How often do you decline a wedding invite?

posted 3 months ago in Wedding Related
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  • Post # 33
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    Worker bee

    The older I get the less obligated I feel to attend. I have 3 weddings this year. 2 are out of state, far out of state. We’re attending one of my best friends and my bfs cousins. The other is a friend I’ve seen once in the past two years. 

    Post # 34
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    Honey Beekeeper

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    @sharpshooter:  If you are friends of the parents then I personally wouldn’t count that as a casual invitation. Our parents co-hosted our wedding and invited several tables of friends of their own. While each or both of us had met these people at some point, the main purpose was to share the joy of the day with people important to them. 

    I agree that the work colleague was strange if no one else in the department was invited and they aren’t close. 

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2021 - Australia

    I’ve never declined one yet – I love a good wedding! But there’s so many factors to take into consideration. Do I really know this person? Is anyone else I know going? Is my fiance invited? Do I have other financial or personal commitments that would make the expense or travel of going impossible or difficult? Are covid restrictions such that it would be irresponsible of me to attend? And, I’ve never encountered it yet, but I suppose as well, ‘do I support the couple and their relationship?’ If one of the parties is actively cheating on the other or abusing them in some way, then I likely wouldn’t feel comfortable attending, but I’ve never been involved in a situation like that, so my feelings about it are all hypothetical.

    And I definitely wouldn’t feel bad to decline any of the above scenarios. It’s an invitation, not a summons, and I know loving weddings the way I do, that it would likely have to be a really solid reason for me to not want to attend, it wouldn’t be like, “I can’t be bothered” type thing!

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee

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    @yellowgold3846:  I felt guilty recently for declining a friends wedding. But we are just not comfortable in the curent climate with a young child in a different city. I don’t think anyone is terribly upset at declined wedding invites unless you are VERY close with the couple, and usually then you get a heads up. 

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