Post # 1
I know that everyone is different. I know some people that fight with eachother every day (just over little things) and others who only have one big blow out fight every 6 months or so. Just wondering on average what most of you guys deal with…
I don’t mean like pack your bags and leave kind of fight… but just annoyances and disagreements with your SO where you guys need like a few hours apart.
Please be honest!
Post # 3
@alohakay: We probably bicker pretty frequently – but it’s not a fight. It’s like a few back and forth words and then we’re fine. And it’s always the same shit – for example – from me, you hear, “BABE! PUT THE FRIGGIN TOILET PAPER ON THE ROLL! – DONT JUST LEAVE IT ON TOP OF THE SINK!”
Him: “Babe, do you think you can pick up your 20 books that are sprawled all across the floor so I don’t trip and die?”
He’s way more level headed than I am lol.
Post # 4
@alohakay: Its pretty rare that we have a full on can-not-agree-at-all, fight. In our 6 year relationship we maybe had 2. All other “fights” are usually mis-communication or misinterpretation of what the other has said and we just get annoyed, but we dont actually fight about it.
Post # 5
@alohakay: I’d say once every 2 or 3 weeks… sometimes we go longer. Granted usually the longer we go, when we have a blow out its a REALLY big blowout lol. I think we’ve gotten better at saying what’s really going on in our heads though to kinda fight it out before it esculates
Post # 6
I would say we have a disagreements about once a month…usually because he will mention something I don’t like or do something that i don’t like but it’s nothing too serious.
Post # 7
We are between once a month and once a year though I voted once a month to be on the conservative side. In likelihood, probably 2-3 times per year for an actual fight. We have little bickers here and there, but a fight where we disagree strongly, are mad at one another, need space, etc. then 2-3 times per year max.
Post # 8
Once a month, but it’s mostly connected with my pmdd so even though I’m livid at the time, I try to remember it isnt a big deal. Its only over little/unimportant things and never with yelling/name calling. It just involves me being catty and not talking to him for a while… My poor SO. One day I’m fine, the next I’m the devil.
Post # 9
We have very minor bickers probably once a week. I wouldn’t even classify it as an argument (but I’m sure that some would). Just little annoyances like when he keeps saying he’ll take the compost container out to the bin in our garden. And he said it every day for 4 days, adn now the container is overflowing. I took it out this afternoon, and then he was all “OMG. I was going to do that!” so I said “Okay, you’ve said that. But when? It was gross and overflowing. I can do it anyway”.
Major fights? Once or twice a year. But those aren’t “I’m packing my bags” or since we’re married now “Ef this I’m calling up [family attorney]”
Post # 10
Whenever we’re in love with the same chick, and then I turn into a wolf, and she tries to drink my blood, and it’s just drama city.
Post # 11
It goes in spurts. We won’t argue for a good while, then there will be something in the water for a few days and we argue constantly. It’s almost always miscommunication-type stuff.
Post # 12
We have never fought … Like ever. Literally. We calmly discuss things we don’t agree on. Apparently that’s really odd ? :/
Post # 13
I’d say about once a year we will have a real argument. We bicker once in a while too, and I know it’s silly, but the bickering is even fun sometimes. I come from a family where anger and frustration isn’t safe to be expressed, so there’s something so freeing about not holding back, particularly when there isn’t any real resentment beneath it. Actually, I think the bickering helps me to manage my resentment, so that it doesn’t turn into anything bigger later.
Post # 14
@alohakay: DH and i ‘fight’ all the time.We are polar opposite and can only agree on a handful of things. We love each other and have been together 11 years. I like to think we’re both passionate people :). We arent in your face going to a dark place fighting, but we like our daily banter 😛 .
Post # 15
I voted once a month, but it’s more like once every five or six months. We have maybe 2 fights per year and they are never that bad. The most we have ever gone without speaking over an issue was four hours. That was our biggest fight ever. We just don’t argue! We don’t really bicker either. I’ve had friends tell me this is totally unhealthy(the never arguing) but we get along really well and neither of us like confrontation at all.
Post # 16
We had a ‘kind of fight’ last month for the first time in over 2 years. We were pretty much just stubborn and didn’t talk very much for a day but there was no yelling or arguing. It was over something that neither of us had control over either so it was a stupid reason to ‘fight’. We usually never argue at all to be honest… it’s extremely rare. The last time we argued before lasts months spat was the day we got engaged 2 and a half years ago and that is a very long story (which is actually posted on wb for those who have been here for a while lol).