Post # 1
I know arguing is part of a healthy relationship, but there’s a line between healthy arguing and either too much or not enough. I’m just wondering on average, how often do you argue with your SO? Do you think it is productive to your relationship or not productive?
Post # 3
Hmmm. I was thinking about starting this thread, earlier!
It depends on our moods.
Probably once every 2 weeks? Not like, huuuuge fights. Just stupid spats. I get bitchy, he snaps at me for being bitchy, and then I take my laptop and a chair into the guest bathroom to cry for a bit and look at weddingbee while I’m in the bathtub.
They’re usually resolved in 45 minutes. We never argue though…we don’t have random fights about relationship related things. It’s always something very specific that I get snarky about, and then he gets mad. We’re predictable.
Post # 4
Proper gigantic fights… maybe once every 6 months… but we spat…
Post # 5
We probably have one bona fide argument a month. It is rarely very serious, but it does involve serious discussion, one or both of us being a bit upset, sometimes slightly raised voices or frustration.
We have gotten really good at arguing productively, so I would say it is absolutely beneficial for our relationship. We can both articulate our feelings, share our emotions (even if that means getting upset, angry), and come to a point of mutual understanding. Once that happens we are able to move forward with a compromise and solution.
Post # 6
That totally depends on your definition of argue. We bicker fairly frequently but neither one of us is mad when we do it, and it usually lasts less than 30 seconds.
Post # 7
I said once a month. For the record, we’ve never had screaming fits or anything like that. Usually disagreements that we can talk through. We’re in a LDR, so that may change once we move in together!
Post # 8
I’m with @MissBoPeep: . We bicker a lot. A significant amount more because of the wedding, honestly. However, they aren’t real fights, and they end rather quickly.
We have a big fight maybe…..every six months or so.
Post # 9
We bicker over stupid stuff at LEAST once a day “Did you drink my last Gatordae?!” but it’s usually forgotten by the time it started.We’ve been an “old married couple” since we were first dating.
Big fights happen every few months or so. I’m not talking screaming horrible nasty fights, but heated discussions or disagreement. These fights usually happen when we’re both at our stress capacity. We recently had one over laundry, and we’ll be due for another around August or September if we’re being predictable.
Post # 10
I said once every few months, but I was thinking actual arguments. We disagree on things or debate issues more often, but neither of us consider those fights or even real arguments.
Post # 11
I think we fight maybe once every few months. We do bicker most of the time but it’s not a mean bickering, we are very sarcastic and our bickering turns into a laughter fight lol
Post # 12
We argue quite a bit, but it’s silly things that don’t matter. Like during video games, it’s actually ridiculous and we usually end up laughing about it.
Post # 13
Yeah, to add:
Huge fights occur like once every month and a half-ish. Those are our dramatic, yelling fights. Usually about stupid shit, to be honest. But they get snarky.
Post # 14
We bicker like it’s our job but we almost never fight. Honestly, the only time that we do is when it relates to the one car that we share between the two of us. I make plans to go somewhere (always early AM on a Saturday – garage sales with my Mom) and he gets mad because he wants to use the car. I could understand where he comes from if he was actually going to be out and about during the time that I’m gone (we’re talking like 7am-10am) but he’s not even out of PJ’s by the time I get home. I always win the fight when he realizes that I’m right and he’s wrong (gee, if only he could do that all the time we wouldn’t have any issues). Once we get a second mode of transportation, which we’re currently in the market for now, we won’t have much to argue about.
Post # 15
we don’t argue very often. in fact i’m trying to figure out the last real fight we had. must have been about a year ago.
i read somewhere that you should pick your arguements. before really getting into a fight with your SO, ask yourself if this (whatever the issue) will affect you or your relationship in 5 years. if yes, it should be discussed but if no, let it go.
Post # 16
I voted once a month, but like others said it really depends on your definition of “argue”. For us it’s usually like a 2 minute argument (if that) about something stupid and one of us will apologize ten minutes later and we move on with it. We don’t really have big blow out fights.