Post # 1
It’s been a month, we’ve decided to be exclusive and when we’re together he’s the most attentive, sweet, best guy you could ask for. But he is incredibly busy w work and doesn’t text me every day. I mentioned it’d be cool to hear from him more and next time we were hanging out he brought up, “I have to get better at texting.” He spent the night Friday, on Saturday he initiated 2 different text convos. But on Sunday none. I texted him and he responded immediately saying he was working on a bunch of his work stuff, didn’t seem to want to have a longer convo really. I want to talk daily and am getting amnoyed. What do I do
Post # 2
Some people just aren’t really into texting. From what you said, it seems like he prefers to have conversations in person. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you or care about you. If it really bothers you to the point where it’s a deal breaker, maybe you should find someone whose communication style lines up better with yours.
Post # 3
I understand the relationship is new and exciting for you and I think you should be understanding that he is working a lot and doesn’t always have time to text you back. My SO works in the ER and so if I text him through out the day, I don’t expect him to text me back immediately and engage in a long conversation, he’s busy saving lives!
You’ve already asked him to try and be more mindful with conversations, so maybe next time try to stress the level of importance it is for him to respond or initiate conversations but don’t be upset when he is truly busy.
Post # 5
I think you should chill out a little…there are several things that are huge turnoffs to men…one is a “needy” girl…you should never have to ask or tell him you need to hear from him more
Post # 6
ct2015: That’s not just men. I dumped my share of needy boys back in the day.
OP, if you’re already getting annoyed by his communication style after a month, move on.
For both your sakes.
Post # 7
My Fiance doesn’t live with me and if I don’t see him at all for a few days, I don’t call, he doesn’t call… no big deal. But we have to remember that some people feel pressured and think you are too clingy if you have to talk every day. We are all individuals, even when we are married, we are two separate persons with our own work/hobbies/interests and frankly I don’t like someone who wants to be with me all the time, I like my space. But if you can text him and he texts back, great! You have connected in that way for that day. Another day is coming with another “connection”.
Post # 8
zebra10: There are some people who love to talk to the person they’re dating 24/7. There are other people who don’t like texting very much (I’m one of those people). For both of your sakes, since we have seen via your other posts that you are extremely needy and obsessive, you need to find someone who is just as needy and in to texting as you are or you’re going to drive this poor guy insane.
Post # 10
I’m one of those people who likes to talk to my Fiance as much as I can. I don’t get upset if he doesn’t answer right away, though. People have lives, and I understand that.
We promised to kind of keep each-other updated as to what we are doing throughout the day, so neither of us are worried about the other (we live 2 hours apart for the time being).
Post # 11
OMG not this chick again. THERAPY girl…THERAPY.
Post # 12
OP, if you want to drive him off, then keep telling him that he needs to call and text more often. Works like a charm every time.
If you need frequent communication, then it sounds like this is not the guy for you.
And going back to your question: how often did I expect texts/calls? My Darling Husband does not like texting so I literally have never gotten a text from him, LOL. When we were dating, we talked on the phone several times a week. But we had really great quality time on our dates so it worked for me.
Post # 13
I like to talk to my SO on a daily basis if possible, especially since he lives 2 hours away. But I prefer phone conversations or Facetime, not texting. So does he. I try to send him a text every morning to wish him a good day and I’m thinking about him, and while I do get a little annoyed (on occasion) because he rarely responds to my texts, in the grand scheme of things, it’s not a big deal. I know he cares about me and loves me and it’s much more fun video chatting or hearing each other’s voice and being goofy with each other than to try and type a long message out over text.
It’s all about personal preference. Have you suggested talking on the phone instead of texting?
Post # 14
zebra10: some people like to talk constantly, others only like to reach out with something concrete to discuss. If you want to talk daily, text or call him daily! problem solved.
Post # 15
whitums: Of course all the past threads have been deleted…
zebra10: OP, on the off chance that you are a real person, this is a normal amount of communication for a new relationship. However, I strongly urge you to seek out counseling as this will help you to become a better partner and hopefully have less self doubt.