Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
So just curious to see how often you check the phone, Facebook, Twitter, Text, E-Mail account of your SO ( I probably forgot a few options… sorry!)
Feel free to add your comment/thoughts/opinions on the matter!
I will go ahead and say my situation… I do not make a habit of checking into anything nor do I feel the need to. My Fiance has a FB but barely uses it, and he asks me to answer his phone, check who is calling/write a text back to whoever just called or sent a text and his email is almost always pulled up and full of spam mail.
I feel like if your SO is going to sneak around, they’re going to do it whether you check their phone or not. THAT said– I once dated a guy for three years who did put a password on his phone and would keep girls numbers in his phone under guys’ names… so I definitely think some shady things can go on with or without you every finding out! ( I didn’t find out until much, much later).
Just curious to see if it is something that goes on a lot or just every so often ( or never!)
If i have forgotten an option… please feel free to add one in the comment section!
Post # 3
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Honey bee
I am a combination of the above. I could go through it at free will. I have access to everything and he often leaves stuff open on the computer. But other than a cursory glace at whose account is logged in, I dont. Never had a reason to check anything.
And similar to the OP if someone is driving we will answer/respond to people on the others phone etc.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I dont! Unless he asks me to for him. And even then I feel weird about it. He’s never given me cause/reason to do it; so why dig?
We have exchanged passwords in case of an emergency but thats it!
Post # 5
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Honey bee
You forgot the “Never” option which is what I would fall under. I have no reason to check his accounts. I never look at his phone, email, facebook messages, etc. Sometimes he asks me to check his email if he’s expecting something, but I don’t go snooping around. I know his passwords and he’s fine with that because there’s nothing to hide.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
I never have logged into his accounts 🙂 Now that is not to say I did not find a way to internet stalk him a few years ago when he went through a period we fondly know as his “idiot from h*ll time” which proved my suspicios nature was spot on lol but now I have no reason and have no passwords 🙂
Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
We have access to each others stuff, but never use it to snoop. There is no need, for us at least. But, we could each easily access anything for the other person if there was a need. There is no mystery, so to me that equals very little to no risk.
It also helps that we were both cheated on in prior relationships, so we have been very up front on how we would stop it from happening if it were to ever come up, and there is no need to look at the other persons stuff unless asked to
Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
is there a “never” option?
Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
I voted for the first option because it’s as close to “never” as the options get.
The only acct I’ve ever logged into of his is his amazon account to see what a package is that is waiting at our concierge service (i.e. is it really heavy/big? or can I carry it home).
I have no need to check his e-mail or anything else.
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
I voted Do not do it on a regular basis but I really don’t do it at all. If he’s driving he may ask me to text a reply to somebody but thats really the only time I ever touch his phone. He uses the same password for everything but I just see 0 reason to check in on what he’s doing.
Post # 12
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Honey bee
Never.
I mean, I guess if he asked me to I would, but there’s nothing on his accounts that I’m particularly interested in so why would I?
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
Never. Though we do ask who called/texted/emailed if we hear each others phone’s going off and if we care to know.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
We don’t feel the need to go through each other’s belongings. I can’t stand it when people do it either. REGARDLESS, everyone is their own person. Everyone has a right to their own privacy. If you have issues, then you need to get them resolved before you committ to someone in ANY WAY. Just plain stupid and childish.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
Only if he asks me to. I’m not one for snooping. It’s a terrible habit, imo.
Post # 16
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Honey bee
I go on DH’s email account if there is something that I need to take care of (like bill related) and that I know he won’t. Other than that, I have no reason to check his email.
