(Closed) How often do you and your SO/FI/DH fight?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you fight?

    multiple times per week

    about once a week

    once every couple weeks

    maybe once a month

    couple times per year

    we've never fought

  • Post # 31
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    Busy bee

    In three years, I think two legitimate fights. 

    We’ve had maybe three or four disagreements and they were no where near a fight. However we are both pretty agreeable and flexible and don’t have much to argue about really. 

    Post # 32
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We very rarely fight anymore. I think the last time we got into a fight was a few months before our wedding so that was probably about two years ago. We’ve been together for 8 and a half years and got our fighting phase out of the way a LOOONG time ago. We do bicker a lot though, but it’s generally good natured and I think we do it mostly just to bug each other lol!

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We’ve been together 4.5 years, and haven’t fought a lot other than two instances – when we first moved in together and now, planning the wedding!  To be honest, fighting usually means me throwing a mini tantrum – Fiance is very good at keeping his emotions in check. 

    Post # 34
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    Helper bee

     

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    Grossern:  We’ve been together 1.5 years and MAYBE fight once a month, and its usually something so stupid we can’t remember what it was about. Or we fight when I’m really hungry I get crabby when I’m hungry.

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    Together over 7 years and have had one major fight.  It was at the beginning of our relationship and probably a result of certain insecurities during that ackward phase when you’re first dating.  Other than that, we don’t fight.  Like, ever.

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We’ve been together for almost 3 years and married for almost 1. We have had disagreements and even raised our voices or walked off in frustration (mostly me…), but we’ve never had what I would consider to be a REAL fight – at least not at the same level that I’ve had with exes, and never for more than several minutes. That’s one thing that I really appreciate about him – when I’m upset he has an unusual ability to calm me down.

    Post # 37
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    Buzzing bee

    We’ve been together five years (11 months of that, married) and I can honestly say we’ve never fought. We do have discussions and we let each other know if we disagree, but I honestly don’t remember ever fighting with him. And I know that’s something I would remember. We’re both just very easy going and our main goal is really to make sure the other is well cared for and happy. We still think about ourselves, but once you’re in a relationship. It’s more about the other person.

    Post # 38
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Almost never and we have been together for 6.5 years. We have differing views on some things, (like religion and whatnot) but our differences never get the best of us. We always work through our disagreements before they get to a full-on brawl.

    Post # 39
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We’ve been together for 8 years. We have never fought. Neither of us are yellers. We follow rules for disagreements and “fighting fair” for when we disagree on something. 

    This is sort of like what we do

    http://cmhc.utexas.edu/fightingfair.html

    Post # 40
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We used to have frequent and very loud fights. That changed as I worked on my anger issues and learned not to make every issue a power struggle. My husband also had some difficulties with communication. 

    We have been together for seven years and married for three of those. Now we get along much better and we have learned to discuss challenges like mature and respectful adults. I still get too loud sometimes, but my husband always lovingly sets boundaries when I raise my voice. He will politely refuse to continue our conversation if I insist on shouting. I grew up in a very loud home filled with violence and terror, so I have to be mindful of not resorting to old survival skills which no longer fit into my life. 

    Being affectionate all the time keeps the conflict down in our marriage. It is hard to be angry with someone when you’re always cuddling or kissing them. 

    Post # 41
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We rarely fight.  Disagreements and such occassionally but only 1 actual fight in the last 9 years and 11 months (our 10 dating anniversary is in April!).

    Post # 42
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    We’ve lived together for over 7 years now and we’ve had maybe 2-3 real fights, a couple times a year we’ll bicker or get on eachother’s nerves, but not about anything that matters.  

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We’ve been together for over 4 years and we’ve only had three fights where one of us has left the premisis.  We’ve never broken up.  BUT we are both very stubborn and strong willed and we tend to go from 0-60 really fast so we have tons of little disagreements and those have been more frequent recently b/c we have a baby.. sooo add little sleep, less down time, more stress and two stubborn hard heads and yeah we clash more often.  Of course it only takes a little while for us to cool down and realize its no big deal and we have been constantly trying to work on our communication to avoid these little skirmishes, we are a work in progress but we love each other so much that we always get over it.

     

    Post # 44
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    We have been together for 5.5 years, and we fight a few times a year, but we have only had a couple bigger fights. More so after the birth of each of our daughters (3 and 3 month old)  (I blame exhaustion) or when I was pregnant lol.

    Post # 45
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Been together 2 years.

    No real fights. Occasional very quick disagreement. Like 2 or 3 times.

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