(Closed) How often do you and your SO fight?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you and your SO fight?
    Never! Rainbows, butterfiles and unicorns covered in glitter define our relationship! : (28 votes)
    11 %
    Once a year or so : (47 votes)
    18 %
    Once a month or so : (61 votes)
    23 %
    Once a week or so : (51 votes)
    20 %
    Once a day or so : (12 votes)
    5 %
    Once ever few months : (47 votes)
    18 %
    Once every few weeks : (14 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @FutureMrsGG:  I voted “once a month” but it’s more bickering/being snippy than actual fighting. We’re generally over it within a day.

    Post # 33
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    3669 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @FutureMrsGG:  a fight a day keeps the divorce away πŸ™‚ 

    We don’t yell/scream/cuss/hit/storm off/or pout but, we do have daily conversations and tend to have seperate thoughts on daily matters. Our daily fight is a dicussion and it lasts only a moment. I enjoy that we vocolize our upsets because that means that we are never bottling anything up! πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 34
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    5950 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    We put on the gloves and get in the ring whenever its appropriate…I couldn’t tell you how often that is, depending on what’s going on in our lives, we might go a while without a row, but sometimes…we’re just at each other for a few weeks….

    Yesterday I was just spoiling for a fight, and no one would give it to me, when I got home for lunch, Mr. 99 could see how prickly I was, decided to throw me a bone and tell me what a huge disaster the sewing room was…

    That was all I needed, we got into it, screamed around the house for about 30 minutes and then…it was over, I felt better and he was happy.

    Its nice having someone get you like that…

    Post # 35
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    2531 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Outright starting-to-raise-voices / this-is-a-stupid-thing-to-fight-about fights?
    Depends on how hungry one or the other of us is, or (sorry to say) if I’m PMSing. :/

    Civil disagreements?
    All the time, we resolve them like grown-ups and don’t raise our voices. We used to argue-fight, we just learned to handle things in a way which makes us both happy and keeps our blood pressure down haha. πŸ™‚

    If you really want to get into this, I think your poll needs in-between options, like “A couple times a week” “A couple times a month” “A few times a year” instead of just once for each time period. I wouldn’t know anyone who fights once a year (Oh honey, it’s time for our annual Arbor Day fight! Bring it on!)

    Post # 36
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    1119 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    In 6.5 years, we had 2 real fights. Both were before we were married.

    We do disagree sometimes but we talk it out and find compromise without fighting. We usually agree on things though

    Post # 37
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    5659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We bicker about stupid shit on the regular. REAL fights? Rare, they’re mostly stupid stupid things.

    Post # 38
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    78 posts
    Worker bee

    Myself and Fiance do have arguments…however a lot of the time it’s because one of us is very stressed about work, and because we are close and trust each other, sometimes our anger and frustration gets taken out or projected onto each other.  It’s a totally normal part of a relationship, and quite honestly, you really get to know someone through your good times and your hard times.  You have to feel comfortable enough to have disagreements and arguements here and there in order to grow as a unit.  It’s part of accepting each other fully and unconditionally.  That’s my opinion, anyway. 

    Post # 40
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    5373 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We probably fight a few times a year. We don’t really disagree on much and if we have a real fight/argument usually it’s just one of us taking stress (or lack of sleep) out on the other one and it blows over somewhat quickly. Usually those fights are about really dumb random things that have just added up – definitely not productive! Any light bickering is usually chore related and pretty quick. We try to stay out of the habit of arguing/bickering (it’s not like we want to argue, it just seems to be a habit we sometimes get into and we have to get used to communicating like grown ups again aha).

     

    I have a question for the posters who answered that they never fight: do you not even bicker or express to the other person when they’re annoying you? Do you just keep it inside or does your SO actually not annoy you ever?

     

    I’m not usually annoyed by my Fiance, but sometimes little things frustrate me (like him not putting clothes in the hamper after he’s told me a million times he would start putting them in the hamper) and then I mention them to him and he gets kind of defensive and cranky.

     

    Post # 41
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    8482 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Depends on what you define as fighting. We have disagreements maybe once or twice a month, but they dont always turn into more than that.

    But probably once every 2 or 3 months, we’ll have a blowout. Usually because of me, I have to admit. I cant help it, I just immediately start crying and it goes from there. But they only last for maybe a night, and we always feel better after them.

    Post # 42
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    460 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Only my second time posting… Ah!!

    I think the last time we actually fought (I use that term lightly because we never raise our voices or get dramatic) was almost 2 years ago. Do we get annoyed with one another or frustrated? Sure, and we’re quick to say it so the other person knows to stop the behavior or we come to an agreement. I guess after growing up in a house where my parents were always bickering and screaming at one another made me want to avoid any unnecessary relationship drama.

    Post # 43
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    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @FutureMrsGG:  I said once a month or so, but it’s really more like every 6 months we will have an couple  arguments in a row about an issue, whatever it is, that is stressing both of us out. We both change our minds really slowly so there will be like a few days – week when we don’t know what to do about the issue and fight about it within that period. Then no fights until another thing happens.

    Post # 44
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    3339 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    I think we go through stages.  Sometimes we fight a lot, like a couple weeks in a row if things are really bad.  But most of the time, we don’t fight at all.  We sit down and talk about our issues in a calm, mature, productive way.  So on average, I’d say we fight about once a month or less.

    Post # 45
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    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We bicker a lot, but we fight maybe every few months. We have a blow out about once a year πŸ™

    Post # 46
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    1531 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I said once every few months.  We used to have blow outs every month about the same thing – I would think that he was mad at me and hated me for stupid stuff because of the negative vibes I got off him.  We would end the fights just by patching up our problem and not fully understanding them.  A few months ago we both had a revelation – my Darling Husband is very hard on himself and when he is upset with himself he gives off very negative vibes and displays a negative attitude that I immediately pick up on and assume its because of something I did and react- hence the fighting.  After we realized this, we only had one fight and it was barely a blow-out compared to our previous ones!

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