Post # 32
We spoke about upgrading my center stone down the road sine its only a .5, but honestly I would want to upgrade to something in the ~12k range and I would rather spend a couple thousand more and go on a sweet vacation instead.
Post # 33
@lilsweetie: Not really, they’re two totally different styles. This is her original e-ring. “It was very popular in the 80’s!” She says… I love it.
And 5 years later, she upgraded to this. There is a second ring alternating small sapphires and diamonds, but she lost a sapphire out of it and needs to get it repaired. She kept the same wedding band. I love her sapphires, they are almost black even in the light.
Both are in white gold. And before anyone thinks it’s creepy that I have pics of my mum’s rings, I do her nails all the time and take pics of the nail art 😉
Post # 34
Never. I could never give up the ring that he proposed with. It means far more to me than that. Even if I didn’t think that it was the most beautiful ring in the world I would never change it.
Post # 35
When FH bought me my ring, we had talked about upgrading in the future. Originally, I just wanted to move my stone into a more antique setting with some milligrain and engraving. But now my mom is going to give me one of my great grandmother’s diamonds so we may just upgrade completely.
I don’t think I would upgrade more than once.
Post # 36
I didn’t vote bcuz I feel none fits my situation.
I will NEVER sell (or upgrade) my engagement diamond bcuz it was a wedding gift from my late Mother-In-Law, I did however changed the simple solitaire setting to a halo in 2011. But I keep it in the bank vault most of the time (since my Mother-In-Law passed) bcuz I plan to pass it down as a family heirloom.
I love variety and own many different sets that I alternate according to my mood.
Post # 37
I have been married ten years and am going on my 5th set (center stone has been upgraded once! People will say what they want….and many think its wrong that I have upgraded. However my first e-ring my mother in law picked out because she didnt like the ring my husband picked out, so for our two year ann. we got a new set….cause the first one didnt hold much meaning since my Mother-In-Law picked it out. Then for our five year he asked if I wanted a bigger diamond, so of course I said yes, and I got a new diamond and set….then for our seven year we bought a used platinum set without a center stone cause it was a good deal and I wanted it, but its very simple and I am not a simple person….he always laughs about that set cause he said he knew I would want something different. Now our ten year has come up and I am keeping my center stone but getting a new set that has three bands with paved diamonds and is a halo. He has said this is the last upgrade 🙂 I personally dont see anything wrong with it. We still have my original diamond and set to give to our daughter someday.
Post # 38
I’m relatively newly engaged so im still in the walking headlong into traffic staring at my ring stage but I’d never upgrade. My Fi went out of his way to choose something I’d love and he got it totally spot on. He’s also bought me my dream wedding ring and I can’t imagine ever wanting to change them. this is just my personal opinion though and I am not anti upgrade. my mum upgraded to a 3 carat princess cut solitaire and that resulted in me inheriting the beautiful emerald engagement ring my father gave her (they are still together).
Post # 39
I think it is a lot harder to say anything with certainty when one is newly married. If you had asked me then, I’d have said I’d never change it. But many people become more pragmatic with age. For our 15th anniversary we upgraded my ring; it just better reflects where we are in life. I would never give up my original ring; I still have it and did not trade it in. But for us, the ring is not the commitment; it is simply jewelry. As long a the man is the same, I am fine with changing up the symbols/jewelry!
Post # 40
@mnp: im hoping to upgrade on our anniversary, that might be too soon though so maybe on our 5th anniversary. i love my engagement ring i have (i chose it myself) but my tastes have changed and i want a more classic style now. atm i have a princess cut
Post # 41
I love my ring! I dont think I could ever change it! Well maybe just a bigger center stone… but thats way off 🙂
Post # 42
I am fortunate that s/o’s budget will allow me to have a beautiful ring (once it is finished) that I know undoubtedly I will love & cherish for years to come, is filled with sentimental meaning to us, and that I will never want to part with, and hope to wear every day for the rest of my life. But even if it were a smaller ring/stone that was bought with a small budget and intent to upgrade later in life, I wouldn’t be able to part with THAT ring. To me, it’s like saying, “well, little/less desirable ring, you were okay for a little while, but you no longer cut it & need to step aside.” I would see it as hurtful. But that is just me … Everyone’s views and reasons are as different & unique as we all are as individuals.
Post # 43
We’ve upgraded once, because my e-ring was too big, and I didn’t like princess cut center stone anymore. I still have that ring, wear it as a RHR sometimes. Now I have an emerald cut, which I LOVE, but unfortunately it doesn’t look good with my wedding band.
And my wedding band is really the most important piece of jewellery to me (in my country e-rings and engagement in general aren’t as important as wedding bands/rings, and the actual wedding), and I want to be able to wear it with my e-ring, so we’re most likely going to upgrade to a (bigger) RB in a few years. The other option would be to buy a baguette band as a wedding band, but I just feel that I can’t.
Post # 44
@echomomm: i couldnt agree more! its not the ring its the man and as long as we are one then thats all that matters. besides he doesnt care….if he did i wouldntdo it.
Post # 45
I’m shocked that ‘upgrading’ your ring is a thing at all, nevermind that people do it enough that asking “how often do you do it?” doesn’t raise an eyebrow.
Aside from maybe a very cheap ‘temporary placeholder’ ring if you got engaged very young, I can’t believe people could want to ‘upgrade’ the ring their fiance proposed with. At that point, it just seems like ‘any old piece of jewellery’, not the sentimental thing it should be.
Post # 46
I voted that I swap my rings out pretty frequently. While I’m not engaged, I am a jewelry lover with slightly bigger hands (my ring fingers are a size 8, so my others are going to be either bigger or way smaller in the case of my pinkies), so will wear a ring on each ring finger some of the time. Typically, I will choose them based off of my outfits.
As a college student, I live in an environment where enough girls wear rings on whatever finger they choose just for the heck of it. I don’t get any questions or assumptions, but someone assuming I’m engaged isn’t a horrible judgement.
Also, my mother tends to rotate the ring she wears with her wedding band. Usually, it’s one of her diamond upgrades (she’s been married over 30 years), but I will spot one of her beloved sapphires paired with her wedding ring from time to time… 🙂