(Closed) How often are you and your honey intimate?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How often are you intimate with your SO?
    Everyday : (9 votes)
    5 %
    2 or more times a week : (86 votes)
    48 %
    Once a week : (41 votes)
    23 %
    2 or more times a month : (32 votes)
    18 %
    Once a month : (6 votes)
    3 %
    Less than once a month : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2289 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I don’t really wonder what’s normal (though I do get curious!). For me, it’s whatever works for us. There are some couples that do it daily, some weekly, some monthly. It just depends. I think the main thing is making sure you’re both on the same page! πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My husband and I are a lot less than we want right now.  Stupid birth control and health problems!

    Post # 6
    Member
    2000 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Pretty often!! Fiance is not afraid to show his affection towards me, and we get down a pretty good bit! πŸ™‚

    Post # 7
    Member
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would say on average, three times a week…It feels a bit low to me when I think how often other people our age do it, but we’re tired during the week, he comes home late and I waiit for him to get home before eatiing dinner, so as soon as he comes home we eat, and then by the time I digest, it’s already so late! But the weekends are our fun time πŸ™‚

    Post # 8
    Member
    1288 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

    Birth control really is cruel πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
    Member
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Yeah, the weekends are when we get busy.  We are just too busy/tired during the week.  We both get up at 5:45 am, and by the time we get home there is three hours to change, make dinner, eat dinner, watch a bit of tv and it’s bed time!  Haha, we would both like to have sex more often, but it just doesn’t work with our schedules right now.

    Post # 11
    Member
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    The crazy thing is that birth control totally killed my drive… but pregnancy (at least the first few months of it) had the same effect.  I was so sick and tired during the first trimester, I think we had sex like once a month.  So you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t, lol!

    Post # 12
    Member
    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Not that I wish it on anyone but I had a preventative total hysterectomy five years ago and it’s made me want it non-stop!  We do it at least once a day and we have a daughter, I work a full time job and a part time job on the weekends, he works and is a full time Master’s student, and we have two pups and a house so our time is limited but we make time…..every day!

    Post # 13
    Member
    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It’s so weird thinking about birth control and sex drive after being on it for 10 years!  I definitely remember it being higher when I was 18…and I definitely attributed a lower sex drive to birth control.  After being on it so long I have just learned to do have sex whenever the situation arises rather than when I’m already thinking about it…which is rare.  I always enjoy it, so why not just always say yes!

    By The Way – thanks for including options in the poll that were in monthly increments.  The last poll on this topic only had how many times per week!  Ha! 

    Post # 14
    Member
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I will be very honest with you ladies.

    We don’t have a lot of sex. We had it twice a couple weeks ago (Saturday/Sunday I think?) and haven’t had it for….about 1.5 weeks now. Darling Husband had drill Sat/Sun so he was up and gone by 530am. Sometimes we fool around, but *I* don’t really want it. I’m not a sexual person for the most part–I am more emotional than anything. I’m not cruel to my husband but I do know he wants more and is always secretly afraid I’ll always have a low sex drive.

    But, BC is evil. And I am just exhausted with working, taking 9 credits of college classes and trying to lose these last 5 pounds. I literally work, go to class, work out, eat dinner, shower, study, pack lunch, and pass out. When i come home and shower, I put lotion on, and I am clean. The last thing I want is sex. Sex requires a shower or some cleaning up afterwards, sometimes a change of sheet. Lots of lube. Silicone lube. You need soap to clean that mess up! And i get up for work before 6am. Sorry. Not gonna happen.

    Frankly, I don’t WANT to make time. Sounds bad, but hear me out. I don’t really enjoy sex that much (crazy, right?!?!) because about 75% of the time, it just freakin’ hurts and is frustrating. Thinking about the day we have to have REGULAR sex to have a baby freaks me out. So we kinda avoid it b/c I don’t have the energy to deal with THAT aspect of it on top of the lack of time. It’s no fun when the pain days outweigh the few good days.

    So, I will fully admit that we have sex <5 times a month.

    Post # 15
    Member
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    we go thru stages – i remember when we were barely managing once a month and thats with a full workload plus both of us going to university again plus him teaching scuba on weekends and me working most weekends – we were always tired.  last year i went thru a hormonal blitz and the poor man didnt even get a chance to get thru the door before i was pouncing on him

    as EJ has been so honest, now my turn.  about 3 weeks ago was the worst sex for us ever – yes he was tired (hes a morning person) and it was hot (heatwave) but it went on forever and although he was all systems go it ended up with with me in tears in the end because i felt like a total failure.  although the next morning everything was fine and we did have sex we havent had it since because it battered my self confidence to be honest *sigh*

    Post # 16
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    774 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    This poll made me laugh because I have a friend who asks me this at least twice a year. Her hubby allots the weekend for sex and thats pretty much it. The problem with that for her I think is that it becomes too routine and she would like more spontaneity (sp?). Fiance and I really just depend. We both work full time, we try to make time to work out, we hae two kids, two dogs…and you just never know what life throws at you on any given day. I answered 2 or more per week because typically it  is around 3-4, but there are times that I will realize a week has gone by. Its when life permits. Its totally not that we don’t want to…we’ve also been guilty of passing out while one of us is initiating foreplay. Sad, I know. LOL

    About birth control….very evil!! I stopped taking bc about Aug of last year and we started using condoms. I told Fiance I wanted to stop and gave him my reasons and he was very supportive. One of them was my low sex drive. It was not that I didn’t want to , I just did not have the energy to actually do it. I would actually dream of us having sex! Yes, dream of my fiance, not another man! Since I got off its been much better and we’ve both been much happier. Ya, using condoms has its disadvantages, but I myself feel so much better and he is willing to make the sacrifice so to me it was worth it. After the wedding I am getting a book called something like “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” and see if I can feel comfortable with a more natural planning type of birth control. I really DO NOT want to go on the pill ever again!  

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