Post # 1
Just wondering so I can put our relationship in perspective. Fiance thinks we fight way too much, I think it is just right. But he also thinks perfect relationships never have fights…HA!
By The Way I mean the big fights…you guys know what I’m talking about.
EDIT: I guess I don’t mean the BIG fights…but big enough that you count it as a fight, not just a discussion/disagreement.
Post # 3
Darling Husband and I have a big fight about 3 times a year.
Post # 4
Maybe once or twice a year. We have only had one “big” fight in the 6 years we have been together.
Post # 5
@shrubfish09: Hmm..I honestly cannot really remember the last big, big fight we had. I think it was over my brother, who was living with us at the time and not being a “model” roommate. Regardless, my brother moved out about 7 months ago, so it has been a while. We usually don’t get in huge fights, just pointless stuff and disagreements every now and then.
In the 9 1/2 years we have been together, we have only had 3 major fights:
- About moving out of the state after graduating college
- Whether or not my brother should be living with us
- Whether or not my Fiance should take a job offer (that turned out to be pretty bad)
Are you two having big fights or small, petty arguements?
Post # 6
We used to bicker all the time. For the last 2+ years, however, we’ve definitely improved. If we have a fight, it gets squashed almost immediately.
I’d say at least a few weeks go between spats. And huge fights? Maybe once or twice a year, if that.
Post # 7
I’m actually not sure if I know what you mean by big fights? haha. You mean heated discussions that are frustrating but come to understandings/agreements, or like… really head-butting yelling?
Post # 9
I didn’t vote because we haven’t had any – yet. It’s only been 3 months, so I’m sure that’s coming down the road.
Although, to be honest, my ex and I rarely fought in the traditional manner – we had some fights toward the end, but for the most part it was me being upset and trying to talk to him and him completely shutting down on me.
Post # 10
Mr. 99 and I like to put on the gloves and go the distance on a quarterly basis….we trade a little paint, raise our voices, it’s a nice reminder that we’re both still plugged in.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Oops I voted wrong. I said 3-5 weeks, but if you’re talking *big* fights, like where someone is pissed for hours and maybe sleeps on the couch – that’s like twice a year. We have bicker-that-turn-into-arguments, but then get solved within a few minutes, every month or so.
Post # 12
We have are both stubborn and passionate so there are going to be a few fights in our relationship. I would say we fight once every other month. I take awhile to to build up steam and then blow up. Lucky for me (us) I simmer down very quickly. Thank god we are both good at apologising and seeing each others point of view. We also don’t hold grudges or bring up past issues. I think that is important.
Post # 13
@bmo88: We are both very passionate, hot tempered people, so we used to fight every week. We are both getting better; I’m realizing I can’t change him to be exactly like me (because that’s what I love about him) and he is realizing that I am a moody, often unreasonably hot tempered person and he knows how to stop arguments happening now. We basically realized that fighting sucks and we both hate it and there’s never any point to why we are fighting.
The reason I wanted to ask is because now we have fights (not huge blowouts where we storm out) maybe once every other month, and that is really good for us. I realize it’s different for everybody, but that is just us, and we are happily engaged, so it works.
Post # 14
my Fiance and i fight sometimes. what we mostly do is bicker and that’s usually when either of us had a bad day or we aren’t feeling well. we have a big fight 2 or 3 times a year. Fiance thinks we fight too much but he just says that in the middle of a fight!
Post # 15
My Darling Husband and I have never had a big fight. We’ve had our disagreements. But we’re both always willing to listen to the other person’s view point and take it into consideration. It’s worked well for us so far.
Post # 16
@yanamari: I guess I mean both. I always think our “big” fights are big, but looking back they aren’t really. We get into a lot of heated discussions, probably once a month, that sometimes ruin the whole day, but we’ve only had BIG fights where we think about things maybe once.