How Often Do You Give Your SO Words of Affirmation?

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Helper bee

Been together 4 years. Both use words of affirmation every day.

Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

PrincessPeach13 :  We tell each other whenever they pop into our heads. Sometimes it’s a thoughtful text message, other times we’re physically close (cuddling) and it just feels right. My husband has been amazing lately as we’re TTC for our first child and I’m an emotional, hormonal ball of anxiety. I let him know how much I appreciate him for being understanding and taking good care of me and that it makes me want to have a baby with him even more 🙂 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

We’ve been togegther over 2 years, living together over a year and engaged for just over a month. We do this with each other pretty much daily. Like you, I hope it never fades. 🙂

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

We’ve been together about 3 years and we do this daily.  Words of affirmation is definitely one of my love languages, so I do more so – I tell him I love him every night when we’re going to sleep, and every few days I tell him something more specific about why I’m so crazy about him.  He initiates something like that every few days or weekly, too. I make sure he knows how nice it is to hear.  Hopefully we’ll stay this way for many years to come <3

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

2.5 years engaged since april of this year.

everyday even in simple things like ‘thanks for picking me up today’ or ‘thanks for emptying the dish washer’, ‘thanks for feeding the cats’. LOL 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I tell my husband “I love you” probably at least 5  times a day lol Then I randomly tell him how much i appreciate him and appreciate things he does multiple times a week.  

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

We’ve been together 3 years now.

We’ve never been super lovey dovey in terms of words. We’re always giving each other little kisses, cuddling, touching, little squeezes, etc, but we’re not much for expressing ourselves with flowery or gushing language. We don’t say “I love you” very often, although he has been telling me he loves me almost every day recently, which is very different from usual (we’re getting engaged soon so I’m pretty sure that’s why lol). We often say things like “you’re so cute.”

We do express our appreciation for each other daily. Every time I cook dinner for him or even heat up leftovers, he’ll say something like, “Mmm this is so good, thanks my dear.” When he washes the dishes after dinner, I always thank him. When one of us takes out the trash, we thank the other person for doing that. If one of us cleans up a room or does the laundry or whatever, we’ll thank the other person. We’re very open about our appreciation. We don’t have big speeches where we’ll go on about how much we appreciate the other person and thank them for everything they do in general and all that, but we do express our appreciation as things come up in our daily lives. So I definitely feel appreciated and loved by him, and I know he feels the same from me.

I would say our love language is more the physical closeness, acts of service, and quality time together. I think our “words of affirmation” is more about recognizing that the other person did an act of service as a way of expressing our love.

Post # 38
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Helper bee

SO’s love language is tied between quality time and words of affirmation while words is my lowest. For a while I felt like something was off on his end like he wasn’t satisfied so we took the love languages test. Our results made me realize I wasn’t giving him enough words of affirmation because they don’t do much for me. Now I do my best to give him affirmations every day, multiple times a day if I remember! 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee

Every day. My husband is a big suck and it’s helped me open up and be more verbal about my feelings as well. We’ve just been together 3 years total, married for one. 

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Greenspot Farms

I am not a mushy gooey person and I struggle with this. However when I feel like I’ve been extra critical I leave love notes or encouragement in his lunch box. 

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Pretty much every day. We’re still in the googly-eyed honeymoon phase (I don’t think we’ll ever grow out of it). Life has already thrown us curveballs, but we always remind each other of how appreciative we are of our relationship. 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I’m an emotional person and have a hard time talking about positive feelings without getting choked up lol so we dont do big mushy gushy speeches. We say “I love you” everyday, more than once usually. I tell him I appreacite him and we thank each other for doing even the most basic things like taking out the garbage or emptying the dishwasher. We’re both much more into physical touch & acts of service, which is super cool to have a partner who has the same LL as you!

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

We say “I love you” every morning, every night and every time one of us leaves the house – it’s just part of the routine now, but it isn’t meaningless. In the morning we have a hug and a kiss before I leave (and then pick up the jealous pupper and have a family hug).

We aren’t overly sappy, but we do make one another feel wanted and appreciated in a variety of little ways, and we often express our gratitude for the other partner’s support, understanding, etc.

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