Post # 1
How often (and through what methods of communication) do you keep in contact with your friends? I’ve been to a lot of different schools and lived in different places (mostly during my 20s). Now that I’m in my 30s (and especially since planning the wedding), life has definitely shifted. I value the friendships I’ve made along the way but never feel like I’m keeping in touch enough…
Post # 3
@babycakes24: I can’t see the poll, but I think it just depends on the friendship. I have been talking to my girlfriends more often since I started wedding planning, but before that it was maybe once a week, either through email, facebook, or texts/calls. My friends are pretty low maintenance, so if I forget to call or write more frequently, they don’t take it personally.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Depending on the friendship I text/call at least weekly. Some people is only a text/meet-up a couple times a year
Post # 5
I have a couple friends that I know will always be there if I ever needed them but we rarely ever talk. I have one friend who lives in the same town as I do and we talk a couple times a week but she is the only one I really talk to.
Post # 6
I’m terrible at keeping in contact with my friends. I have friends all over the world. Calling is pretty much out for some and well I’m not on facebook so I pretty much either email, skype, and msg ppl on Google chat, or BB or whatsapp. Luckily my friends are low maintenance so its pretty much only for special occasions or important stuff.
Post # 7
Best friends, we text daily.. and all throughout the day.. other close friends at least once a week we talk.
Post # 8
Since the New Year, I’ve been thinking a lot about this…I think I need to start reaching out more (even if just by text or email), at least just to see how people are. Since I’m among one of the last of my friends to settle down and have kids, I often feel that people are too busy doing their own thing (not to mention I have several friends that live out of state…which doesn’t go to say it’s “out of sight, out of mind,” but we do k.i.t. less because we’re not seeing each other as often).
Post # 9
My BFF lives many states away. I talk to her/email once a week or so but we’re lucky if we see each other once a year. My best friend here I see every day as we teach together (literally together as in teach the same class together. I spend more time with her than with FI). Other GF’s it depends – mainly on if I have anything to say, text or email once every couple of weeks when all I have to say is that I went to work and came home 🙂 If there is somehtng to talk about, it’s more frequent
Post # 10
My closest friend, every day – mostly through g-chat or texts. My close friends definitely weekly (again an e-mail or text) We talk on the phone or see each other about once a month!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I talk to my friends on FB chat every couple of days, although it depends on the type of friendship I have with that person. I text them if something comes up that I want to talk with them about right away (:
Post # 12
I may also be more focused on this as the wedding invites are going out some time in the next couple months. If it were me, I would find a way to make it to a friend’s wedding (if I had the means) regardless of how often we communicate…it would be based on the fact that they have held a special meaning/part in my life somewhere along the way. Anyone else ever think of this?
Post # 13
My BFF lives 35 miles away and we see each other maybe once a month and talk through FB and sometimes text, but not nearly that often.
Post # 14
it depends. some of my friends and I talk daily/almost daily, others are more weekly/biweekly, some go months without talking to each other but pick up right where we left off when we do talk/see each other.
Post # 15
I agree that it’s hard to keep in touch with friends as much as they want me to and in fact as much as I want to myself. Life is just so busy and unless you see each other incidentally anyway, it can be hard to keep it a regular thing.
I lost one (single) friend because seeing her approximately once a week was not enough for her (and I didn’t tell her, but it was slightly too frequent for me). I explained to her that it wasn’t that I was seeing other people more, she was a high priority for me, but this is just how often I socialize, but she wasn’t having it… her work friends went out with her several times a week, so obv. they were “better” friends. I told her I totally understood that she sees ppl more often than me (and I figured that since she’s not bored at home when I don’t see her, it would be less of a burden on her that I don’t come out as often as she wants). But no, she kept pushing for it and got angry, so the friendship fell apart.
This thread makes me think of a spin-off…
Post # 16
thanks for sharing that. It reminds me that our expectations don’t always match up with others. None of my friends have mentioned that we don’t talk enough or complained about it…I think I used to be the one to reach out more and now I am not (busy with career and with wedding planning). My friends in the same/similar career and/or life position seem to be on the same page without our really talking about it. But with other friends, I wonder if they have feelings about our frequency (or lack thereof) of communication and just haven’t said much…I do often wish that I wasn’t always the one reaching out all the time….mmmm…more food for thought!