Post # 1
Laying it all out there.. I want Darling Husband to take me out more.
We never really dated. We have been together since I was 15, so we just started hanging out and that was that.
We are both pretty introverted and like spending time at home. I would like it though if he suggested going out more.. like to brunch or to dinner and a movie. If ever we do something like that, I plan it and it is like pulling teeth to get him to do it.
I go down to the beach daily to run and see couples at cafes or shopping and get so jealous because DH is really busy with work and studying for his masters so I spend a lot of time alone doing my own thing.
I’m not expecting going out more than once a week but damn, it would be nice to have something to say when people ask how I spent my weekend!
So ladies.. are my hopes to high or is Darling Husband dropping the ball here?
Post # 3
@dannielle89: My Darling Husband and I try to do a “date” at least 1 week – whether it’s going out for mcdonalds, or a more elaborate dinner and movie. We find that getting out, even for 30 minutes or an hour is much better for us in terms of spending time together, rather than being at home. There are just too many distractions at home!
This is probably something you’ve already done, but have you talked to Darling Husband about this?
Post # 4
At least once a week. Whenever we have money. We’ll go to the movies, or out to dinner, or to a zoo or aquarium…maybe a picnic if we wanna be cheap (just bring food from home!)
Danny works A LOT, but we always find time for these things. ^_^
Just tell him how important it is to you…
Post # 5
Hmm… my guy loves to spend time in front of the tv or on the internet. Even when we are away on vacation, he likes to “relax” by just hanging out at the hotel.
I find that if I’m very excited about something, he will happily go – he even went to the Hunger Games movie with me because it was all I talked about for like 2 months straight.
Try to get excited about things – a new restaurant, a beautiful day out hiking, etc. Maybe this would inspire him to join you. Also, don’t forget to suggest things that he may like as well… I’m generalizing here, but maybe a car show, or play 9-holes of golf, or go fishing, or something.
Post # 6
About 1-2 times a week at least, but if we have a day or weekend off together we tend to spend it together doing errands, stopping for coffee during it, going for a walk and window shopping, that kind of thing.
Have you talked to him? Have you read the Five Love Languages together? It sounds like perhaps you need some more Quality Time (and maybe he needs something else if he is reluctant to spend time wih you) but it might open both your eyes to seeing more what each other needs, and starting a conversation about it.
Post # 7
SO and I try and go on an elaborate date at least once a month, it ends up being more like twice a month. But we go on dates at least once a week, even if its just going to get ice cream, or going to a little fast food place. I would try talking to your Darling Husband, if you haven’t already.
Post # 8
We have kids and we try to make it out of the house on a date maybe one every other week. It really does help you appreciate one another better to share new experiences with each other.
Post # 9
I don’t think your hopes are too high.
We probably go on 2-4 dates per week…we’re not so much into ‘activities’ persay (save the occasional trip to the golf range) but lots of 1:1 going out for lunch, dinner, drinks, etc. I love going out for drinks together, it’s something that’s easy to fall out of once you’re long-term/live together since you can just easily have something at home, but there’s something about sitting at the bar getting a little tipsy together that keeps the evening fun and intimate 😉 and also a great way to relax and talk together without the tv (note: some bars need to be avoided due to sports on ALL.THE.TIME. my SO can be sorta bad with that, lol).
I would say check out Groupon, etc for deals…like another PP mentioned, checking out a new restaurant/bar is a great excuse to get out and deal websites are really great for that. You could even start a thing where for example, every Thursday (or every other Thursday depending on schedules/$$) you check out a new place.
Post # 10
Just the two of us- twice a month usually.
meeting up with friends somewhere- all the time.
Post # 11
We never really went on dates. The first time we hung out is probably our only “date”. We went to the Atlantic City boardwalk for a bit, but it was crowded so Fiance took me to Long Beach Island. We ate dinner there and then went back to his place so he didn’t have to drive me home (over 1.5 hours). I slept over, but we literally separated ourselves the entire night. Hahaha. The second time we hung out was on his birthday. We went to his house to watch movies and then well, one thing lead to another… no dates afterwards.
We’ve gone out to places throughout our relationships, but money has been tough lately. I’d love for us to get a bit more so we can enjoy going out together. It’s our only issue.
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
We make sure to get out of our condo at least once a week together. That could just be taking a walk or window shopping or grocery shopping 😉
Then we try to have a fancier date night once a month (usually dinner out and then renting a movie if nothing is good on at the theatre).