Post # 1
I was just talking to Darling Husband about this. We don’t have a lot of extra free time, but when we do we usually plan a date night or a “stay at home” night. However, if my friends or his friends want to hang out, we usually don’t accompany each other. Just because I know I hate it when my friend literally ALWAYS brings her boyfriend out with us, and his friends probably don’t want a wife hanging around while they’re jamming and drinking beer. However, if there’s a group going out of at least, like, 6, we’ll go together because then it’s just not as awkward. What does everyone else do? Do you only go out together? Or do you socialize separately?
Post # 3
@QueenOfSerendip: we do a little of both. Like you said, if it’s a bigger group of mixed gender, then we’ll go together. If it’s clearly an all girls or all guys night, we’ll do seperate once in awhile. Generally, we prefer to spend time together if we can because our free time is so limited due to his job, but we try to go out seperately at least once a month.
Post # 4
@QueenOfSerendip: DH games with his friends about once a month, but it’s an all day thing. He also goes to his sculpting group from Meetup about once a month.
I hang out with my friends about once every couple weeks, and then I have a women’s Meetup group once a week. So I go out without Darling Husband way more often than Darling Husband goes out without me! He is not as social as I am.
But we hang out with mutual friends or our mutual Meetup groups maybe 2 times a week? Something like that!
Post # 5
@mrshunnybunches: It sounds like you guys are like us! For us, it’s all about feeling out the situation… like, I would never bring him to a girls’ lunch, and he wouldn’t bring me to a jam session. But a friend’s party? Of course. It’s a fine line between “close” and “smothering” and it’s always hard to stay on the right side! 🙂
Post # 6
To socialize? Like once or twice a week.
In general? A lot. It often makes more sense to divide the list of places we need to drop by for whatever reason than to both go everywhere together. We still end up spending a lot of time together though, and usually go out for a date night together about 2 times per week, and go out socially together about once every 2 weeks.
Post # 7
@QueenOfSerendip: date nights, about one every couple of weeks.
separately, about one every couple of months. i like to go to the club with my friends about once every two months or so (sometimes once a month), but my social circle is comprised almost entirely of gay men, and Fiance doesn’t want to go to gay clubs, get drunk and dance his face off, lol!
Post # 8
We usually socialize separately a few times a month. I could never be one of those couples that never spends any time apart! My girl time, though few and far between these days due to all of our crazy schedules is super important!
Post # 9
@QueenOfSerendip: We have noticed that, when we are invited to things, it’s always an invite for both of us. I think it would depend on what the activity was to determine if we both went or only one…baby shower? that’s gonna be just me :-p but a happy hour, I’m pretty confident he’d bring me along.
Post # 10
About half and half. On a typical weekend, maybe we’ll do something together one night, apart the next night. Or like I’ll do lunch w/ a friend while he goes to soccer and then we do dinner and a movie together. Or sometimes we’ll spend all weekend together, but then the next weekend I’ll be in a completely different state celebrating a friend’s birthday. It’s definitely a mix. Most of the time it’s not that the other isn’t invited, they just would have no interest. We do occassionally go out w/ each other’s groups, but frankly I have no interest in watching sports and he has no interest in belting showtunes at karaoke and it’s nice to have our own friends and our own interests.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Most of the time we socialize as a family (Mr. LK, teen LK, and I). Given the choice of time with other people or time together, we choose time together. But that’s what happens when you only get to see eachother (awake) for about 2.5 hours a day during the week, and then spend your weekends doing yardwork on opposite ends of 5 acres. It makes time together so very precious. I plan ladies-only nights with my girlfriends about once every three months. We all have husbands, kids, jobs, etc., and that’s about as frequently as it works for our schedules. I miss my ladies, but it is what it is.
Post # 12
We socialize seperately about 80% if the time. We live together, I like going out. Typically, he would much rather stay home (and entertain there). I mostly make plans after work with my friends (drinks, dinner, movie or working out). Then I come home and hang with him. On weekends, we hang out and will go out of as couple (lets say to eat once or twice month) or we’ll have friends over. I’m much more social than he is. Thankfully, he’s secure and doesn’t stop me from being who I am, or expects me to not go out because it isn’t his thing.
Post # 13
We rarely go out on the weekends without eachother. During the day I’ll meet up with girlfriends for coffee, or at the gym, and I’ll run my errands alone. But we never leave the other one at home and go out without them for dinner or anything like that. We don’t have a ton of free time, and we are planning on starting a family soon, so we try to take advantage of date nights now while we still have them!
One thing is that he has to work evenings on the weekends every couple of months. Sometimes I will make plans with my girlfriends on those weekends.
I know we are different than a lot of couples that we don’t really ever want to spend time without eachother, but it works for us! 🙂
Post # 14
We usually do separate things with friends. Like if I’m going out with my friends, he will take advantage and go do something with his. We both agree that we have more fun alone with our friends instead of worrying if the other person is having a good time, understanding the inside jokes, etc.
Post # 15
We are probably one of those couples that people shake their heads at because we spend almost all of our free time together.
I play soccer 3 times a week and he rarely comes with me to that. While I’m out, he’s usually doing things around the house or picking something up at the store.
Every month or two I visit with a good girlfriend of mine (long distance) and that’s a chance for her and I to gab one-on-one. If our guys are around, they’ll say hello but they know to leave us alone 🙂
I have tried to encourage my SO to spend some time with one friend of his in particular who seems to want to see him more often, but he doesn’t seem to want to go out with him without me. I think it MAY have to do with the fact that this friend is single and still a bit wild. I hope that friend doesn’t hate me for it but there’s nothing I can do to convince my SO otherwise!
Otherwise, we love going out with each others friends together. It was a struggle at first, being the “outsider” but I have now established my own place in his group of friends as he has in mine.
Post # 16
You guys sound like us.. what you descibed is pretty much what we do as well. We love spending time together but we’re separate people too, and appreciate our time to socialize solo.