(Closed) How often do you or your DH/SO hang out with friends?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@mtbikelover:  Exactly. We don’t have kids but we have priorities that don’t involve going out separately on a weekly basis. It just wouldn’t work for us. 

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We hang out seperately probably once every couple weeks or so. Sometimes we are both invited but one of us just doesn’t feel like joining. When his friends get together they talk about nothing but the film industry which I don’t work in so I’m very happy to just stay home and enjoy having the apartment to myself, or make plans with my girlfriends. And of course the occasional girls night is essential!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We basically have one core group of friends (guys and girls) we hang out with most of the time, so usually we are together when seeing friends.  Maybe once or twice a month DH will go up to visit one or two of the guys and stay the night, and I have a couple girl friends from pre-DH days I see several times a year, plus my cousin, sister and mom do ‘girl nights’ once a month or so.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

About 1-4 times a month, I’d say.  Between his day job and hobby business, he works almost every day, so he likes to spend all his free time with me – especially since we don’t live together yet. 

I probably hang out with my friends more than he does with his, since his best friends don’t live in our city.  But once in a while they’ll have guys’ nights, or he’ll go to the pub with some work buddies.  I have friends that I *try* to see once a month, but all in one-on-one situations, and it doesn’t happen every month.  So 1-4 times per month each, on average.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I see my friends at least once a week.  FI never really goes out without me.  But he goes to the gym two nights a week and is sometimes gone for work until late in the evening.  His absence doesn’t bother me – I feel like it’s nice for us to have alone time.  But every couple’s different.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We each probably only go out once or twice a month. Its not that we wouldn’t go out more, just to hard to actually get our schedules to work out with friends. Some weeks are obviously more. I can see how it would be frustrating though if him going out many times happened a lot. We’re both such homebodies that we don’t run into that to often.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Daizy914:  My Fiance and I live 2 hours apart and see each other every weekend. Basically every time I’m visiting him we hang out with friends together. He sees his friends alone, obviously since I’m not there, sometimes 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes none, just depends. If we lived together I would totally see my friends alone more often because it wouldn’t matter if I didn’t hang out with him for an evening because I’d see him all the time. I don’t imagine I’ll have an issue with him spending a few evenings with his friends without me. I’m really independent though and like alone time.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Daizy914:  Not often. I will occasionally grab lunch with a friend and in the summer he goes golfing like once a month with his buddies. It’s not that we don’t let each other, most of our friends are married with kids or in a similar situation so the opportunity to hang out isn’t always around. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We almost always just hang out or go out with each other.  I’ve done very sporadic outings with co-workers (think – once a year, maybe twice) and he goes to lunch every once in a great while with a buddy, but we don’t really have any friends here and prefer each other’s company anyhow.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Daizy914:  Hmmm…that would annoy me too. We spend about 80% of our time together or with his family. Every so often he will go hunting with his buddies or I will go shopping with a girlfriend (though I much prefer shopping alone and do that more often). Most of the time when we hang out with friends we do it together…like dinners out with other couples. And it is never, ever during the week. I can’t remember the last time either of us went out on a weekenight, either alone or together. Weeknights are pj’s and tv and cuddles and sex nights.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@MrsPanda99:  We are exactly the same way. Yep I know a ton of people who will say it is unhealthy but guess what? My parents AND his parents have the same relationship and they have each been married almost 40 years. Being apart for the workday is enough for us too. Not to mention he works out of town at a camp full of men 2 weeks a month so when he is home you better believe we are together non-stop.

Post # 28
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Helper bee

 I usually try to go out once a week with one of my friends and I wish he would do the same because I would like to have a evening at home every now and then.  About once a week we do a group hangout but because its winter and freezing here our time out is limited and that has been almost all the going out we do.

A couple times a year there are weeks where one of us will have 3-4 outings that week and thats ok but I think if it happened more friequently neither one of us would like it very much!

Post # 29
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Daizy914:  I go out with my friends alone maybe 2-3 times a month. Not weekly but not rarely. He almost never goes out with friends alone. In fact, in the 15 months we’ve been together I think he’s gone out without me all of 3 times. 

To be fair, the vast majority of his friends live 2 hours away in a city we both love and they’re all married to awesome women I love to hang out with. So him driving down there alone would be a whole day with people I want to hang out with, too; whereas me hanging out alone with my friends is a few hours of girltalk he’d mostly be left out of anyway. 

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Maybe a few times a month…depends on when there are birthdays and such. Him, not as much since he moved overseas to be with me, so 95% of his friends are back in England. We have a lot of mutual friends and every once in a while he will go to a sporting event with them or something.

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Never.

We haven’t met any new friends since we moved to TX 2 years ago.

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