Post # 16
When it comes to Mother-In-Law, once. Not once/month or once/year. Just once, to see our house. DH, Father-In-Law and I have all been working on it. lol She’s a homebody.
When it comes to the rest of the family, I don’t really have specific expectations. With our current locations, I expect to see everyone at least once/year, but it doesn’t matter who travels.
Post # 17
I am in a similar situation. My husband, daughter and I live 9 hours away from my childhood town where most of my family lives. When we first moved we used to travel 3-4 times a year to visit them but that has changed. We have now lived in a different state for 3 years and only my mother, stepfather and great grandmother have come to visit us. I only have 1 sibling (a brother) and he has never come to visit. If I want to see my nephew then I have to make the trip to them. We now only travel once a year to visit them. I get to see my mother, stepfather and great grandmother about every 6 months and we talk every day. For the rest of my family, I talk to them once every few months and I see them when we make the trip once a year. Relationships take 2 people to make them work and I am not going to waste my time trying to keep a relationship that someone else doesn’t seem to care about at all. It sucks because they are family, but there is no reason that you should feel sad or let down by people who are not taking the time to try to make you feel otherwise.
I also agree with bitsybee that what goes on in your hometown shouldn’t make you feel left out. That is not a part of your daily routine any longer. You have made a life for yourself and your family outside of that area and should be proud of it…no matter what anyone thinks. Don’t worry so much about what your family thinks. As long as you are happy in your life, that is all that matters! I hope everything works out for you! 🙂
Post # 18
even though my parents and I lived in lots of states in the USA, my parents and I live eight hours from our home state and my sister, and most of my grandparents live in Michigan Except for one set of grandparents but half of my extended family lives in my home state. We visit my home state about twice a year, maybe more depending on the occasion. Like this year I’ll be in my home state twice this summer. when it comes to my parents and I and my family/relatives, we are the ones that make the trips. The only person who has visited was my one set of grandparents. I have even visited my grandparents who live in tennesse. (My homestate is Michigan) I lived in several different places and out of all my friends I think two or three people have actually came out of their way to visit me. My bestest friend dosnt visit me, I usually visit her since she’s in my home state where my family is at.