Post # 1
My FH and I only have sex once a week, sometimes less. We live together, don’t have kids, but have different schedules. I would like to have it much much more but he is content not to. Are there others out there who want sex more than their partners? What do you do about it? Should we make a specific date/time to have sex? Is once a week normal?
Post # 3
I think every couple is different. Does once a week feel like it isn’t enough for you? How does FH feel?
For us, it used to be at least once a day. Since I developed some medical problems that have totally taken away my energy, it’s about 3-4 times a week. Even though I’m exhausted, I miss it. Hubby is suffering, as well… especially since he ISN’T tired. I think we need to start making dates for sex, as you mentioned. :-X
Post # 4
About once a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. However, we have really similar drives, and this is plenty for us. We both feel satisfied. Some people want more or less frequent sex, so really it’s about finding your groove as a couple.
Post # 5
Depends. Once a week is pretty norm for us. It’s been about 2 weeks for us though because of our schedules.
Post # 6
We have sex almost every day. And I’d say about 95% of the time, I’m totally up for it, but there are nights that he’s way more excited about it than I am, but unless I’m just not feeling well or am completely exhausted, if he starts making his “moves” 😉 I let him.
Have you tried spicing things up with FH? Like maybe be in the process of cooking him dinner as he’s getting off work, but only wearing the apron…Or offer to give him a back/neck rub and in the middle of it start kissing him in the places you know he likes…Or grab him as you’re passing in the hallway and push him up against the wall and start kissing him passionately…or surprise him with a BJ when you feel yourself getting into the mood to get him onto your level…just a few suggestions! Be spontaneous and shock him a little 😉 I hope things get better for you!
Post # 7
Once a week isn’t normal for us, we work totally different schedules & have a 4yr old. We find the time. Every week is different, last week we had sex 5 days in a row (once or twice each night). This week 3 nights. Usually id say at least every other night unless he’s like dead to the world tired. At most we might go 4days (if he works an 80hr week), then it’s like a sex fest to make up for lost time lol.
Post # 8
Almost everyday but it also depends if hes away working away from home.
Post # 9
@bellaselwyn: almost every day, sometimes more than once a day. We do live together and work different schedules but we’re very intimate and big on physical affection and just love having sex with each other lol. I will say that I am always in the mood, and some days could go for it four or five times, but I don’t feel like that all of the time, and FI more than meets my needs.
Post # 10
Around once a week these days. I think we’d both like to have it a little more often but I basically never decline, so neither of us is discontent enough to make any serious changes.
Post # 11
@bellaselwyn: Sometimes I’m seriously blown away by the amount of sex people are having! I can’t even imagine having the time or energy to have sex every day! But … Maybe I’m just old. I could do that when I was 21/22 … Now just a few years later at 28, I’m much busier (as is my fiance), much more tired, and my sex drive has dramatically decreased. Awesome. (And, for what it’s worth, we live together, don’t have kids, and have somewhat similar schedules [though his will be changing in a couple of months].)
But, to answer your question, I’d say once a week is pretty normal for us. Last week I think we had sex twice, but this week we haven’t had sex at all. Recently we went 3 weeks or so without just because I wasn’t feeling it.
It really does differ from couple to couple (and can even change over time, as my fiance and I used to have sex a lot more frequently). His sex drive is definitely higher than mine, so I feel bad that I’m not always up for it. If he had it his way, we’d definitely be doing it at least once a day! I think the only thing that works for us is talking openly about how we’re feeling regarding sex. He’s never once pressured me. If he brings it up and I’m obviously not into it, he’ll just masturbate or go without.
I think making “sex dates” is totally fine. I think a lot of people do this. We do it on occasion, particularly if we haven’t had sex in a while.
Post # 12
About once a week.. that is enough!
Post # 13
We usually have it 1-2 times a week. Before I got pregnant, I wanted it probably 4 times a week, but now I’m basically not wanting it at all. It fluctuates for us.
Post # 14
About 3 times a week. Our schedules are pretty different because I work 8-5 M-F and he works retail, so his work schedule changes every week.
Post # 15
About 3-4 times a week is pretty normal for us, but it does fluctuate depending on schedules and everything. I think this post just shows how different all couples are–whatever works for you, go with it 🙂
Post # 16
Thanks everyone! It sounds like every couple is different so we just need to find what works for both of us and keeps us happy and satisfied.