Post # 1
My Fi and I have been friends for 17 years, been together for a little over 2, engaged for just about one, have our wedding planned for January 2019, and are expecting our first baby in October. Every now and then I like to remind him that I feel very lucky to have him and choose him every day, for the rest of forever. Of course, when we were in our honeymoon phase, we did this all the time. Now that we’re “deep” into this, with a baby on the way, I still randomly tell him these things, I’d say, a couple of times a month.
I don’t want the desire to tell him these things to ever fade. I think saying and hearing those things is important. I realize that there are peaks and troughs in every relationship but things have been pretty consistent and not one-sided. I get sweet messages from him a couple of times a month as well.
I want to know how long you’ve been with your SO, if you also do things like this, and how frequently.
Post # 2
Been together 8 years married for almost 2. I say I love you very often but beyond that for some reason I have a hard time with words of affirmation. It just feels awkward and forced even though I totally mean it. I think it’s way more in my head. He’s much better at it than me.
Post # 3
buzzerbeater : That’s okay. Words of affirmation may not be your preferred love language. Everyone has different ways of professing loved and different ways they prefer to receive love. It’s all subjective!
Post # 4
PrincessPeach13 : I am an extremely emotional person, and I love to talk about my feelings. I guess that is what 20+ years of therapy will give you…
I am very open with my feelings of deep love, abundance feeling of gratitude, and just like all the love that I have is over-flowing. Luckily for me, my husband is receptive to that kind of gushyness and lets me literally snuggle against him trying to get as close as possible cuz “I just love you so much”.
We’ve been together for ten years, married just over a year.
By the way, If you’ve never seen Catana Comics, it’s a super cute comic of what feels like my life.
Post # 6
Words of affirmation are definitely one of my main love languages, so I say I love you a lot (multiple times per day) and also more in-depth gushing stuff pretty frequently. FH is certainly less open about his feelings (although he does reciprocate), but that’s fine. We’ve been together for 4 and a half years and due to be married in a couple of months.
Those catana comics are so my life too.
Post # 7
We do this sometimes! It’s always sponteneous, probably only every month or so, but suddenly one of us will just say something like “I love you so much, you’re so important to me” or something like that when we’re having a nice time together. We actually don’t say “I love you” super often – usually only when one of us is leaving for a trip that the other isn’t coming on or in a warm moment like that, so it still kinda melts my heart to hear it.
We’ve been together almost four years, married a little over one with a baby due in Nov.
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Post # 9
Probably several times a day, a least and we are getting married next year but have been together 9 years.
Post # 10
Everyday. Married 4 years together for 6. He needs this more than I do but he gives it pretty frequently too. I get an I love you text after he gets to work every day like clockwork & he always makes little comments when we’re together. Just his nature.
Post # 11
I tell my husband I lov him many times during the day and I tell him how much I appreciate him and what he does for our family at least 3 times a week. We got married last month, been together for 4 and have a 3 year old son. We have a wonderful house and I’m able to stay home with our son all because of him. I never want him to think I take him for granted. I’m lucky enough to such a wonderful amazing man that wants to spend forever with me.
Post # 14
Words of affirmation are not my love language. I don’t need to hear how great you think I am- just take out the trash please.
Edited to add, I do tell him fairly often that I’m appreciative of him
Post # 15
eeniebeans : Lololol I hear you on the trash! Personally I would like to hear how great I am and have the trash taken out, as well as receive loads of gifts on the reg. Physical touch and quality time are also appreciated. What can I say, I am a love language whore.