(Closed) How Often do you and your SO spend the whole weekend together?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 46
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Helper bee

tbh we probably should cut the cord as we spend 98% of all our time together without fail… and that 2% is being genorous as it’s only my short work day on wednesdays ahaha.

Not all of it is quality time but I have him by my side.

 

We work in offices next to each other and spend about 65% of the ‘working day’ with each other, or on the phone with each other.

 

When we’re at home we do most things as a team around the house and tackle each ‘job’ or ‘chore’ together, then we both cook (most of the time) and then veg out on the couch.

 

We have LOTS of time with friends but we have the same circle, so no need to be apart. 

WOW typing that out makes us sound super unhealthy, but golly gosh do I love that boy. HAHA

Post # 47
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Helper bee

We kind of have unique-ish schedules. We both work 4 tens and are off 3 days a week. 

We spend a weekend with each other every week and then usually have 1 day where the other is at work. 

We always organize our schedules to have the same days off. 

Post # 48
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Bumble bee

Most of our free time are spent together, either with friends or by ourselves. Individual activities are specifically organised (like girls night or work functions) and make up about 10% of our individual times, if that. 

Perhaps you could tell your partner how much you value quality time together. 

I do know a friend whose husband goes golfing every Sunday and that became tiring / a bit much when they had kids. Because his golfing schedule couldn’t be compromised no matter what :/ I think some people just really value their alone time to decompress (and obsessed about their hobbies lol)..

You know the saying, couples that play together stay together.

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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edobbs87 :  our only joint day off is Saturday as I work Sundays. We spend Saturdays together every other week generally. And whole weekends when I take leave.  

Post # 50
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Worker bee

My partner and I work pretty much every day, so we value our evenings together instead and try to make time for atleast once or twice a week to spend an evening solely for hanging out.

Honestly, the idea of spending 2 whole days is great, except the tiny amount of time we have off work is better spent working on our own projects and then come together in the evening for a snuggle and a meal.

I think I’d be bored silly if we were just lounging around for 2 whole days, I’ve got shit to do!

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Never? We have 3 kids and sitting around just to 2 of us is not in the cards. So on a typical weekend he’s visiting his sick mom and I’m running a kid to a birthday party. I do think your husband does need to compromise with his hobby though.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee

every weekend…oops is that too much 😛 i mean we might duck out for a drink or a lunch with family or friends but generally we spend the whole weekend together with our dog.

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Every single weekend it’s just us. We are still recovering from Hurricane Michael so our weekends are pretty much booked with clean up and repair for another 9 to 12 months. He is taking a weekend in February to hang out with his fraternity brothers. I am going to take advantage of that weekend by sitting around the house, hanging out with our furbaby, and going out on the boat fishing with just me, myself, and I. I’m sooooo looking forward to some just me time. 

Post # 57
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Bumble bee

We actually don’t spend a lot of weekend time together.  I should say that our time together really depends on what season it is.

My husband is a physical therapist/athletic trainer for a professional sports team.  His season just ended so his weekends are a lot more free right now, but I work every other weekend so while we are now finally able to see each other more, that won’t be for too long because his “off season” work starts again in a few weeks.  Once the season starts though, he’s busy both days of the weekend, many times out of town traveling with the team.  I’ve asked my work to give me the same day off during the week as him, so we do have that one day together where all our other friends/family are working so we truly are able to spend time together just us.  But we’ve never been a joined at the hip type of couple anyway.

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We both work long hours during the week, especially if I’m on an intense project, so weekends are our main quality time together. Even still, we never spend an entire weekend at each other’s side for the whole weekend. Maybe if we’re away for a mini getaway but even then he’ll often go for a run for a couple hours.

He does iron Man’s so is training for several hours on the weekends as it’s the only time he can do his long runs and cycles. I am usually at the barn riding for at least 2-3 hours each weekend day as I only can do super short pre-dawn rides during the week. 

We spend weekend evenings together and try to walk the dogs together as our quality time. We’re both independent people with time intensive out-of-home hobbies but we are balanced in that. It sounds like you two are not balanced so something needs to adjust.

Rather than focusing on having entire weekends together, can you instead work with your SO that several hours each weekend are spent in quality time with you? Or that he only plays disc one weekend day and the other is for you two?

Post # 59
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Sugar bee

My husband works 6 days a week, 12-14 hour long days so we never get a weekend lol.

But Sunday is his day off. I have Sat and Sun off. So Sunday is sacred to us. We love football so during the football season it’s reserved for breakfast or brunch and watching the games! The rest of the year we will do little home improvement tasks, go out or take our dog somewhere, etc. Sometimes if he’s up to it, we’ll go out on a Saturday night and get a late dinner or hang out with friends.

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My SO live an hour away from each other, so we spend as much of each weekend together as we can manage and try to do dinner at least one night during the week. Once I’ve moved closer to his area, he’ll be moving in with me. I don’t expect that wanting to spend most of the weekend together will change, though. We’re both professionals with busy weeks, so the weekend will be our time to unwind. 

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