Post # 31
Wow. This post is making me really sad. My husband is obessed with playing disc golf. I feel like if I didn’t speak up he would go play both Saturday and Sunday almost every weekend. So, then I feel like I’m fighting to spend weekend time with him, which makes me feel pretty crappy. He always says “but we spend weeknights together.” But, really by the time one of us walks the dogs, we make a quick dinner, clean up, and get ready for the next day it’s 8:30 and we just zone out infront of the TV or I ready a book. This is not quality time.
Post # 32
I know what you mean, my fiancé thinks sitting after a long day zoned out in front of the tv barely speaking counts as quality time. I do not.
I work most weekends so mine who is also a disc golf enthusiast will be out early to go play then but we have a rule that he has to Be home when I finish work on weekends if I don’t have at least one day off over the weekend. My shifts change every week so it’s difficult to get any quality time together so things like that are really important to me. He doesn’t get it he wouldn’t do it if I hadnt kicked up a fuss and this in place but because it’s important to me he does it
Post # 33
Don’t feel too badly about it!
If my husband or I had a major hobby that the other one didn’t do we might have a similar situation. It’s more of a coincidence that our hobbies happen to be home-based or only take a couple of hours. Which I imagine is that same for a lot of couples.
Could you ask him to skip the disc golf one weekend a month, or play in the morning so it doesn’t cut into the full weekend so much?
Post # 34
Most weekends we are together. I’ll go to barre and he will go work out or grocery shop but otherwise together all weekend. Since neither of us have our individual friends here and I see my MBA classmates during the week, weekends are always together or with our other couple friends.
Post # 35
We used to both have weekends off and spend the whole weekend together.
Now we get one day off together and I think it’s a good thing because I am an introvert and have found that I need a day to myself each week or I start to get very irritable.
Post # 36
Every other weekend, usually.
Post # 37
- Wedding: December 1969 - City, State
We spend most of the weekends together, and try to do an activity together each weekend (whether it’s watching a movie or going out to dinner). We’re extremely good friends, so we generally like doing the same activities — so it’s easy for us. That being said, I still like my “me” time, and love my free evenings to myself when I get them.
Post # 38
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
We’re together every weekend, though not alone. Friday nights we visit his sister, saturdays we have lunch with his mum and then visit a family friend he calls his second mother. Sundays we’ll spend together, either just at home, or we’ll go out shopping and have lunch out or something.
Post # 39
We spend almost every weekend together (sometimes doing things just us, sometimes with family, and sometimes with friends).
Post # 40
We spend most of our weekend time together – generally Friday night, all of Saturday, and then Sunday afternoon/evening. On Friday nights dh is usually exhausted so either I’ll cook or we’ll order takeout – either way, it’s a night in watching a show or movie. Saturdays we tend to sleep in and clean or run errands; we often will go for a walk together and have lunch out, and then come home to relax. When we’re home together, we’re often doing different things – I’ll cook and listen to a podcast while he reads, etc. If it’s busy at work he sometimes has to work from home on the weekends, as well.
On Sunday mornings I volunteer, and I might not come home until 2 or 3 if I stop to run errands, have lunch out, or walk home. Sunday afternoons we clean if we didn’t on Saturday, and then generally read or watch a show. I am more social and independent than my husband so if I’m invited to a party on Fri/Sat evening I’ll usually go alone, though that’s probably only a once a month occurrence (and he’s generally invited, he just hates parties).
Before I started volunteering we often spent the whole weekend together, but I enjoy volunteering and believe in giving back when I can. I did run it by dh before I committed to it to make sure he didn’t mind that it would cut into our weekend time (and ability to take spontaneous weekend trips), and he was supportive though I’m sure he’d prefer if I was home all weekend.
Post # 41
- Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME
Can you play disc with him? Or ask that he only spends 4 hours playing one day and then the evening spending quality time with you? My Fiance plays disc too and while I don’t enjoy the sport, it’s fun to be on the course with him and hiking around.
I totally understand, my Fiance is obsessed with skiing and will typically spend one weekend day from 8am-4pm skiing without me, and I’ll normally go with the other day. It’s not something I love, but I know it makes him really happy and that’s important to me. I spend my time without him watching TV or sleeping – doing things he doesn’t typically enjoy!
Post # 42
We work at the same place with the same schedule so we’re together like 99% of the time, lol.
His only “getting away” would be playing his video game at night once the kid is in bed.
Post # 43
EVERY weekend for us is spending 100% of the time together lol. But we don’t see each other throughout the week at all. I work days, boyfriend works swing shift, so he’s already at work by the time I get home, and I’m asleep by the time he gets home. So the weekends are really our only bonding time together.
Post # 44
I’d say we are together 75% of the weekend. Whether that’s going out with friends together or just hanging at home on the couch. The other 25% is if one of us goes out for a meal or something with friends alone or like if we are in separate rooms of the house doing our own thing for a few hours or if I go out and run errands. We definitely enjoy spending a lot of the weekend together but appreciate some separate time too.
Post # 45
We spend almost every weekend together, but we also have a one year old, so free time/hobbies are not in the cards right now. We almost spend too much time together – I really cherish having an evening to myself every once and while, even if i just spend it watching lifetime movies.