(Closed) How often do you have sex with your partner?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Married couples...how often do you have sex with your husband per week?

    once

    twice

    three

    four or more

  • Post # 47
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We have sex just about every day.  Sometimes more than once a day.  We may skip a day here and there, but if we do it isn’t usually more than 1 day a week.  Unless I have my period, then we skip 2-3 days…which is sooooo hard to do!  We both love sex.  We both have a high sex drive.  This is the best sex I’ve ever had in my life with anyone and he says the same about me.  I guess it was meant to be!

    Post # 48
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    Wannabee

    Gosh I am so jealous. I am engaged and we only have sex once or twice a month. I don’t know why. I try so hard to initiate it but he always pushes My hand away and jokes. At night he is too tired. It makes me want to cry because I feel like he isn’t attracted to me. I am so jealous of you couples who have sex every night. I just feel sometimes he doesn’t want me. 

    Post # 49
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    Helper bee

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    @emthebrave:  My SO has the same schedule which leads to the same problems!  And it doesn’t help that I’m about to start working a full time job with an inconsistent schedule (yay for being a waitress -_- hoping for an 8-5 office job though *fingers crossed*) AND continue to work on my bachelor’s degree (online -_-).

    We try to schedule it but something always comes up.  Like… we don’t have enough time to get to my house, have sex, and get him home (I live anywhere from 10 to 30 mins away depending on traffic) because he has to be home because some extra homework popped up or this or that or he ate something he shouldn’t have and doesn’t feel good (then he ends up feeling fine just as soon as we don’t have enough time. figures.) or his allergies are acting up (this is not turning out to be a very kind Spring in Virginia) or his knee is having a flare up.  Not stuff he can control for the most part but it’s still a bit frustrating.  And I can never say no to him because I feel like it happens so rarely that what he says on a Tuesday (plans for sex on the next available day, typically Wednesday/ Thursday/ Saturday) actually happens come the end of the week, I can’t miss the opportunity.  Not that I ever have to force myself to want sex (or that he has to force himself on me) or anything, but it usually ends up as an “eh, sure, what the hell, let’s have sex, why not” kind of situation than when my desire is at its peak- and we usually don’t have the time to really get worked up.

    Post # 50
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @msfahrenheit:  You’re not the only one! Between us both being super busy, me dealing with depression and us living separately, we only have sex a few times a month.

     

    Post # 51
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I just read an article that while money is the number one thing couples fight over, intimacy is the number one reason newyweds divorce in the first 2yrs and/or cheat Undecided. We are at 1x a week, although he would like it 4x a week. Need to work on compromising a bit more lol.

    Post # 52
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @kitcat12:  I feel your pain! I’m 53 and FI is 37 and I thought he’d be the “hungry” one but I’m sitting up here late into the night after a kind of fight about our lack of frequency. Everyone gives me the wink & nod that I must be getting some amazing action with my “young man”. I understand tired and stressed out but for me, sex is a great stress reliever. I don’t understand it. I’m sick of reading about how men think about sex all the time and I’m the one who’s frustrated!

    Post # 53
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    Bumble bee

    You are not alone! I feel like I have the sex drive of a 17 year old boy! I definitely want it more than him. SO just said last night its normal for couples to start off having sex a lot in the beginninng then not so much…I then told him I didn’t want to be normal.

    Post # 54
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    depends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Sometimes every day, twice day..sometimes once a week!

    Post # 55
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Ugh we were just talking about this yesterday! I have a crazy high sex drive but we are both incredibly busy so most weeks it’s 3-4 but this month it’s been like once a week,with us being apart or exhausted. Booooooo.

    Post # 56
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    He usually wants more than me. I he had it his way we’d be having sex 5-6 times a week. Early on in the relationship we had sex ALL the time. I’m talking multiple times a day! Now that we live together and we both have stressful jobs so when I get home at night I’m just too tired. We usually have sex on the weekends. And we also go through phases where we go back to constant sex and then other times we go a couple weeks without. 

    Post # 57
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    There should be a ‘I wish more often..but..’ option.. because that’s what I would pick

    Post # 58
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    This is making me feel a lot better…we have it at least 3 times a week, usually 4 or 5, and I can tell it kind of bothers my husband. He never says anything but seems all disappointed and long-suffering. During the summer, we had it every day, sometimes twice a day, but now we’re in school and I’m always stressed…it’s my senior year of college and there’s so much to do and I just can’t relax, so I don’t enjoy it as much… But we still have it more than most people! He can’t complain! haha

    Post # 59
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Im so glad that ONCE is the most popular. We used to have sex ALL the time. We have been togther 4 years and engaged for nearly one. Just recently all sex drive has gone from him and I am wanting sex all the time but he is ‘too tired’ and pushes me away which really hurts. I was upset about this last night wondering what to do. If our sex drives are so different now what is it gonna be like when we are married???

     I hope it is just cause he is tired and stressed through work. he does like 12 hr days and has  to get up at 5am, When we are on vacation we are at it like rabbits and we do go through phases of more sex every now and then. He said I made it worse by bringing it up all the time. This made me a bit angry. I love him like crazy u cant blame me for wanting him all the time!!!!!!

    i have been brought up to think that men want sex all the time so this is just a bit shocking for me.. is this normal guys!!?

     thanks

    Post # 60
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    @braverbeating:  I totally understand this i dont wanna be a normal couple either x

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