(Closed) How often do you and your SO fight?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you and your SO fight?
    Never! Rainbows, butterfiles and unicorns covered in glitter define our relationship! : (28 votes)
    11 %
    Once a year or so : (47 votes)
    18 %
    Once a month or so : (61 votes)
    23 %
    Once a week or so : (51 votes)
    20 %
    Once a day or so : (12 votes)
    5 %
    Once ever few months : (47 votes)
    18 %
    Once every few weeks : (14 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 62
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    1992 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We don’t really fight much at all.  I do nag him a lot though.  He tends to do a lot of things that drive me bananas.  He leaves the toilet seat up often, leaves the top off the toothpaste, he is constantly leaving lunch meat out on the counter to spoil, and the list goes on. . .  Most times I nag, he apologizes and it stops there.  

    When we do fight, its normally because of me.  I tend to be very emotional around my period, as much as I hate to say it, and if something upsets me then I’ll cry and maybe even yell a little.  It can be very dramatic.  Suprisingly, he doesn’t yell back at me. He just get really frustrated and it shows in his body language, which makes me even more upset. Normally, its really stupid things that set me off too.  Like once it was, because I lost my keys and he wouldn’t wake up and help me find them so I could go grocery shopping.  I’m really embarrased by how emotional/crazy I get with him during my time of the month though, and I’m working on it, so it’s not every month, but at least 3 or 4 times a year.  Over the years he has learned to be more sensitive and careful or his words/actions around that time.  

    Post # 63
    Member
    4857 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We never fight and never have. We keep the emotions out of it and calmly discuss anything that we happen disagree on. We don’t do anger and yelling and crap like that. When you listen to the other person and approach things reasonably it’s not that hard to not fight. We both believe strongly that yelling and behaviors like that are unacceptable. Neither of us are that “type” anyway, but this is something we discussed and actively decided on. You can decide how to resolve conflicts and create boundaries and “fight fair”. Also there’s a lot to be said for dropping some things, picking your battles etc. 

    Post # 64
    Member
    2777 posts
    Sugar bee

    Probably like once every day or two. We are very different and it causes friction, but we live each other

    Post # 65
    Member
    2108 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I will go with once a year. in our year and a half relationship there has been one fight that resulted in an apology ( for him of course :p). We have our disagreements,but we basically just agree to disagree in most cases, and we agree on most of the important things.

    Post # 66
    Member
    434 posts
    Helper bee

    We bicker often but I voted every few months for real fights. We’ve been together for a year and a half and we’ve had I think 3 major blowouts (screaming, crying, etc). He’s had some issues lately with his classes and there has definitely been some pent up frustration on my part that I release every so often, but I don’t consider that fighting because he understands why I feel that way. He’s really laid back and he almost never has issues with my daily behavior (except for my driving…I swear to god I’m not a bad driver, but he turns me into one because he comments on EVERYTHING and it’s so frustrating) but I have no problem letting him know when something is annoyng me because both of us would rather deal with it then than letting it fester.

    We’ve definitely grown closer and stronger as a couple since our last real fight and these days I can’t let anything fester for more than a day before I feel the need to talk to him about it! And when I can tell I’m going to be super irrational (aka during my period) I try to let him know so that he can expect/prepare for some intense emotions on my end. He’s always so good about dealing with me, and I love him for it!

    Post # 68
    Member
    680 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Fight is such a stong word, haha. We have little disagreements weekly…daily even! Serious stuff happens ways less often, we’re pretty good at talking things out as they happen. So we’re lucky enough to have that going for us. I think a little bickering shows that you are comfortable with someone. Sometimes its just needed.

    Post # 69
    Member
    595 posts
    Busy bee

    We tend not to even disagree that much, much less fight. He knows that sometimes I blow up and I take it out on the people around me, but he’s always been incredibly good at diffusing me in a way that I am left content and not feeling like I’m stamping myself down, even the few times that he’s the cause. So I voted 1x a year, just to cover the occasional disagreement that we have every few months or so, but we sort it out within a short period of time.

    Apparently it freaks people out that we don’t fight.

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