How often do u see in laws?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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misskitty90 :  I see my Father-In-Law and Mother-In-Law separately maybe once a month or once every two months? 

Father-In-Law lives far and Mother-In-Law doesn’t say anything (or call really unless she needs to vent or something but she’s pretty happy with a phone call tbh) 

If I were you I’d be VERY WARY of moving next to them if I were you. Or draw some serious lines as to what is acceptable and what is not. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Depends. Sometimes we see them a lot, sometimes we got 2 months without. They live about 15 minutes away. I don’t have family, so that doesn’t matter.

I would never move next door to family. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We see my in-laws once or twice a year. They call once a week. They live a 9 hour drive away which I’m a big fan of.

We see my parents maybe one a month or once every other month. They live about 3 hours away.

I love having some distance from both our families. You do not have to see your in-laws every weekend, even if you live right next door. You are entitled to your space and time away from them. Set boundaries, be firm, make sure your husband is on the same page before you move even closer and this becomes a bigger issue.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

We see my parents (separately) about twice a month, being Chinese myself that’s not too bad. We live an hour and a bit drive away so that helps lol… one of my Chinese friends and her Caucasian boyfriend goes to see her parents every week and often twice a week, I don’t know how he puts up with it lol…

My fiancés parents live in another state so we only see them a few times a year, but that includes week long holidays and stuff. If we did live close, it’ll likely be at least once a month. They’re a pretty close knit family.

I think your MIL’s attitude is worrying, it sounds like she want more time together rather than being content with the 2-3 times a month.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We see my inlaws about every 6 weeks or so. They live 40 minutes away. My folks are only 10 minutes away and we still only get together for something planned every 4-6 weeks but occasionally I’ll stop by to say “hi” for 10 minutes.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2017

We live next to my inlaws and it works for us. They are respectful of boundaries (took some training in the beginning), they always call before coming over, and we do the same. The odd time we get stuck in the driveway chatting, but not often. We work opposite shifts then my inlaws throughout the week and we all have weekends off. We go weekends not even laying eyes on them.

i am very close with my mil though and will go over even without fiancé being there

we live an hour from my family and parents and we see them 2-3 times monthly 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We’ve never lived in the same state as my in laws and usually only see them 1-2 times a year for a several day to week long visit. 

When we got married and for the first year of our marriage, my parents lived about 2 hours from us and we saw them maybe once a month give or take. Sometimes I’d see them more often because my job took me to their area some. We moved to another state and for the last couple of years, we also see my parents 1-2 times a year for several days to a week. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We see my parents twice a month at their place, they are welcomed to come over anytime. We do the same thing with my in laws but I usually see my mother in law everyday of my way home from work. They live on our street and if my mother in law is out in the front tears I will usually honk and say hi

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I think that’s a really reasonable amount. My parents live about 20 mins away and we see them around the same, maybe around 2-3 times a month. Sometimes just for dinner, sometimes for a full weekend. 

My in laws live a really long drive away so we don’t see them too much.
– Father-In-Law and Step Mother-In-Law (5 hr drive) we see them probably like 4ish times a year for at least a full weekend
– Mother-In-Law and Step Father-In-Law (12 hr drive or $400 flight) we only see them probably.. 2-3 times a year

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

We live away from both our parents because of where my husband is stationed. So we will only see them 1 to 2x a year when husband gets vacation unless they feel like trekking up here for a visit. I do have family in this area though on my mothers side and before baby was born we would go see them once every 2 or 3 months since they are local. We will probably resume the visits later this year. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

We live a couple states away so only once every couple of months. But I text my Future Mother-In-Law all the time and we have phone calls every now and then too, just to talk about our day. Love her. Also text my Future Sister-In-Law sometimes too and we only get to see her once a year or so. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

As rarely as possible.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I used to see the in-laws once a week – (except when they’re travelling – which is usually 6 months out of the year. Oh to be retired and wealthy) – but Fiance and I recently moved to the other side of the country to be near my family, so it’ll be more like once or twice a year from here on out. It’s a bit sad, I am quite close to Future Mother-In-Law. 

Now we’re living in my home town, we see my parents once a week/fortnight (depending when the footy is on – my parents BLEED West Coast Eagles) for family dinners. We’re close, so it’s nice 🙂

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2020 - Windermere, Cumbria

We’re expats and my SO has never met my mum (SO met my dad last summer when my dad was visiting though), I see SOs family 4-5 times a year. But my SO is very close with his family and I do not get on with my fam at all. Anyway bee, 2-3 times a month seems fine to me!

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