How often do you and your FI/DH/SO talk throughout the day?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you and your SO/FI/DH talk throughout the day?
    Pretty much constantly! : (40 votes)
    24 %
    Just occasionally. : (87 votes)
    51 %
    Only when necessary. : (28 votes)
    17 %
    Hardly at all. : (14 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 61
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    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2018

    I voted for ‘just occasionally’ because Fiance and I don’t live together and I only see him on weekends. We chat on the phone for about an hour at night, sometimes not so long because I’m studying and working and he also sometimes has work to do at night. Though I see him Friday through Sunday every weekend and then we are together for the whole day 🙂

    Post # 62
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    1427 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    My husband is a doctor and I work with small children so we very rarely talk during the day. We maybe text once during the day if we need to remind each other something but that’s very rare. I like it this way, I feel we look forward to seeing eachother and talking about our days when we get home. 

    There is nothing wrong with talking all day though! Just depends on what you want and your jobs.

    Post # 63
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    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We’ll message each other occasionally, but he’s a pastor and I’m a professor, so we both have long stretches of the day where we need to be focused on other things.  On days we both work at home, we’ll chat occasionally if we meet up in the kitchen at the same time, but again, we both have work to do and deadlines to meet (Sunday sermons to write, class lectures to prepare, etc.), so we save real conversation for evenings. We sit down to dinner together most nights. 

    I also agree with a PP – I’m 39, he’s 41 – we’re just not from a generation that texts constantly all day.

    Post # 64
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    391 posts
    Helper bee

    Minimum 10 times a day…yeah, it’s a LOT.

    Post # 65
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    2639 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    We both work office jobs so we have gchat going throughout the day.  Depends on the day, but we have a conversation going most days.  We’ll message back and forth one or twice an hour probably.

    Post # 66
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    449 posts
    Helper bee

    I’ve already commented… but along the lines of like “here and there” texts during lunch breaks (which Fiance and I do not have the same timed lunch breaks, the times vary) we sort of have an unspoken rule that if we call each other during the day, it better be an emergency/something serious. Not saying we never talk on the phone because we do, it is just rare and our texts are very casual. Phone calls between us during the day are rare, so thats why when either of us call we know something is up and its decently serious. With our professions its just the dynamic that works. My Fiance works in more of a physical job where he does have the potiential to get seriously hurt.. so 9 times out of 10 if he would call me at like 11 a.m. I would know its because of something serious. Physical injury isn’t the only thing we say phone calls are for though.. just an example. 

    Post # 67
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    136 posts
    Blushing bee

    My SO works overnights, getting off work when I’m heading into work, we end up emailing each other most days. I try to stay concious of his sleep schedule, so it’s only until about halfway thru my day and I give him a wake up call when he needs to get up and I’m going to bed. I can’t have my phone on me at work, so it’s mostly done over email and I memorized his email fast.

    When I worked 4pm until 1am at my last job, we would talk from when I got up (he was getting home from work) until I went to work and once I got off and home, we would talk on his break. That was the schedule we had from the really beginning of our friendship to the first two months of being a couple.

    So I would say we talk pretty consistently throughout the mutual waking hours when we aren’t together.

    Post # 68
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    136 posts
    Blushing bee

    I should probably mention, I get away with the emails because I work in an office on the phone all day, and if it’s ringing, I’m usually not paying attention to work stuff. Great for online shopping and emailing the love, not so great for my bank account.

    Outside of wake up calls and emotional/physical I need you now moments, my job being on the phone makes me want to disable the call ability of my phone.

    Post # 69
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    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    shesahurricane :  we text each other around lunch time every day & text back whenever we can. Other than that just when we’re on our way home 

    Post # 70
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    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    My Fiance is typically very busy at work while my job has more fluctuation. I typically text him a handful of times during the day which he’ll respond to as he has time. I don’t typically call him unless it’s very important or around lunch time. The most I get from him is an email of a business article or a random funny text, but most of his day is spent in meetings or on the phone and can be very high stress so not great for “chatting” during the day. If he had a more typical 9-5/desk job, we’d probably talk more throughout the day. 

     

    And I should add that we’re in a LDR right now which is super hard for me. Once we’re living together, I wouldn’t be surprised if we didn’t really talk more than a text or two during the day. We like doing our own thing and then sharing our days in the evening. 

    Post # 71
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    84 posts
    Worker bee

    Pretty much never, unless I need to ask him something or vice versa on lunch, we can’t use our phones during working hours (aside from lunch) – so I guess occasionally.

    Post # 72
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    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2019

    During work hours we talk occasionally. During non work hours & one of us is away, we talk ALLL day. We are always together & some people have things to say about it. What they dont get is that we really do love being together.

    “Dont you want a chance to miss him?” or my favorite “Yeah, I couldnt do that *judgy eyes*”.

    Haters gone hate. tongue-out

    Post # 73
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    1149 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    Hardly ever and usually about logistics, eg. will I be home for dinner, did I hear form the dog walker what time she’s coming, etc or if it’s a particularly good/bad day and there is news to share. It’s never really more than one or two messages sent back in each interaction. We both work busy jobs so not much time to chat even though we’re both on our computers (with gchat open) 95% of the time.

    Other than that there are weeks where I leave before he’s up and I’m home after he’s asleep and we hardly say two words to each other face to face. However we typically spend weekends completely together so we do all our catching up then. 

    Post # 74
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    689 posts
    Busy bee

    We talk a lot throughout the day, then spend most of the night hanging out together. He is my best friend.

    Post # 75
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    689 posts
    Busy bee

    MrsBeck :  I have my own office, so it’s easier to get away with texting. It’s also a pretty laidback environment. I still manage to get all my work finished. I usually have time to spare most days.

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