Post # 1
Fiance and I were extremely lucky to have the opportunity to move back to our home town in January and now we are 10 minutes from his parents, 20 minutes from mine, and I am absolutely loving it! Once a week I go over to my parents and my mom and I have what we call “mommy daughter days” which usually involves take out mexican food and a movie. My fiance sees his parents about twice a month, and sometimes we see either set of parents together but it’s hard to work something out since I work nights and he works days.
Last night he said something that surprised me. When he was in college he would see his parents once every 4 months or so, and he went to school about 15 minutes away from them! (Yes, he easily could have lived at home but he wanted the experience of living on his own. Personally I would have saved my money but eh). I went to school 2 hours away and would either go home every weekend or my parents would drive up to see me. I can’t imagine going 4 months without seeing them!
Out of curiosity I started going through my phone and realized in the last 3 months I’ve had some sort of communication with my mom every day, whether it’s a 90 minute phone call about life or a text asking how to safely defrost a chicken. Now I’m curious, if you live close to your parents how often do you see them? And if you live far, how often do you call/text?
Post # 2
I talk to mine once daily on the phone and see them once a week. Perhaps twice a week if its Christmas, Easter, birthdays, etc. They live about 25 minutes away by car. SO talks to his via skype about three days per week. His parents are in Europe.
Post # 3
We recently moved back to our hometown and we/I (sahm) see my mom/parents daily and DHs every week/fortnight. IL’s still rely on us communicating with them and visiting them almost every time.
Post # 4
My in laws live behind us so everyday. Parents live half an hour away so not as much. It’s hard as my husband gets so sick of my parents. He doesn’t agree with their thinking and i dont blame him! I message mum a lot during the day. I’m from a big family so doubt she notices if she hasn’t seen me in a while.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2006 - UK
Text my dad everyday and see him at least once a month. My auntie n gran I see ome a month at least but don’t call or text much.
I couldn’t imagine not seeing my people’s for 3/4 months. But my husband is like that. He doesn’t really communicate or see is family except for like birthdays and Christmas lol
Post # 6
I see my parents everyday in the week as I work a road away from their place, my husband drops me off in the morning and I take a walk across when work starts.
My husband works with his dad, so he sees him everyday in the week as well.
We usually reserve Saturdays to get things done such as shopping, cleaning, relaxing and spending time with each other.
On a Sunday we have lunch at his dad’s place with his gran and brother, and we sometimes go up in the afternoon to visit my parents where my husband will watch football with my dad.
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
I live about 40 minutes from my parents house, and work 5 minutes away. I generally pop in after work once every 2-3 weeks, depending on what else is going on, and my husband and I will see them for dinner on a Sunday maybe once every 5-6 weeks. I text or email my mum once or twice a week.
With Mother-In-Law, we go over every Saturday and make her lunch, and my husband and his sister each go for coffee another day during the week.
His mum is in her 80s and fairly frail, so we tend to see her much more than my mum, who’s in her 50s and very fit and active. One of the oddities of an age difference relationship is his mum being the same sort of age as my grandparents.
Post # 8
I visit my dad once every other week or so. He doesn’t do phones or email, so we just talk when we see each other or my sister (who lives with him) tells me things via text.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2019 - UK
I live in a different country then my parents and I try and Skype once a week, sometimes I text my mother almost daily other times I don’t text at all. It depends whats going on in life. If I have been very busy and its been over two weeks that I have not communicated with my parents I will get a text from my father saying “call your mother”.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2020 - New Hampshire
I’m jealous of how close you all are! I live over 3,000 away from my mom and stepdad. Don’t talk to my real father. I try and talk to my mom once a week but she’s not really responsive. BFs mom lives about two hours away and we see her a couple times a year. His dad and stepmom used to live 15 min away and we saw them all the time but now they live 2,000 miles away so it’s been a while!
Post # 11
We live half an hour our way from both of our parents. I speak to mum a once or twice a week either by text or phone call and see my mum and dad once or twice a month. My fiancée speaks to her parents more frequently, but can go a couple of months in between visits.
Post # 12
I speak with/message my mum almost everyday. (We video call twice a day so my toddler can say good morning and good night but I don’t really count them because my mum and I don’t really speak in those calls!)
I see my mum a couple of times a year. She lives 8 hours away.
My dad, I message every week ish but he is rubbish at replying. He calls when he’s bored! I see him a little more often than my mum as he’s only 4 hours away and lives fairly near my in laws.
I message my in laws once a week and see them 4 times a year ish. We video call occasionally for the toddler.(fortnightly ish?)
My husband never calls them and never messages. He sees them maybe once a year. I don’t think he’d know they were alive if it weren’t for my communication with them!
Post # 13
My parents live halfway around the country, so I see them usually once or twice a year. I speak with my mother every other day on the phone.
DH’s parents live 2.5 hours away. We see them about every three or four months, and Darling Husband talks to them probably once a week.
Post # 14
I live about 40 minutes away from my parents. I call them every evening and see them once a week.
Post # 15
I’m extremely close to my mom. We text throughout the day, and talk on the phone at least once a day. I know it’s cheesy, but as adults, she really is my best friend. If we were the same age and not related, we’d be cheesy chick flick level best friends. I text my dad at least 3-4 days a week, and talk to him through my mom (bluetooth in the car) a few times a week. They live 4 hours away, and I see them 1-2x a month, depending on what’s going on.
FI’s parents live in town, and we see them 1-2x a week. He talks to them on the phone an additional 1-2x a week. We have dinner with them every weekend. They’re retired, and keep fairly busy, so we actually house sit for them and their dog quite frequently too.
Family is important to us, so I’m glad that we have parents that we actually like as people.