- Mrs. Scissors
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
We hardly ever go out separately. With my clinical schedule recently though, he’s been going out with our friends solo- though he’ll text me and say he wishes I was there.
Back when my Fiance and I were in the giddy-new-love stage, we rarely went out separately. It was great fun for a while & still is from time to time.
But now that we’ve been together for four years, it’s even better for our relationship to go out with our own friends every so often. Kind of breaks up the monotony of Netflix nights! The key is definitely a mix of both worlds.
On weekends we pretty much always spend evenings together, but I do have a brunch with my girlfriends maybe once a month or so. The only exceptions to that would be a bachelor party or something like that. During the week we both might have a dinner or drinks thing here or there, but its maybe just a couple times a month. And we each probably spend one weekend a year going somewhere with our guy/girl friends….(well his friend in this case is his brother!)
I go for coffee dates, girls’ night out, etc, at least a few times a month if work and school permit. He’ll do Jamba Juice runs with friends or whatever, but honestly doesn’t have many close friends. I’m just lucky that my two closest friends are still within 2 hours of us! We have fun with our “couple friends” – my best friend and her boyfriend, and Future Sister-In-Law & Future Brother-In-Law – though we’re mostly reclusive and hang out by ourselves.
It happens occasionally, like when his work has a happy hour (which they do almost every Thursday) and I’m just not feeling like having a drink. And I got out for girls night every now and then. We probably go out by ourselves maybe once or twice a month, not very often.
@ ejs -I clicked “fairly often” as well. Basically for the exact same reasons.
I chose “fairly often”. I do girls nights and he does guys nights. I do happy hour and brunch with my friends without him and he does the same. I travel without him to see friends (next month I’m going to CT and Boston without him)
We both think it’s important to have time apart. I would go nuts if we did everything together ;o)
Here in FL we are friends with couples mostly, so we go out together. Even in the house, we are always in the same room. If he has to use the computer, i’ll cozy up in the reading nook in the office. And vice versa! We do plan things separately sometimes though.. for instance, he’s on a ski trip right now with his brother in law. They’re having a blast! I’m planning on traveling for girls weekends in the spring/summer. But when we’re home, we’re inseparable. haha!
If we go out for the night, we hardly ever separate. We have many of the same friends, and the ones we don’t share, we both like.
We try to have time apart though. Every once in a while (maybe once a month), we have afternoons apart where he’ll go out golfing or stay home to play video games, and I’ll go out shopping, get a manicure lunch with just the girls, etc.
I’d say maybe once a year, we spend more than a night apart, although, we’re not againt doing that more often. It just never really happens.
We go out together and separately a fair amount. I clicked sometimes but I guess I should have chosen fairly often. Usually once every other weekend I go out with my girlfriends and hell go play poker during the week every other week or so. If we are going out to a bar then its usually just me with my friends (he hates bars) and then if he decides to go out to a bar with his friends Ill usually come too…unless its just a guys night.
We rarely go out, and when we do, it’s together. Sometimes, when he’s at drill (with the National Guard) all weekend, I may go out with my sister for dinner, but that’s it. And if i’m driving, I can’t drink.
Quite frequently. He does stuff with his friends, I do stuff with mine, he goes on a lot of work outings whereas I have school obligations. Of course, we’re not going out several times every week either. With our situation right now we’re more likely to stay in together than go out.
Fairly often. Fiance plays club volleyball three time a week without me. I was the kid picked last in gym class for a reason, so though I have been invited, I would rather sit home alone, thanks. And I go for coffee lunch whatever with my own friends from academia that would bore Fiance. We have group friends, too, and neither of us really go out to bars or anything, but we would do that together when we do. It is definitely important for us to have our separate lives; we do have similar interests of course but I am definitely more social than he is overall.
Umm yeah i really dont like hanging out with his friends so when he goes out with him he just goes by himsef, but we have a lot of mutual frinds from high school and if they are all hanging out then we both go out together, and if i am going out with like 2 or 3 other girls, of course he is not goinog to want to come, so id have to say it is faily typical that we go out without each other…then we love to come home and cuddle with each other 🙂
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