning 25 a few months ago, not a single person has told us that we’re too young. I really think that 25 is that magic number where marriage automatically becomes acceptable to everyone. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    3521 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We heard it quite a bit before we got married, but now people have backed off (thankfully).

    Post # 13
    Member
    2209 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I voted never. I was actually surprised after we got engaged at how no one told us “you are too young”. We are both 22 and have been together for 5 years so I think the idea of us getting married is not so strange to any of our close family and friends. I’m really glad I don’t have to deal with the stress of being told the too young speech over and over by random people!

    Post # 14
    Member
    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I got it once, from someone at work who’s very socially awkward and makes jokes only he thinks are funny. That was it.

    I should add that I’m 28 but people tend to mistake me for a lot younger. Just after Darling Husband and I got engaged I moved to the UK for grad school, and got ID’d while buying a kitchen knife…which you’re not allowed to buy if you’re under 16. I was 25!!!

    Post # 15
    Member
    1938 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    LOL! I live in UTAH and I am 24 years old, people think I am TOO OLD! 🙂 

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