(Closed) How often do you get to see each other?

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
  • poll:
    less than a month : (4 votes)
    6 %
    at least once a month : (17 votes)
    25 %
    1-2 months apart : (16 votes)
    23 %
    3-6 months apart : (17 votes)
    25 %
    over a year apart (wow!) : (0 votes)
    on the weekends : (15 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
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    3166 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    1-2 months apart. these past couple of weeks though I’ve had business trips that I was able to build in some flights to see him so we’ve been very lucky and seen each other 3 weekends in a row! usually it’s every 4-6 weeks though. i think our relationship is very healthy and we’re still happy. we cherish every moment we have together and don’t take each other for granted. sure it’s not ideal, but we’re still happy and in love and can’t wait ’til we’re together again full time!

    Post # 4
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    968 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I voted for 1-2 months apart. Right now it doesn’t affect our relationship because we are on the same work schedule doing the same thing (just separately) so we are both kept occupied with a common ground while we’re apart. Then we are together for about two weeks before we are separated for another month again for work.

    I wonder how our relationship will be affected when we get pregnant and I am staying at home instead of working the same schedule. I think the time apart will be more acute for me then, and I hope it is not unbearable. I’m sure we can make it work out just fine, though. 🙂

    Post # 5
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    711 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I said once a month – about every five weeks. I am in university finishing off teacher’s college and he is in the military. I am really looking forward to Christmas break where we get 3 weeks together before being separated again until next April. Although it is really hard I find we have to go out of the way to make our relationship work. We write each other little I love you goodmorning or goodnight emails and we try to at least get in one phone call, sometimes brief, a day.

    I know I definitely start to feel it around week 3/4. I can’t wait until this year is done, although with him being in the military this is only just the tip of the iceberg. It’s important to really keep the communication going and because you can’t touch the other person to express how much you love them.

    I am sure it could have a negative effect on our relationship – but we don’t let it. It definitely makes coping difficult some days, but we work to make it work.

    Post # 6
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    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    4-8 Months. It has a a positive and negative impact for us, or at least I think so. We’ve been long distance since we started dating (from me being in the AF to getting a contracting job overseas), positively both of us have grown up more and we definitely know how to communicate (lol, sometimes a lil too much), but its hard being away for important dates like holidays, birthdays, even our anniversary. And then there are the times where I just need to hear his voice….kinda hard with a 7-8 hr time difference. All in all though when I come home on vacation, we make up for time lost.

     

    Post # 7
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    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I live in Detroit and my SO lives in Chicago so we are technically only 4 1/2 hrs drive away from each other.  But with his work schedule we really only get to see each other once a month.  I am lucky in the sense that he works for an airline and can fly me out if I cannot drive.

    I think it does impact our relationship for good and bad.  I would love to see him more and I think it would help with my sadness of being apart. It’s also a positive I believe to be apart in our relationship because it makes our relationship stronger!

    Post # 8
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    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We are not LDR anymore, but when we were, we say each other on weekends. We knew we were lucky to see each other that often, but the travel back and forth was really hard. I am glad we aren’t LDR anymore!

    When is the next time you all will get to see your SOs?

    Post # 9
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    3166 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @rachaelrobin: congrats on being “full time”! haha. 10 Dec, that’s when he’ll come up for the weekend so he can meet the priest for the first time & we can start the whole pre-cana process and we’re also going to his hometown for his stepmom’s & nephew’s birthday parties. won’t see him again after that until mid-January… unfortunately we’re looking at probably being apart for the holidays.

    Post # 10
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    759 posts
    Busy bee

    Right now we see each other about every 3 or 4 months.  Unfortunately that will change when he finally gets his dream job.  And because they job can take him anywhere in the US, he predicts he will be gone for 3 or 4 months at a time, and doesn’t know if he will have any time off between shows.   So we may go down to seeing each other only twice a year.  🙁 

    And I don’t think the distance has changed our relationship much.  It’s hard that’s for sure but we still feel the same about each other as much as we did before he left 6 months ago.

    Post # 11
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    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @elliestan: Haha! Thanks!! Dec. is right around the corner, it will be here before you know it! Hope the meeting with your priest goes well.

    Post # 12
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    935 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    We’ve been so lucky, I’ve seen him every 1-2 weeks on weekends. In fact, we had a few weekends in a row that we saw each other and now it’s a 2 week break and I’m going NUTS! He’ll be here this weekend though. I’m new to the LDR boards. I’m in California and he’s in Tenessee. I am working on moving to Texas (a move that was already in the works before we met) so that will be closer to him. 

    I think it affects our relationship in good ways, since we don’t take it for granted and we cherish our time together. The bad part is some days/weeks are really rough becuase we miss each other and it only seems to get more difficult (as in we miss each other even more) as the relationship progresses.

    Post # 14
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    35 posts
    Newbee

    I see him every weekend and compared to some of you girls…I feel like a baby! I get so upset that we have to part but at least I will be seeing him in 6 or 7 days from that point.

    You girls are so strong and so are your SOs!

    Post # 15
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    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I put on the weekends, even though it’s not technically the weekend. He comes over late Wednesday night and leaves around lunch time on Friday. We’re both in school right now, but Fiance will be done with college in December 2011. Right now he lives an hour away, and he works for the most horrible place known to mankind (WalMart), so between work and school, I’m lucky to see him the few days I do. We’ve never been able to see each other for holidays or special events, like back when we thought it was cute to celebrate our “month anniversaries”. We’d been together a year before we ever spent any time together. I really hate his job, but I am thankful he has one, even if the pay is crap and he never gets time off… I still wish he would have taken that other job offer back in high school, instead of going to work with the devil. But listen to me, I sound like a whiny baby compared to some of you other bees… I don’t think I’m as strong as some of you…

     

    ETA: I think it effects our relationship in good and bad ways. It’s good because we aren’t together all of the time, and when we get married we’ll enjoy our time together as well as the time we spend apart. It’s bad because it’s difficult to plan anything when we really only have 1 day a week to talk about things. Like figuring out what days we’ll see each other on the holidays, which is usually never, and how we plan to exchange gifts since Fiance usually only has Thanksgiving Day and Christmas day off… He goes to work Christmas Eve and the day after Christmas… But anyway, it’s hard to try and cram quality time, planning things (wedding, holidays etc), and anything else we need to do in a 24 hour period.

    Post # 16
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    608 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    It depends on the time of year but usually every 5-6 weeks however the fall is very busy for both of us so  by they time we see each other at christmas it will have been 3 months.  Its hard when we have longer stretch because besides the time apart we are both busy which is why we see each other less. Its harder to make sure we stay connected with our busy schedules

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