(Closed) How Often do you check your SO’s phone/text/Facebook/email??

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you check your SO's Phone/text/email/Facebook/Twitter?
    Do not do it on a regular basis : (355 votes)
    54 %
    Have gone through it a couple of times.. but only if I suspect something may be wrong : (78 votes)
    12 %
    We go through each others phones/accounts at free will : (89 votes)
    14 %
    Other (please explain) : (132 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    I am a combination of the above. I could go through it at free will. I have access to everything and he often leaves stuff open on the computer. But other than a cursory glace at whose account is logged in, I dont. Never had a reason to check anything.

    And similar to the OP if someone is driving we will answer/respond to people on the others phone etc.

    Post # 4
    3364 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I dont! Unless he asks me to for him. And even then I feel weird about it. He’s never given me cause/reason to do it; so why dig?

    We have exchanged passwords in case of an emergency but thats it!

    Post # 5
    4159 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    You forgot the “Never” option which is what I would fall under.  I have no reason to check his accounts.  I never look at his phone, email, facebook messages, etc.  Sometimes he asks me to check his email if he’s expecting something, but I don’t go snooping around.  I know his passwords and he’s fine with that because there’s nothing to hide.

    Post # 6
    2100 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I never have logged into his accounts 🙂 Now that is not to say I did not find a way to internet stalk him a few years ago when he went through a period we fondly know as his “idiot from h*ll time” which proved my suspicios nature was spot on lol but now I have no reason and have no passwords 🙂

    Post # 8
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We have access to each others stuff, but never use it to snoop. There is no need, for us at least. But, we could each easily access anything for the other person if there was a need. There is no mystery, so to me that equals very little to no risk.

    It also helps that we were both cheated on in prior relationships, so we have been very up front on how we would stop it from happening if it were to ever come up, and there is no need to look at the other persons stuff unless asked to

    Post # 9
    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    is there a “never” option?

    Post # 10
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I voted for the first option because it’s as close to “never” as the options get.

    The only acct I’ve ever logged into of his is his amazon account to see what a package is that is waiting at our concierge service (i.e. is it really heavy/big? or can I carry it home).

    I have no need to check his e-mail or anything else.

    Post # 11
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I voted Do not do it on a regular basis but I really don’t do it at all. If he’s driving he may ask me to text a reply to somebody but thats really the only time I ever touch his phone. He uses the same password for everything but I just see 0 reason to check in on what he’s doing.

    Post # 12
    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011


    I mean, I guess if he asked me to I would, but there’s nothing on his accounts that I’m particularly interested in so why would I?

    Post # 13
    2320 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Never. Though we do ask who called/texted/emailed if we hear each others phone’s going off and if we care to know.

    Post # 14
    352 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We don’t feel the need to go through each other’s belongings. I can’t stand it when people do it either. REGARDLESS, everyone is their own person. Everyone has a right to their own privacy. If you have issues, then you need to get them resolved before you committ to someone in ANY WAY. Just plain stupid and childish.

    Post # 15
    3522 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Only if he asks me to. I’m not one for snooping. It’s a terrible habit, imo.

    Post # 16
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I go on DH’s email account if there is something that I need to take care of (like bill related) and that I know he won’t. Other than that, I have no reason to check his email.


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