How often are you intimate?

posted 4 months ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Busy bee

I could go weeks or months even without it lol my partner needs it every day, but I just don’t have any desire for that often. It’s hard finding a balance because our drives are so different, but we do our best. When we first got together we were in college, so that’s pretty much all we did. Then we were long distance, so again, all we did. Once we moved to the same city again my drive sort of settled into what it actually is and here we are. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

It definitely depends. When we’re both really busy and exhausted with work it may just be like 2-3 times on the weekend and not at all in the week. Other weeks we’ll have sex every day and a few times a day on the weekend. We don’t often have sex more than once a day during the week though unless we have morning sex before work. 

But on average I’d say probably 5-6 times a week? (Been together almost 4 years, married almost 2)

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

We try to maintain about 2-3 times per week during the week and then a couple times on the weekends.  We have very similar drives and do sometimes do it more often, but we’ve been slacking a bit lately because we are doing a renovation on our weekend/vacation property.  By the time we finish up for the day we are just extremely tired.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

ladama :  I’m a lot like you actually lol luckily our drives are very similar and we have sex usually twice a day. Sometimes it’s only once a day if we have to jump out of bed quickly in the morning but we rarely miss a day. Some weekends if we’re really feeling it we will hit 3-6 times in a day but that’s excessive and less frequent now and then after that we usually have to skip a day or two lol. It works well for the two of us! We’ve been together 2 1/2 years, living together for 1 1/2 and we’re both looking for new jobs so I don’t know if it’ll change or not but yeah I’m happy with our arrangement! I know if we go too long we both start getting a little cranky lol (we had a period of time where we couldn’t have sex for a week and it sucked). I know I would be ok skipping a day once in a while but I won’t turn him down if he initiates and his drive is slightly higher than mine but it doesn’t cause issues.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Morning sex before work is the best sex.  We try to fit that in if we aren’t working out at 6am.  

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Try for at least 1x a day. But my fh works 12 hour day then night shifts 7 days a week. So occasionally we don’t.  I never turn down intimacy.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Hubby works out of town 7-8 months out of the year. When we catch each other on holidays or I go see him it’s 50% sex and 50% eating/drinking, lol. 

When home full time, we’re 10-12 times a week? He loves morning sex and I love afternoon sex… So… yeah. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Our normal is twice a day, we like the connection

Post # 10
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Busy bee

It varies based on our schedules, but in general, at least 1-2x per day. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

I am 5 months postpartum and still breastfeeding, and my sex drive is at an all time low. Like I’d be fine never doing it at all for the forseeable future if I’m being completely honest. My husband’s remains high as ever tho so that has required some compromise. I’d say it’s happening several times a month at this point as opposed to our usual several times a week before the baby. I assume we’ll get back to normal once I wean.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Haha, omg, I love how only moderately to highly sexually active people are commenting, so I’ll say ours. Once per week. Maybe twice. Sometimes once per 2 weeks if it’s a particularly draining time.

(EDIT: By the way, TOTALLY not knocking on anyone here, just noting the trend in responses!)

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Too Much Information, also, at least 1-2 times per month we have a very “special” night.  It’s more a sensual journey with bondage and other toys and less about penetrative sex.   He actually enjoys that more, but I need the regular sex to O.  

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Normally once a week. Sometimes but rarely twice. I have no drive anymore… Even when I was single with many “prospects” lol. 

I’m 30 and used to get panicky over not having “enough sex”… thinking something was wrong with me. But in the end it was because of things like these forums that caused that feeling combined with ex boyfriends being immature about it and downright verbally abusive.

Took me years to realize I am fine… everyone is different. I wish mine was high like it was when I was younger but I can’t control it.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

We average a couple of times a week, probably anywhere from 3-5 is the most common and then sometimes less/ sometimes more. 

Honestly the thought of having sex 6 times in a day just sounds painful. 

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