(Closed) How Often do you check your SO’s phone/text/Facebook/email??

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you check your SO's Phone/text/email/Facebook/Twitter?

    Do not do it on a regular basis

    Have gone through it a couple of times.. but only if I suspect something may be wrong

    We go through each others phones/accounts at free will

    Other (please explain)

  • Post # 137
    535 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I have never checked any of these things.  I trust my husband completely and feel no need to look through his private correspondences.  If I had cause to think he was doing something inappropriate, I would just ask him.

    Post # 138
    2755 posts
    Sugar bee

    I can easily access his computer/facebook/phone/email, etc. but really have no reason to. Like others have said, sometimes he’ll have me check a text or something but I don’t read through his stuff if I do – just that one message.

    I will say, back when we first began dating I was stupid and unreasonably jealous of a female friend of his who he chatted with online constantly, so I read a few of their conversations when he was out of the room :/  I had no reason to be jealous at all and thinking about it now just makes me feel like an idiot.

    Post # 139
    1238 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    um, my “other” is NEVER. I find it weird that it wasn’t an option.

    Why would a snoop in my partner’s private stuff, email, phone texts? god, sounds awful to have that much doubt and insecurity in a relationship.

    Post # 140
    273 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I would never do that unless he asked me to.  We really respect each other’s privacy and we are really secure in our relationship.  I trust him, he trusts me, there is no need for checking up on each other.

    Post # 141
    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I voted OTHER becauuse my answer is NEVER. I dont have a reason to be in his phone or his email. I made up his email accouunt and password so i could easily get on there, but I just dont see a need.

    Post # 142
    2259 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Never. The only reason I would (mututally) is if the other asked us to for practical reasons, etc. 

    Like…. if I left my computer at home and needed to find out what someone said via email I will have FH check it. 

    Post # 143
    8 posts

    I also voted other as I never go through my SO phone or email etc as I don’t need to and he doesn’t go through mine either. I can understand if people do if they have been cheated on or let down in the past etc, but if you really trust someone then you shoudn’t have to check his phone/emails/facebook etc. In the 7 1/2 years we have been together he has never lied to me or gone behind my back and I know that he never will.

    Post # 144
    2319 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I will check his email, text, FB once in a blue moon. But it has nothing to do with his actions. There are times when I feel like the scum of the earth. And I have literally NO self esteem and feel like how can anyone love/like me? There must be something wrong with my SO. He must be cheating on me. So yeah, that’s all in MY head only. So I’ll frantically snoop around and of course I won’t find anything. Then I feel…. umm…. stupid. Embarassed

    Post # 145
    2008 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have all of his passwords and he has mine but we do not ever go through each others stuff. 


    I do not understand why anyone would do this?

    Post # 146
    1331 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Haha, I did in college. We dated 7 years before the wedding, so we’ve been through a lot of stuff. 19-20 was my crazy phase, and it didn’t help that he had an ex who was basically waiting for us to break up. she’d come around every 6 months or so, and they’d go to dinner, and I would occasionally go through his phone to see if she’d called or texted. I felt bad even then, and one day, when they hadn’t talked in a year, I said to myself, “Sweetpea, this is the man you want to spend your life with. What you’re doing is disrespectful, distrustful, and immature, so you’ve gotta stop now.” Yes, that really happened, and I never went back. If he leaves his e-mail open on the computer I’ll scan over the unread messages, but he usually asks me to read him his new e-mails anyway. I never go through it or log in myself. If I felt the need to do that, we wouldn’t be married.

    ETA: I do go on his FB. But that’s because there’s this girl that defriended me who is still FB friends with him, and she got married a week after us, and I wanna look at her wedding plans/pictures. Hahaha. It has nothing to do with him.

    Post # 148
    5667 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Aside from the “Honey, my phone went off, is it an email or a text?” while driving type stuff, never.

    Post # 149
    1728 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I “have” checked it..but i rarely do- and hes given me the passcodes for everything..most times its to retrieve an email that was important. I have no need to really other then that


    Post # 150
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee

    Never, ever.  I do not have his passwords and he does not have mine.  Like other PPs, no reason to do so.

    Post # 151
    803 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Never. I would be livid if he logged into any of my accounts or read my texts. I love him and I have nothing to hide, but I have my own life and I still have a right to privacy, and so do the friends who choose to share things with me that they might not want repeated to my Fiance.

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